MeadowLily

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  1. Recovery from owning all of the things can easily become a new religion and legalistic. Extremes beget extremes. This is the new thing and it may be amazing. Until it isn't. Wild swings back and forth, UP and down. It reminds me of the Grapes of Wrath. My greatgrandparents told me about the Great Depression. They were long lived people. Grandparents, parents. They did more with less and Bear's ancestors did, too. Some of them went out into the fields and ate dirt because they were so hungry. It was another trail of tears. Paw and his siblings had rickets from going days and days, months and months without much food. Finding our balance with food, belongings, shelter. It all comes down to having peace in our heart. In our final hours here on earth, the last thing you'll be thinking about is your possessions or whether your house was tiny enough or if your hiney was tiny. You will want all of your family around you. Holding your hand and speaking life unto your life. Be very careful what you say to others in their final moments. Tell them how much you love them.
  2. "You might think that someone else is your best friend...but they aren't." When you live in a sea filled with non-stop food rewards and you cannot control what comes into your house, you will have to remind yourself, talk to yourself, encourage and motivate yourself that you really are your best friend. Recovering alcoholics have to do the same thing. For real. A Dry Drunk white knuckles it with sheer willpower. It takes more than willpower and discipline to recover from addiction. We've lost another young person to addiction. We were UP all night long. Extremes beget extremes. Boredom begets, aids and abets addiction. So go ahead and throw away all of your belongings. Or not. Get rid of your connection with others if you think it will bring you peace. When you're all by yourself, alone, what then? We need each other. I'm not the same person I used to be on the first part of this journey. I no longer edit myself or delete my words. I blather and foam at the mouth. It helps me make order out of the rough seas of addiction, chaos, heartache and pain. It takes me to a place of hope, faith and Happy Awareness. Thanks for listening. Universe. Much Love. Tanto Amore.
  3. Recovery is what you make of it. It can be a boring routine or the beginning of a new life. Food Addiction Recovery is hard. So is remaining exactly the same. If you're exactly where you were 1 year ago, 2 years ago, 3 years ago, 4 years ago...you are not healed.
  4. Food Boredom = Dull Food Routines Constant exposure to deliberately engineered to be craved foods made out of 3 ingredients.... Sugar. Fat. Flour. The three items in every baked good and refined food changes the brain chemistry. That brain chemistry results in addiction. Trying to numb yourself out to food by eating the same things over and over and over again backfires. It comes with a mighty big bite. Starting over and over and over again after Relapsing over and over and over again All dieting all of the time Constant relapsing all of the time Constant restarts all of the time Is some cray cray shizz for the food addict. It does not stop binge eating, it adds to it. These are the routines of a food addict that affect the brain and body.
  5. Habituation with everything - food, exercise, routines, words, clothes is not good for your brain. Open. Mind. Insert. Possibilities. Think about it. A bored brain becomes dull.
  6. Habituation with food is not good for your health. Eat the widest variety for the Big WIN vs. dialing food down into 2 or 3 items. Food Addiction = Reward Driven Eating Food Addicts and food disordered are driven to eat the same foods. Has that changed everything for you then?
  7. http://www.rd.com/funny-stuff/annoying-phrases/ "Whatever" was voted the most annoying word. Know the most annoying phrase? "Thanks in advance". ^ This demeaning management phrase, often accompanying some unwanted assignment, is the polite corporate way of saying...... Next. "It is what it is." "At the end of the day" "Just sayin" And on it goes. Your end of the day may not look like mine. I mean, at the end of the day let there be no excuses, no regrets, no rationalizations, no explanations and without further ado, just go to bed.
  8. Are you good with remembering faces? Rather than focusing on the eyes, focus on the nose. That allows you take in the Whole Face. After all, it's not the size of the nose that matters...it's whats in it that counts.
  9. Those who are stuck in all of the same routines, day in and day out are 53% more like to edge up against Alzheimer's. Varying aspects of your environment - MUSIC, time of day, sitting, standing, location, location, location Your brain links whatever you are learning to the context around you. The greater the amount of contextual cues the more your brain has to draw upon. The greater the memory and your ability to learn. You can teach any dog of any age new tricks.
  10. Eating the same bowl of dog food day in and day out?
  11. Strike while the griddle is hot. Or not. When I walk away....Bing! When your past comes calling let it go to voicemail. It has nothing new to say. They say that motivation doesn't last. Neither does showering. That's why we take one every day. So get out there and blow the stink off of yourself. Much Love. Tanto Amore. Eclipse mania is ramping UP. I'll be at the grocery store for a Total Eclipse of the Cart.
  12. One more for the road because I've worked myself UP into Happy Awareness. There is no lasting glory in fast weight loss. Losing weight by a force of your will. Deprivation is the mother of failure. Whatever you choose to do yourself that is brutally strict right of the chute your body and mind will interpret that as punishment. Body and Mind will both rebel and turn on you. All-you- can-eat-bender, Dog Breath is hot on your heels. You will consume everything you've abstained from and more. Don't bring the food triggers or offenders home.
  13. I was a rebel from the day I left school Grew my hair long and broke all the rules I'd sit and listen to my records all day With big ambitions of where I could play My parents taught me what life was about So I grew up the type they warned me about They said my friends were just an unruly mob And I should get a haircut and get a real job Get a haircut and get a real job Clean your act up and don't be a slob Get it together like your big brother Bob Why don't you get a haircut and get a real job Overthinking everything. It's probably time to get a haircut and get a real job. Quit feeling sorry for yourself and stuck to the couch like a blob, Bob.
  14. Do you have any peace? If getting rid of all of your things will give you peace. You should do that. We are a product of our raising. But I wouldn't trade my Paw or his wisdom for all of the things. Bear's never been to Spain but I've been there. I've traveled all over Europe. I'm soooo glad I did. I've been to Oklahoma, too. Bear and I went to the end of the trail of tears. Tangible. The atmosphere will still make you fall on your knees and weep. You should go. It's not a theme park and you won't find all of the pesky tourists there. Your heart will be touched. You'll break... but in good way. I like history. All of the versions are interesting.
  15. Behold the elephant. Some say we should throw all of our possessions away and get rid of anything that connects us with others. That can easily become a very legalistic and religious way of thinking. This Happy Place, the half has not been told how much it's helped me. I am grateful for my W30 friends. How many possessions do you own. Are they the best versions of yourself. I'm not concerned with what I have because the only thing I'm taking with me is my spirit. My focus is on my innermost being rather than my outermost possessions that will rust and fade away. You choose, you decide. Throw all of your things away but tear down all of your walls, too. FOOD FREEDOM FOREVER It's not legalistic. We can create our own positive food management plan and break free from the Prison Food Menu. If you own tons and tons of elephants in your living room, go ahead and tell them goooooo. Remember to pull the dross out of your head, too. We've just got to use our heads besides something to part our ears with. Paw used to sleep under a tree. He went days and days without food as a child. He didn't become legalistic or make it a religious experience to return back to that way of living. Less is more but not when you're a starving man. I'm simply inspired. My things and foods don't define me. It's not my religion. I'm free. Is this not the path that was chosen to set this captive free?
  16. Oooooo, Felicias. There will be those who run after cars and lick the tires. They'll be patiently waiting for you by the door but they have one motive, too. Put that food in the dog bowl and I'll follow you anywhere. In the midnight hours when you're all alone, no one can do this for you. Let nothing deter you. Do not fall back into self-pity. You'll be headed for a Relapse. Your thank yous may not ever be forthcoming. You can't Recover from any addiction for the thank yous or pats on the back. No one is going to give you all of the rewards for no longer eating all of the things. Food Addiction is chronically rewarding yourself with food. If you're looking for more rewards from others and things. STOP. Food Addiction Recovery is not about more rewards. It is about replacing old destructive habits with positive new ones. I'll walk a mile in your shoes. That way, I'll be a mile down the road and have your shoes too. Then, I will shake the dust from my feet and keep tooling along. I ain't no quitter. The other day...these words flew right into my spirit. Tear Down This Wall. What's good for the goose is good for the gander. I'm tearing down all of my walls. That's what all of us need to do so we can Recover. Recovery is not easy. My spirit is the best part of me. It's always been free. I just had to let it rise to the top, along with hope and faith.
  17. "You might think that someone else is your best friend...but they aren't."
  18. Give your Food Addiction Recovery the attention it deserves. Recovery is my friend. "You might think that someone else is your best friend...but they aren't. Nobody supports you or wants you to succeed more than the person staring back at you." That friend has been kind enough to CARRY YOU and not complain." That friend is more than ready to assist you Encourage you Smile back at you As you move through the W30. Food Addiction Recovery Realize your BEST Friend dcducks
  19. Just stand UP for yourself and call it like it is. You don't have to go into big lengthy excuses or rationalization. Shorter is better. Tell them you're not touching that food or alcohol for 30 days or you're not touching it anymore. Period. Be nice but super firm with the "Pusher". Let them eat cake. Let them bawl their eyes out over it because you're not. If you can't get the "Pusher" to stop, you will have to avoid them in the future. Alcoholics and anyone in any kind of a recovery program, including food addiction, like me...we learn this as part of making our recovery stick. We remain strong for ourselves. No one can do this for you.
  20. Never let anybody take control of your nutritional decisions. Ever. The "Pusher" can be your maw, grandmaw, aunt, coworkers, clients, friends, fair weather friends or strangers. You have to stand your ground and be firm. Don't lie or tell fibs. It will all come back to bite you in the rearend. Don't concoct or devise imaginary medical conditions or make excuses for yourself. You will lose trust from others and it will make you feel like a fraud.
  21. Drink water like it's your job. Eat protein like you mean it. Prime the pump. Not the insulin pump.
  22. If you habitually push past your satiety boundary, you lose touch with your internal cues and the body's stop signs. This can throw you out there onto the road filled with a lifetime of binge eating, overcompensating with dieting and overrestriction. The narrower your way of eating, skipping meals every single day, eating only one meal at lunchtime can cause more emotional eating symptoms within hours. Skipping meals doesn't do a thing for your emotional or hormonal healing. Withholding food and dialing it down into a dog bowl filled with a few twigs of lettuce and a sprinkling of dog biscuits leads to more disordered behavior and repeated binges. Disordered behaviors and addiction crossover behaviors are not only about food. 1 in 4 Binge. Binge eating with corresponding compensation movement - more overrestriction = causes you to obsess about food or the crossover behavior. All of this alters the serotonin levels in the brain and makes a mess out of the dopamine receptors.
  23. I don't care who makes it or bakes it. No one has to live in my body. I'm not going to eat something to make someone else happy. Food rewards don't make me happy and being forced to eat them to make someone else happy gives me a really big pinch. Addiction = Addiction Do you shove a drink in the recovering alcoholic's hand and give them one more for the road as they drive home?