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  1. ladyshanny liked a post in a topic by MeadowLily in 1/2 CUPCAKE! HELP!   
    Never let anybody take control of your nutritional decisions. Ever.
    Use the W30 as your launching pad and springboard into the rest of your life. Master controllers often enjoy using food or drink, any other object/substance to control others because more than likely they're unable to master these areas in their own life. Stand strong. Others don't have to live in our body.
  2. ladyshanny liked a post in a topic by MeadowLily in 1/2 CUPCAKE! HELP!   
    Never let anybody take control of your nutritional decisions. Ever.
    Use the W30 as your launching pad and springboard into the rest of your life. Master controllers often enjoy using food or drink, any other object/substance to control others because more than likely they're unable to master these areas in their own life. Stand strong. Others don't have to live in our body.
  3. LisaZ liked a post in a topic by MeadowLily in Sugar sugar everywhere   
    My grandmaw had a pressure cooker.  She pressure cooked potatoes every night and my mother had those with some wild meat on the side.  That was about it.  For breakfast, she had one biscuit with bacon grease, nothing else all day long.  That's how they grew up and it was slim pickin's, overrestriction and not by choice.  Grandpaw worked but was paid once a month.  The grocery money barely lasted a week and the rest of the month, it was touch and go. 
    Now, I take care of my folks.  I make sure they have food on the table and they're not going without a cotton pickin' thing.  We cook one or two meals aday for them, the best food in the west.  I'm making up for lost time.  
    Good food can't fix everything but it's really important.  It's experiences like this that motivate me every day to make positive changes.  Thanks for listening. 
    One time, my grandpaw was so hungry, he ate a porcupine.  It was just awful, he said. 
  4. LisaZ liked a post in a topic by MeadowLily in Sugar sugar everywhere   
    My folkaronies still prefer it over real mayo, I grew up on that miracle whip, tang, sugar cereals and instead of lettuce...we used potato chips for the crunch on multi-crap white bread dirt sandwiches.
    What a heckuva way to grow up, huh.  It's no wonder I'm dealing with what I'm dealing with.  I  forgot to mention carnation instant breakfast, chocolate syrup dumped into milk and cheese ball pick-me-ups and gummy bears for dessert. 
    The more you know. 
  5. LisaZ liked a post in a topic by MeadowLily in Sugar sugar everywhere   
    My personal favorite is  what I call Plastic Fish..Imitation Crab  but I've called it plastic fish since forever.
    Alaska Pollock, Water, Egg Whites, Wheat Starch, Sugar, Corn Starch,Sorbitol, Contains 2% or Less of the Following: King Crab Meat, Natural and Artificial Flavor, Extracts of Crab, Oyster, Scallop, Lobster and Fish (Salmon, Anchovy, Bonito, Cutlassfish), Refined Fish Oil (Adds a Trivial Amount of Fat) (Anchovy, Sardine), Rice Wine (Rice, Water, Koji, Yeast, Salt), Sea Salt, Modified Tapioca Starch, Carrageenan, Yam Flour,Hydrolyzed Soy, Corn, and Wheat Proteins, Potassium Chloride,Disodium Inosinate and Guanylate, Sodium Pyrophosphate, Carmine, Paprika.
  6. MeadowLily liked a post in a topic by jmcbn in Melatonin   
    One thing I'd add here is that we don't recommend the long term use of melatonin as it can inhibit the body's ability to produce it by itself.
    Is there a reason that you take it other than to help with sleep - if not magnesium might be a better alternative & there are plenty of compliant options out there (original natural calm being the most widely used across the forums)? Do you practice good sleep hygiene?
  7. TexasMolly liked a post in a topic by MeadowLily in Did you find yourself sweeter and kinder after Whole30 reintro?   

     
    Put your armor on in the morning and you won't have to constantly fight the sugar dragon.
    Eat an extra special breakfast every day.
  8. TexasMolly liked a post in a topic by MeadowLily in Did you find yourself sweeter and kinder after Whole30 reintro?   
    Binge-ing is not a treatment for a food addiction.
     
    A compulsive connection to physical activity can become an addiction, too.
     
    Exercise can be a passion or a problem.  The problem isn't going to the gym or running....
     
    It's the addiction to the feeling that hours and hours of daily exercise are required to feel better about one's self.
     
    Exercise dependence can bring you more injuries than health boosts.  Exercise addiction amplifies anxieties.
     
    When exercise becomes all consuming....the passion becomes a problem.
     
     
    "Tolerance: Needing more and more of the activity to achieve its initial effects.
     
    Withdrawal: Increased agitation, fatigue, and tension when not exercising.“Intention Effect”:
     
    Exercising for longer than intended on most trips to the gym. Lack of control:
    Difficulty scaling back the duration and intensity of exercise.
     
    “Time Spent”: Funneling exorbitant chunks of our day and night towards fitness-related activities.
     
    Reduction of Other Pursuits: Avoidance of social engagements that don’t involve exercise, cancelling plans, or showing up late for work in order to exercise longer.
     
    Continuance Despite Injury: Not taking enough time off to heal despite your doctor repeatedly raising judgmental eyebrows."
     
     
     
     
    Refer to the Exercise Addiction Inventory, a shorter assessment tool designed by sports psychologist Mark Griffiths, Ph.D.
  9. TexasMolly liked a post in a topic by MeadowLily in Did you find yourself sweeter and kinder after Whole30 reintro?   
    If I could turn back time, I wouldn't have made so many smoothies.  For years, I made shakes a regular habit of mine.  They never filled me up.   The extra fruit I was adding elevated my blood sugar levels.
     
    I haven't missed one.   I now prefer a meal of an avocado, hard boiled eggs, tuna/chicken and vegetables.
     
    They may be easy and portable but they're more of a dessert than an actual meal.
     
    The only urge I have to shake things up lately...is telling others that smoothies slowed my metabolism.  The milk and whey protein precipitated the same insulin response that sugar did.  Everything I was putting into those smoothies was undermining my efforts to be really healthy.
     
     
           
  10. Jane3797 liked a post in a topic by MeadowLily in Suffering for years from "adrenal burnout"   
    It can take up to one year to recover from adrenal burnout, long term depletion. 
  11. LisaZ liked a post in a topic by MeadowLily in Day 17 and NO Results!!   
    I believe the best thing we can do is stay true to the spirit of the Whole 30. 
    I like giving honor to ISWF and the Whole 30 pioneers who've gone before me.  That includes the Boss, Mods - past and present and alumni that have given it their all.
    Those of us who've been here a few years have watched those who've dialed down a Whole 30 into a few chicken thigh bones and a spinach ball, never to be heard from again. 
    They had a chance at finding their pathway to healing but they did not listen to sound advice. They tried to combine all past dieting practices with a Food Reset program.  It doesn't work.  
    Change your gut and you can change your life.  I've known that since reading every manifesto and many threads on this forum. It's the key to everything.
    Out of your gut flow the issues of your life.  Fix that and everything will fall into place.  Mostly hormones but it's the silent autoimmune diseases and issues that people may not even know they have.  More dieting won't fix it.   More dieting will actually speed up the destruction of the thyroid gland.
    The most honorable thing we can do is quit coaching others strictly for the weight loss.  If that actually worked, the secret dieters would've found true lasting success, forever. They wouldn't need to keep starting over and over and over again.
    One diet, one time and it should solve everything.  It doesn't and it never will.  Focusing strictly on weight loss actually stops the weight loss.  The body and brain are connected. They are bent on survival.  You've got to throw the weight loss focus out with the bathwater.  Wash it on down the drain.  
    Don't give it another thought.  If all of the other things that people have done worked...they wouldn't be looking for a dieting hack.  It doesn't work.  Even a gastric bypass can't fix it...not long term, anyway.  The appetite control center is located in the brain, not the stomach.
    Start eating the template, 3 meals aday for 30 days.  Don't look back over your shoulder.  If all of the past experiences did not result in lasting weight loss ...it's time to clean the slate.
    It anyone tries to lead you down another dialed down path that reduces your food down into a 2 or 3 items while trying to outexercise all past dieting flops...don't listen.  Keep your eyes forward and remain focused on template, template, template.  
     Yesterday's past temporary dieting successes are gone.  We only have NOW and today to make real changes for the future.
     
     
  12. LisaZ liked a post in a topic by MeadowLily in Day 17 and NO Results!!   
    Melissa says it best...
     
     
     
    My short answer is… no. No, I cannot offer you suggestions to tweak the Whole30 for weight loss, because the Whole30 is not a weight loss program. But that’s the “tough” part of my tough love, and there’s way more “love” to be found in this answer. So, here’s the longer version (which, by the way, does actually include a few tips).
    I don’t want anyone to take the Whole30, designed for a VERY specific purpose, and try to tweak it to accomplish something it was not designed specifically to do. Could you make some changes to your lawnmower engine so it turns into a bubble machine for your kid? Probably. But that’s pretty dangerous, and it probably won’t mow your lawn very well after that.
    Samesies with tweaking the Whole30 for weight loss by purposefully counting/cutting calories, unnecessarily restricting food groups (like carbs or fat), or adding protocols like Intermittent Fasting. You’ll do some serious damage to the way the program is supposed to work… and you probably won’t get much further in your weight loss journey either. At least, not the kind of sustainable, permanent weight loss the Whole30 offers, exactly as written.
    Because I just KNOW you’re not looking for a quick-fix. You’ve done that. It never works. Moving on.
    Our premise is simple—change your health (tastes, blood sugar regulation, hormonal balance, digestion, immune system), habits (how you reward, self-soothe, comfort, and show love to yourself), and emotional relationship with food (losing cravings, attachments to, and dysfunctional thoughts around food), and a healthy body composition has to follow. It HAS to. But it doesn’t work the other way around.
    You can make your Whole30 a low-calorie, low-fat, low-carb approach, and you’ll for sure lose weight. But you’ll screw up your hunger, cravings, hormones, and willpower AND slow your metabolism. Which means (you guessed it)… welcome to Rebound-O-Rama, where you violently descend into a frenzy of donuts/cookies/cakes/chips/wine, and end up regaining all the weight and then some. How do I know this will happen? SCIENCE. The literature clearly shows that diets based on caloric restriction simply don’t work for sustainable weight loss.

    So don’t turn your Whole30 into another quick-fix crash diet. The very idea breaks my heart.
    Here’s the thing; the Whole30 isn’t a weight loss program, but I know you want to lose weight. And I honor that. I just want you to do it the right way. So, now we get to the meat of the question: Can I offer some suggestions to help you lose weight on the Whole30? I can. Here you go.
    Sleep more, and sleep regularly. Yes, I’m serious. This is perhaps the biggest unrecognized factor in body composition, and really just about everything else.
    Walk. Here’s a bold statement: walking is the most underrated form of exercise. You don’t have to join a gym, kill yourself at home in front of a DVD, or sign up for an adventure race. Just go for a walk. Regularly, at a brisk pace. Maybe sometimes up a hill. Maybe sometimes with a backpack. Ideally outside in a green space. Hey, bring a friend!
    Reduce stress. Yeah, yeah, easier said than done, but I’ve got a strategy outlined in Food Freedom Forever, and a 20-minute talk about the stress/craving connection to get you started.
    Embrace a growth mindset. I talk about this a lot in Food Freedom Forever, but the best thing you could do for healthy, happy, sustainable body composition is embrace the idea that you are a healthy person, living a healthy lifestyle. Then, surround yourself with people, places, things, and experiences that support that!
    Armed with those tips, the new Whole30 Cookbook, our amazing @whole30 social media community, and our extensive NSV Checklist (many of which, as requested, are things you can SEE and not just feel!), there’s no way you won’t rock round 2 of your Whole30—regardless of the scale.
    Best in health,
    Melissa
     
  13. LisaZ liked a post in a topic by MeadowLily in Day 17 and NO Results!!   
    Google fu,  Whole 30 discouraged, I'm defeated, I'm bloated and my jeans no longer fit,  I'm ready to quit, this isn't working for me, HELP.... with Whole 30 and you'll come up with previous answers. 
    A Food Reset has nothing to do with dieting or losing weight. If you didn't lose a single pound, it wouldn't matter.  Trading UP for muscle mass is far superior than a quick weight loss fix. That doesn't last.  Losing 10 or 18 lbs in 30 days, it's mostly muscle mass.
    If you regain that same 10 or 18  lbs back in the next month or so, it does not come back as muscle mass.  Rebounding quickly, regaining it all, it comes back as fat, the unhealthiest kind.
    A Food Reset can change your gut which can change your life.  Gut healing is superior to fast tracking it with fast weight loss. Regaining everything within another few weeks or even a major 100 lbs  - regaining all  back within the next year.  That's some real mental discouragement and feeling defeated...never to be heard from again.
    Far better to goooo Oooooo sooooo slowly and actually maintain the positive results of Whole 30 than having to start over and over and over again.   The mindwarp of the scale, the scale, the scale...or the inches.
    Be honest.  How long have you been struggling with other plans that were so brutally strict right out of the chute that you could not continue.
    Stay the course, finish it out and complete a reintro phase.  Immediately.  Then come back for further tweaking or help with creating a positive food management plan that you can live with for the rest of your life.  One that you can manage.  
     
  14. LisaZ liked a post in a topic by MeadowLily in Wine: an update and some realizations   
    Many people who've lost great quantities of weight trade in their food addictions for alcohol.  They somehow see it as a work around or something they can get away with.   Alcohol sugars for sugar sugars,  upside-down sugars (artificial) and honeys, maple syrup, etc.
     
    Even gastric bypass/sleeve patients will revert to sugar alcohols...google it.  It's highly addictive like all of the other sugars.  If wine or beer is derailing success...there is professional intervention.  Sitting down with someone face-to-face or attending A.A.  is a good alternative.
     
    There are genetic components as everyone knows.  People self-medicate many conditions with alcohol.   I don't touch it.  If alcohol is taking up too much  space it may be time for professional counsel.
     
    Many people have to give up alcohol.  For real. 
  15. LisaZ liked a post in a topic by MeadowLily in Wine: an update and some realizations   
    This is my favorite comment from "The crazy things people say" thread.
     
    It's from Farback.   When faced with a situation and you feel obligated to eat or drink something you don't want to....
     
    Here's another response;
    " if I eat that, the voices come back."
    They'll walk away.             
  16. Derek` liked a post in a topic by MeadowLily in One Good Whole30 choice I made today is:   
    Don't bring the food offenders into your house or vehicle or personal space. If someone insists that you eat something they've made especially for you...I have no problem taking it out into my garden and burying it in the dirt.  I've learned the hard way that this was not the best decision.  My dog has been out there for days, digging all of it back UP and ate it. She had dirt up her nose, all over her mouth,  she was eating that multi-crap I buried.  I feel so bad and I will not do that again. Next time, I'll just throw it in the bin.  But I will stomp on it before I do. 
  17. MeadowLily liked a post in a topic by jmcbn in Day 19 - energy/ mood   
    Hey @melatx and welcome to the forums
    I've never completed a Whole30 whilst pregnant, but I have had a number of pregnancies, the latter in particular where I ate pretty good, and I was tired - pretty much every day. You are growing another human inside of you, while functioning as a normal adult, and that requires A LOT of effort on your body's part, and wreaks havoc on your hormones, so don't be expecting miracles - you've already got one growing in your tummy!!
    You're still in your first  trimester where food aversions & nausea are par for the course, but we can still take a look at your meals if you like and see if we can suggest some tweaks?
    You are doing an amazing thing for your bubba - the first 1000 days from conception to 2yrs are the most critical window for foetal/infant nutrition, preventing the onset of chronic diseases in later life.
  18. Laurie liked a post in a topic by MeadowLily in Did you find yourself sweeter and kinder after Whole30 reintro?   
    Dogs are good therapy. I went to the Vet today for some dog bones. I didn't know there were two registered therapy dogs there. One named Angel, stood by legs and the Vet said that she wanted me to sit down. She's a big golden retriever. She threw her large paws around my neck and laid her head on my shoulder.  I hugged her really tight and told her she was the most wonderful dog in the entire world. She didn't let me go.  Now that was some real therapy. When she was finished, she jumped back down and laid on her big air pillow. Therapy dogs are shock absorbers. They can only absorb so much and they need to be tended to so they don't deplete their own batteries.  
    It was the best part of this day.  Dogs really are a human's best friend.
  19. Lea Mint liked a post in a topic by MeadowLily in Did you find yourself sweeter and kinder after Whole30 reintro?   
    Do you remember studying about the Marshmallow Test? 
    The children who resisted eating the marshmallow became more successful in life. It was a test about emotional intelligence.
    Is the secret of life just simply waiting to eat two marshmallows. Maybe. Maybe.
    The Marshmallow Test is about delayed and deferred gratification. Those who could resist - it prepared them for a lifetime of choices that determined their success.
    Two marshmallows.  A predictor of a kid's success.
    Whole 30 success. Choosing discipline and resisting immediate food rewards for a larger and more enduring reward later.
    They followed these children for 40 years. The children who were willing to delay gratification and waited to receive the second marshmallow had higher SAT scores, lower levels of substance and alcohol abuse, better responses to stress, better social skills and higher scores in every area of life.
    If you delay playing with your Iphone or being glued to social media and get your homework done or chores around the house or doing your actual job that you're being paid for...
    If you delay buying crummy food rewards...
    If you delay going through the drive-thru and cook your own food...
    Success comes down to choosing discipline over distraction. That's what resisting temptation is all about.
    Are some children born with more self-control and discipline, destined for success. Can you learn these behaviors.
    Yes. You can.
    It all comes back to focus, focus, focus.
    Don't employ 'willpower' to resist temptation. That will only get you so far.
    You have to turn your attention elsewhere. It's very much the same as Urge Surfing.  You have to replace one habit with another or turn your attention elsewhere until the temptation has passed and you can surf that wave.
    It's Muscle Memory. We train our muscles at the gym and we have to train our children up in the way they should go. Parents can train their children to resist immediate temptations and delay gratification.
    It's similar to handing a kid everything they want whenever they want it. Those who have to save their money in a piggy bank and look forward to going into the store to make their purchase are more successful than trust fund babies who are handed everything on a silver platter.  Here you go, you don't need to work for anything. 
    Ahhhh, how many of those do you know who blow through all of Daddy's money. They didn't have to work for anything.  Immediate gratification for the big flop. 
    Two marshmallows.  We can train our abilities.
    Eating crappy food is not a reward.  It is a punishment. Drew Carey said that.
    Why not delay and eat something really good that you've made yourself. Something simple and wonderful and real.
  20. Lea Mint liked a post in a topic by MeadowLily in Did you find yourself sweeter and kinder after Whole30 reintro?   
    I have a heart for the binger, closet dieter, and those with food disorders.   
     
    When we try to hold onto the last vestige of love for the scale on a Whole 30 - we cannot have it both ways.
     
    I see dieters secretly pretending that they're only here for the food reset.  Out of the abundance of their hearts, their mouths speak.  It's a fine, fine line to walk.
     
    I did get rid of my digital scale.  It used to lie to me all of the time.  I couldn't even get a consistent reading two times in a row with new batteries.   Worthless.
     
    It's been a very long time since I've mentioned or written the word scales or weight.
     
    I learned quickly that this was not a weight loss program.  Understood and appreciated.
     
    The Hartwigs have taken up the charge for dieting victims and I commend them.  The solutions for dieting punishment have been delivered by their books and blogs.
     
    They have exposed the frailty and failings of bad food decisions.   They lead by example.
  21. threecats2many liked a post in a topic by MeadowLily in I woke my Sugar Dragon   
    I'm speaking in general, but you don't need to start over again. 
    Extended Whole 30's don't really fix it when you're finished.The off and on again approach...Whole 30's mixed with binge eating or just minor/major off-roading inbetween is not Food Freedom Forever.  
    It's boxing yourself into a corner. It creates more black and white thinking about food. Whole 30 or Not. All in/on target or falling back into old habits.
    After watching others do this for years now, I am convinced that the original constructs of a Whole 30 are optimum, in every way.
    Elimination protocol of 30 days, a Reintro of about 10 days or longer and done.  Next.
    Immediately create a plan you can live with for the rest of your life. Your personal decisions will be liberating. Maybe you like eating the same lunch every single day, some do. Some like eating the same food 3X aday, that wouldn't work for me but you choose, you decide.
    Read FFF, you'll find ideas for putting your positive food management plan together.  
    My plan is consistent but it has leeway. I can eat full fat plain greek yogurt or cottage cheese, legumes, even some non gmo grains in whole form, fish, fish, fish, proteins of every kind, nuts, fruits and vegetables. What I can't do is eat is deliberately engineered to be craved candy or donuts or bakery items or white sugar, white flour, white pasta. These things cause an immediate uptick in my blood sugar even in small amounts.
    I don't eat them. I don't touch artificial sweetners or soda pops. No fast food or ice cream. I have enough leeway that I don't ever feel deprived.  I eat everything with a protein. Fruit, vegetables, everything is paired with protein. That's my Rx for blood sugar control.
    It works for me.
    Starting over and over again will not make it any easier on Day 61 or Day 91 when you're done. FFF = not doing a Whole 30 Forever.  
    It's going to take work to find your way. I'm consistent but that's my way.  The sooner you can find your way the easier this will be. Create something consistent for awhile until you get your footing back. 
    After an elimination protocol, there is an adjustment period. You're used to reading every label. Find your wiggle room and branch out. You can always prune yourself back before it goes sideways.

  22. ladyshanny liked a post in a topic by MeadowLily in Did you find yourself sweeter and kinder after Whole30 reintro?   
    https://whole30.com/2012/08/carrot-train-to-crazytown/
    Remember the Carrot Train to Crazytown. Felicias Oooo Felicias, lets talk about carrots.
    Eating at least 3 cups of carrots weekly can help lower your risk of heart damaging inflammation by 42%, according to Harvard University. Research it and seek that out.
    Carotenoids help white blood cells knock inflammation out of your body. That includes viruses, too.
    You can fade age spots by slathering carrot oil onto your skin. It protects the skin from sun damage and delays aging. Bear says that those who deliberately tan look as old as a pair of leathered up saddlebags for a Harley.
    Carrots and carrot oil prompt cells to turn over and regenerate..bringing your radiant beauty to the surface. Your innermost being is where true beauty comes from but you can help matters along with carrot oil and carrots. 
    I will be hopping on the Carrot Train. All aboard!
    Paw's Italian doctor at the end....Ooooo, how I wish we'd known her sooner rather than later but she is wise. She told all of us, I want you to eat real food.  Don't drink any fruit juices, they are nothing but concentrated sugars that contribute to diabetes. Eat real fruit. Eat that orange and eat that apple.  Eat as many vegetables as you can withhold every day.  Eat fish, fish, fish and really good proteins.  Eat a handful of nuts and stay away from white flour biscuits, noodles, too much white rice and brown rice is not really any better. Eat those things on occasion. Stick with vegetables and real fruit for healing.
    Don't drink milk.  Eat something cultured like quality greek plain yogurt and even cottage cheese but not plain milk. Kefir, kombucha and kimchi. You know the drill. 
    It's not what we do some of the times but what we do most of the time that matters.
    Let's keep riding, milling around and shooting the breeze with the Universe.
     
     
     
  23. Laurie liked a post in a topic by MeadowLily in Did you find yourself sweeter and kinder after Whole30 reintro?   
    Dogs are good therapy. I went to the Vet today for some dog bones. I didn't know there were two registered therapy dogs there. One named Angel, stood by legs and the Vet said that she wanted me to sit down. She's a big golden retriever. She threw her large paws around my neck and laid her head on my shoulder.  I hugged her really tight and told her she was the most wonderful dog in the entire world. She didn't let me go.  Now that was some real therapy. When she was finished, she jumped back down and laid on her big air pillow. Therapy dogs are shock absorbers. They can only absorb so much and they need to be tended to so they don't deplete their own batteries.  
    It was the best part of this day.  Dogs really are a human's best friend.