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  1. 3 points
    I think I'm really starting to understand the difference between craving food - and missing food. There are foods I miss for sure. And sometimes I'm not sure if I can separate out if I miss the food - or the meaning of the food. I still have Friday Night Pizza-n-Movie with my husband and kids...but I don't have the pizza, obviously. It just doesn't feel the same. Maybe I don't miss the food as much as I miss the idea of the food. I'm starting to understand why they say the second half of this Whole30 journey is more psychological than anything.... It's interesting!
  2. 3 points
  3. 3 points
    History&Pearls

    February 15th--Let's Do This

    Having a hard time waking up in the mornings, and really really really ready to go to bed at night (fell asleep at 10, slept til 7:15) but once I'm up, and while I'm awake, feeling a lot more energy. Had steaks, roasted potatoes with onions and bacon, and smoked paprika cauliflower for dinner and was totally satisfied. It's only day 3 but I'm not feeling too shabby! How is everyone doing this morning?
  4. 3 points
    jmcbn

    Start February 13th

    Absolutely anything. Seriously. Anything you'd eat at lunch or dinner you can also eat at breakfast - which is actually how our ancestors ate. It helps if you stop thinking in terms of breakfast, lunch & dinner, and start thinking in terms of meals 1, 2 & 3.
  5. 3 points
    vozelle

    Starting Jan. 16th!

    Congrats to everyone, great results for the group overall. I reintroduced parmesan cheese last night and woke up with sinus congestion, poo. Good luck with your experiments and discoveries! Remember to take notes, you won't regret it...
  6. 3 points
    kirkor

    2017 Whole9 WholeYear (3rd Annual)

    No way, else how will I make my millions?!?!
  7. 2 points
    I cannot tell you how invaluable the info in It Starts With Food was to me. The "sciensy stuff" is written so it is easy to understand and it really is fascinating how our bodies process food, and how our emotions are tied to food. I've read it 3 times and each and every time, I have a light bulb moment and something just sinks in! It is definitely the book to read to understand the Whole 30 program and its importance. And just FYI, I only bought the Whole30 book for the recipes....if you want to read one or the other, go with ISWF (IMHO!)
  8. 2 points
    I don't have any other health issues. My sleep was really good before I started, but has gotten worse in the past couple of weeks. My stress level is up a bit, because of work and political issues. I do have some history of dieting. I did weight watchers and when that stopped working, I did a boot camp where the trainer told me that because I was under 5'3", I needed to eat less than 1000 cal a day. So I ended up just feeling starving and angry and didn't lose any weight, and I'm pretty sure ruined my metabolism. That was five years ago, and I haven't done any calorie restriction since then. Have just try a different eating styles like Ayurvedic to try to get everything back in balance and working properly.
  9. 2 points
    Day 3 is feeling good Last night I had sausage on a bed of greens with nuts and grapes with balsamic vinegar on top and a fried egg on the side (these protein portions are so big!). This morning was more sausage and eggs and some broccoli. Tonight we're having burgers, mine will just be in lettuce instead of a bun. There are totally compliant meatloaf recipes, and mashed potatoes too (just use ghee or clarified butter in them). I think those are probably on our menu for next week sometime. Yesterday's headache didn't ever come back after my second cup of coffee, I think it was just from fatigue. I was STARVING all day though, despite definitely not under-eating. I guess that's part of your body learning to use different energy sources?
  10. 2 points
    susiebee

    February 15th--Let's Do This

    Day 3 and had the best night's sleep last night. For me that is one of the best parts of this program--actually feeling like I'm sleeping deeply. Hope everyone is on track for a great weekend!
  11. 2 points
    Guadopt1997

    Start date 1/23/17

    I'd suggest switching to full-fat greek yogurt...
  12. 2 points
    Ejanecek83

    Start February 13th

    I just made shredded sweet potatoes sautéed in coconut oil, added jalapeño and blueberries and topped it with a pork tenderloin leftover them added an over easy egg on top. You could leave off the egg. It was to die for!!
  13. 2 points
    SugarcubeOD

    Can I have Runa Energy Drinks?

    Yes, you're right. I didn't look up the caffiene content on these... the 'energy drink' part is what pinged for me but upon further investigation, this is no different (the unsweetened ones) than a cup of coffee a day... As with coffee, we recommend not drinking caffinated beverages after noon so that your sleep is not disrupted but if you wanted to use this in place of coffee, that would be fine. Thanks @cahliah for asking for clarification. You were definitely not being rude and we're all human here so if you have a question about a response, definitely ask.
  14. 2 points
    cahliah

    Can I have Runa Energy Drinks?

    Forgive me if I'm being rude, but I'm trying to understand this... Looking at the ingredients, nothing really sounds like a "lab experiment." This "energy drink" is essentially tea & lime juice, with citric & ascorbic acid added. All of the caffeine comes from the guayusa tea - there isn't any added on top of that. I thought maybe the issue was with the guayusa, but someone asked about the Runa tea bags a few years ago, and it was said that they were ok. Is this a SWYPO problem, or a caffeine level problem (105mg/can vs 95mg/cup of coffee), or something I'm just plain missing?
  15. 2 points
    Cher1

    Starting Jan. 16th!

    Congrats everyone. We did it. I won't know what I weigh until I get back home in two weeks but I definitely feel better, clothes fit better. And my headaches have just disappeared. I'm going to be very careful re-introducing milk and gluetin is way down the list..I feel like it's cardboard filler for me and I just don't need it. I'm so glad to see everyone's post and I'll be around while re-introducing foods. First up is a glass of red wine... a small glass!
  16. 2 points
    cottagequeen

    2017 Whole9 WholeYear (3rd Annual)

    "sigh" now I'z gonna havta figger out sumthin else ta do...
  17. 2 points
    Just found this thread! Today is Day 17 for me. I'd like to say I'm feeling Tiger Blood...but, alas...no. I've been compliant, but I've been feeling sleepy the past week. Not tired, sleepy--if that makes sense. Sometimes when I've been sitting or horizontal for a while and I get up, my head starts spinning. I feel like I'm going to pass out. I have low blood pressure, so maybe that's a part of it? And I know this isn't about weight loss...and I'm resisting the scream of the scale. Truth is, while I understand it's a 30-day not a 17-day program, I'm not feeling even a smidge of difference in my clothes. So, if I don't lose weight after 30 days, then what? I have 10 pounds to lose and before anyone groans about how little a number that is, I'm one inch shy of being five feet tall. Ten pounds on my body frame is a bigger deal than it seems. Glad to find company here!
  18. 2 points
    Kmactx

    February 15th--Let's Do This

    Hearing everyone's updates is keeping me motivated. Still going strong on day two but I am starting to have that headache too. I had another egg cup this morning with half of a sweet potato because I was working out right after breakfast. I was worried about my workout but the sweet potato seemed to do the trick. I made a big batch of Waldorf salad, so that's what I had today over kale and tonight I am going to grill some tuna and roast some veggies. I had a small victory today, as I was icing the kids' cinnamon rolls for breakfast, I did not lick the icing off my finger. Normally, I would do that absentmindedly. Whole30 is making me mindful of my food actions. I hope everyone had a great day and those of you who have headaches, I hope they go away soon.
  19. 2 points
    I just started yesterday as well! Feeling good today. Actually feeling hunger, which I don't usually because I'm usually eating throughout the day. i am going to do some meal planning today. Was able to roast some potatoes and broccoli to have on hand as well as some chicken. We can do this!
  20. 1 point
    I am on day 26 of Whole30 and I am feeling the WORST I've felt the entire time despite a strict adherence to the rules. The first week I felt okay, the second week was a little rough at the beginning, but then I felt great. Late into the third week and now as I am nearly finished on my fourth week I feel awful. Headaches of varying degrees every day and now terrible stomach aches often accompanied by nausea. I NEVER got headaches prior to Whole30, NEVER. I haven't introduced anything new into my diet that I wasn't eating before and I am eating at least 4 times a day if not more. I had a super comprehensive food allergy test done prior to starting Whole30 so I know I'm not eating foods that I have issues with. I have been hydrating like crazy. The only thing that has changed that I can point to is Whole30. I was expecting to feel even better than I did at the start of week 3, not significantly worse. I'm not running a fever or feeling poorly otherwise. Has ANYONE else had this issue? I was planning to keep going for another 30 days while my parents do their first Whole 30 but I am not going to stick with it if I just feel like crap all the time.
  21. 1 point
    TJHigh

    Needing meal help and weight loss help

    Maybe head over to the cooking thread for meal suggestions without eggs? For now, I can suggest a few of my favorite meals that I go back to time and again- chicken chowder (this is either from ISWF or the followup Whole 30 book that had more recipes)- I know it had sweet potato, but you could easily omit and just add more chicken thighs (my favorite part anyway). Golden cauliflower soup from Well Fed paleo is great, as is the char sui pork and chinese fried rice (cauliflower). I love sausage balls in the morning, but usually make mine with about a 1/3 portion of sweet potato- no reason yours couldn't just be all sausage and maybe sautéed onions and spinach? I'm sorry you didn't see the weight loss you're seeking and I hope you find the right combo of foods/advice to help you with that- i understand that can be intrinsically linked to health, so totally understandable you're seeking help with that.
  22. 1 point
    MC100

    Starting Jan. 16th!

    I started my reintroduction with dairy yesterday, just by putting a little milk in my coffee - my back and knee pain flared up, hard to tell if this was directly related but it was troubling me quite a bit before W30 and I hadn't felt any pain for a while so I think it could be. I had some ice cream with dinner and woke up at 1:30am with stomach ache, and have had bad digestive trouble. Back on W30 today although I am allowing myself some things with added sugar where I've not been able to find sugar free options, just to make life easier. I'm keen to keep w30 eating in my life long term but worried that it will be tricky because I don't like coconut or sweet potato, they seem to be core ingredients in a lot of things! I think I will reintroduce legumes next, or non gluten grain.
  23. 1 point
    Recently I've spent a lot of time on this site and another Paleo website reading about fat-adapting, training the body to burn fat for fuel...been wanting to learn more about this. Realized that it would be reasonable for me to add more protein and fat, to extend how long I stay sated. I'm feeling really stimulated mentally to learn about this, and put it into practice. Shows me how deep the deprivation tendency is...learning to enjoy eating more fat is a revelation. I'm trusting this process, and trying to stay in the present and not future trip, just let it unroll (as in, the fat suit I'm wearing! ha ha). The science is challenging for me, but I'm synthesizing it into something simple that works for me. Time to buy ISWF and the Whole30 book...
  24. 1 point
    MeadowLily

    New and need coffee help!

    Ready to Start? "Now that you have the basic plan, you need to know how to implement it. It’s simple, actually. Start now. Today. This minute. Count out thirty days on your calendar. Plan out a week’s worth of meals, go to your local health food store, farmer’s market or grocer and stock up on things you’ll be eating. And then… go. Cold turkey, just start. Don’t put this off, not for one more day. If you give yourself excuses or reasons to delay, you may never begin. Do it now." http://whole9life.com/2010/10/whole-30-v3/ I knew where this was but that^^ link is now missing with whole9life. You don't like black coffee. Me either. I like HWCream more than the actual coffee. Others may give you the nutpods and other remedies to cure the ills of black coffee. My suggestion. Cold turkey, with coffee for 30 days. You don't like black coffee. Maybe nutpods will fix it. But if nuts are notorious for digestive problems and all of the other things, then will nutpods fix it. The gut. Coffee affects gut healing. It's not the caffeine but the actual coffee bean itself that affects the gut. Try going without coffee and creamers for 30 days and see what happens. The day I gave up coffee and cream is the day I turned my health and gut around. Change your gut and you can change your life.
  25. 1 point
    pammelasue

    Starting Jan. 16th!

    @Mountain Girl Valentine's weekend in Paris with wine? So jealous! Enjoy! And hope you can figure out what caused the reflux.
  26. 1 point
    MeadowLily

    Start date 1/23/17

    Yes. It is. But just for today and the next 30 days, don't think about it. We don't want to stir up hibernating cravings and triggers for those almost at the end.
  27. 1 point
    It's great that you didn't have negative reactions to anything -- that makes it a lot easier if you're in a situation where you want to not worry about what you're eating so much, like at social events or if you're traveling and have fewer options than you would if you were preparing your own food. I would say that sometimes foods are fine in small amounts, but if you add them in regularly, you start noticing you're not feeling as good, so do continue to pay attention as you move forward. For instance, after my first Whole30, the only thing I really missed was half & half in my coffee, so I kept eating Whole30 except for that one addition, and after a couple of weeks I noticed some aches and pains that had gone away, came back. I have to assume that while the amount of dairy I had during reintroduction didn't bother me, there was a limit to how much I could have before my body had had enough. The book It Starts with Food and this series of blog posts both outline why these foods were left out of Whole30. The thinking is that even if you don't notice immediate effects from reintroducing them, they're still not necessarily foods that are making you healthier, and therefore you probably don't want to go back to eating them on a daily basis. Obviously, you get to decide for yourself how often you want to have them going forward, but you can find some information on how you might choose to look at it here.
  28. 1 point
    Kmactx

    February 15th--Let's Do This

    I'm starting off Day 3 feeling pretty good. Last night I made meatloaf and homemade mashed potatoes for my family, and normally I would repeatedly taste the potatoes to make sure they had enough salt, butter, etc. I made my husband be the taster this time. I had grilled tuna, kale salad with olives and homemade baked sweet potato fries. It was delicious and I wasn't even jealous of everyone else eating my meatloaf and mashed potatoes. I am very nervous about this weekend because that is usually when I indulge in wine and treats. Saturday evening I am taking the boys to see Lego Batman and the true test will be watching the movie without eating buttered popcorn. Lord give me strength.
  29. 1 point
    laura_juggles

    Brisket

    Oddly enough, the brisket is one of the first items listed and makes zero mention of the rub while other meats very clearly list the rub in the ingredients (Ctrl+f is my friend for finding specific information quickly).
  30. 1 point
    Cindy O

    Start date 1/23/17

    It is good you are being realistic about expectations. You don't want to set yourself up for failure by thinking this is magic. I've had days where I was also exhausted. For me I have to remember to keep taking Vitamin D....not enough sunshine here in Maine to help that production. Great job for sticking with in.
  31. 1 point
    Artemis22

    Cliche' but starting Jan. 1st

    Don't beat yourself up. I did the same thing with my reintroduction last year. I had focused a lot on what I couldn't have instead of the good parts so on Day 31 I did my Cookie Monster impersonation. You know, with food flying all over the place..."Cookieeee". You had one day and reigned yourself in. That is impressive. I Cookie Monstered for a while. The cats were scared. This time I am a lot more focused and have counted all the things I can have instead of what I can't. Seems to be working. Have a great day NotsoHappy!!! And your little cats too!
  32. 1 point
    Ericadon

    Digestive Enzymes and/or Probiotics

    There is a probiotic recommended in the appendix of the Whole30 cookbook. It's one by KlaireLabs as well. I've been taking it for 2 1/2 years and have had good results.
  33. 1 point
    Hello fellow whole 30 (ers) The food dreams sound interesting. I have not experienced any -yet. I made a stock using a whole chicken and it was so tasty - I couldn't believe it. I've been struggling to find compliant stock so this is really exciting for me ;-) Yoga is always something I have wanted to try but haven't - for toning and relaxation but it seems difficult. For now I'll stick to swimming as I can just plough up and down and feel as light as a feather. My oh is doing this with me but he occasionally says lets just have - cake with coffee or chips with a meal - I've been strong so far, and hope that it continues. Looking forward to the weight loss after 30 days! I can get my jeans on and off without fastening them now :-) Happy eating everyone x
  34. 1 point
    @stinagrace I don't really work out, but earlier this week I was exhausted at work. Tuesday I came home and slept for three hours, and Wednesday I fell asleep at like eight o'clock. This morning I had to drink coffee (I almost never need caffeine in the morning) to make it through the day. I am definitely drained. It's nice to hear someone else is going through it as well. I am also hoping for that surge of energy! I have a long week ahead of me next time and will need all the energy I can get.
  35. 1 point
    You can take Tylenol.
  36. 1 point
    ExpatElle

    Start February 13th

    @RebeccaM you won't regret completing a whole30. I am 25 weeks pregnant and owe getting pregnant at 34 in my first month of trying to whole30. I had my AMH tested in May 2016 to see where we stood in terms of my egg reserves. My score came back at a 12 & my physician told me not to wait a year. My husband and I started trying at the end of August 2016 and I got pregnant straight away! I completed my first whole30 on August 24 and the official first day of my pregnancy is August 29. I've never felt so good. Need to get back into whole30 for longer than 3 days.
  37. 1 point
    rgill

    February 15th--Let's Do This

    I work from home and realize how often I reach for the cabinet/frig or freezer just to pull out a couple pieces of this or that....usually chocolate! Challenging & mindful of a habit that I need to break.
  38. 1 point
    RebeccaM

    Start February 13th

    Hello all, I'm a little late to this forum but I started the Whole30 on Monday as well. Day 4 and so far so good. No cravings or headaches. Keeping a diary of what I eat and how I feel. First heard about this after not seeing my friend for about a month. I was like WOW. She has had two kids (4 and 1 1/2) and before Whole30 had lost her baby weight by exercising and eating (what she said she thought) was healthy. Well she had slimmed down even more, she was glowing, her hair was bouncy and flowing like a goddess and she was happy happy happy. Then she shared that she was currently on Whole30, was almost done and all the positive changes she has had in her mind and body thus far. She mentioned that she had lost 9 pounds and her husband lost 15 as he participated with her. They thought they were healthy eaters but were proven wrong! Needless to say I did a little research online and ran out to buy the books. I've been struggling with my weight (20 pounds) and fertility for the past few months and decided it was time to make a change. Not a diet or a gimmick but a real lifestyle change. My husband and I are trying to conceive our first child. I want to be healthier for pregnancy and after. Physically, mentally, emotionally (can admit I am an emotional eater). Im finding so much variety in the recipes (maybe aside from eggs eggs eggs in the morning lol). It feels so good to be making meals from scratch and to know exactly what is in them and to experiment with new spices and ingredients. Just wondering how this is going for everyone thus far (I know it's only day 4, we have a long way to go) and how everyone got inspired or interested to take this on. Good luck to you all!
  39. 1 point
    Sjc1944

    Who's Starting Tomorrow? February 15th?

    Yesterday was day 1 for me too! So far so good, surprising how I did well without snacks.
  40. 1 point
    NotSoHappyEater

    Cliche' but starting Jan. 1st

    Let's just say I quickly fell into bad habits and now remember why I did it. I have a cruise in mid April so my target date will be April Fools Day. I actually noticed myself being grumpier And little pains are back. Also my cats are wanting to go a bit longer so they want me to keep them company on the W30 to and I love me some cats lol.
  41. 1 point
    Kelly Moorachanian

    Start February 13th

    Hi everyone! I am a bit late, but I am starting my whole30 on Sunday, 2/19 because I am in a wedding this weekend. I would love to join this group for ideas and support! Love reading all of these threads!
  42. 1 point
    OHMaryF

    Start date 1/23/17

    I don't think I have felt tiger blood per se. I do know I have been waking up before my alarm and pretty well rested. That is new for me. I have even been able to go work out before work and get my most of my runs in during the evening. I have had a few blah food days, but that is due to my meal planning and letting myself get into a couple of ruts. I am definitely going to do the reintroduction. I have to read up on the categories, but I will likely try black beans and garbanzo beans for the legumes. Oatmeal has always been one of my favorite breakfasts, so I will try that and organic corn tortillas for my non-gluten grains. My go to breakfast and post run snack was often fat free greek yogurt with fresh fruit, so that will be my dairy along with some cheese. For gluten, I have not decided. Since it will be on a Friday, I will probably gets some challah bread and maybe I will have a flour tortilla. I know that the sugar dragon was alive and powerful in my life. I suspect it was behind some very bad migraines I had around the holidays. I have to read the reintroduction chapter again to see what it says about sugar. I am inclined to continue to limit sugar to those things that are really worth it and to make certain any items with sugar I do get are mostly paleo type (maple sugar, honey).
  43. 1 point
    MargretB

    February 15th--Let's Do This

    I started today too. Breakfast was an egg scramble that I couldn't finish all at once. I ate as much as I could, then boxed the rest up and finished it at work. Tuna salad for lunch, dinner will be chicken and roasted veggies and salad. It's not too adventurous, but I'm actually hoping not to have to tweak our dinners too much since my husband isn't doing it with me. I made clarified butter last night to prep and will make mayo later today (we actually usually make our own anyway, it tastes so much better!). I am NOT looking forward to the sugar withdrawals that I'm sure are coming later this week...
  44. 1 point
    kpenrod1

    Starting Jan. 16th!

    Holy crap we made it! I do not own a scale so I have no clue if I lost weight or not. But I feel great which is all that matters. My clothes are fitting better so that is good enough for me! I will weigh myself when I go to my bf's this weekend since he has a scale. I am going to continue for the most part eating the Whole30 way since I did feel so much better. I am so excited to finally have some sushi, with rice, for dinner tonight!
  45. 1 point
    Kimbo8

    February 15th--Let's Do This

    Just started today as well! I'm a little overwhelmed..I'm not used to multitasking so much in the kitchen. Prep day was rough yesterday. My homemade mayo was a disaster..I melted a mixing bowl to my burner, and I dropped a bowl if homemade sauce all over the floor after fighting with a food processor that still isn't behaving. Thank god for my puppies and a mop. Anyone else feel like they should be in an episode of America's worst cooks? Here's to trying the mayo again today!
  46. 1 point
    Cindy O

    Start date 1/23/17

    Good Morning Whole30ers! Reintroduction is just around the corner. I am going to add dairy in first, then non-gluten grains. Next will be legumes. We had a huge snow storm here yesterday and I took the opportunity to do some "dreadmill" and dusted off the Total Gym for some resistance training. I am so happy that I had the energy to do both. My foot issues persist and I finally have an appointment to get it checked out. The anti-inflammatory part of this diet certainly has helped me, but it has not resolved the ankle/foot pain which I am assuming may actually be something mechanical. I admitted to my husband that I am tired of cooking....and I LOVE TO COOK! We were that couple that went out or took out at least 3-4 times a week. So I miss that luxury! My energy levels remain consistent. I have not found the tiger blood yet, but I know it will come. I have been gassy (not crazy bad, but a few farts and definitely more burps) the last few days. It seemed to start after dinner with roasted colorful peppers and flank steak dinner Saturday night. Persisted yesterday with this food: breakfast: tomato/avocado/fried eggs for breakfast with a 1/2 blueberries and mango diced lunch: zoodles, spaghetti squash and ground turkey spaghetti (homemade with tomato, onion, roasted garlic, evoo, spices) 4 green olives around 4 pm dinner: Chicken salad with paleo mayo, tomato soup (roasted garlic, coconut milk, onion, chicken broth, spices), mixed greens salad with 1/2 orange slices, toasted almonds 1/2 avocado. Now that I've written it down - and see it I think perhaps the roasted garlic could be the culprit. I made that soup Saturday for lunch. I have scheduled a massage for the afternoon of day 30....that will be my non-food reward. Stay focused. Cindy
  47. 1 point
    UPDATE - In case anyone is curious, I had a lovely time with my friend at our Galentine's Tea and I stayed on plan. :-) I put a carton of Califa Farms Better Half unsweetened Coconut Cream and Almond Milk in my purse, drank a looooooot of tea, and ignored the plate of scones and sandwiches on the table. I'm glad I went and SUPER glad I stared sugary carbs in the face for two hours and didn't crack!
  48. 1 point
    Julzology

    So... I Weighed Myself

    I was rolling thoughts about my weight in my head the other day and I realized that I can remember approximately what I weighed each decade of my life (I'm 56). I also realized that when the number wasn't what I wanted or expected I wore it like a scarlet letter that only I could see. Like the number was pinned on me as a source of personal shame. One of my goals here is to stop doing that. Stop equating my self worth with the number. When I look at the scale and have lost 2 pounds, I am not instantly a better, kinder, more compassionate human being any more than I am less of those things if I gained 2 lbs. And if my number is higher or lower than your number that doesn't make you any better or worse than me, just different. Two different people with different bodies. These are my lessons.
  49. 1 point
    SugarcubeOD

    Carb advice?

    The general recommendation is to start with 1 fist sized serving a day and then adjust as you feel necessary...
  50. 1 point
    First, the book "French Kids eat Everything" is fantastic and full of some useful advice relevant to this conversation. That is actually where I got a lot of our mealtime ideas from. For the record, my daughter went 5 days without food when she had a kidney infection and only had IV fluids during that time. So, don't ever withhold water but letting a kid get super hungry is o.k. ;-) I know other moms who have a hard time letting their kid go hungry, but truly, to truly starve your child you have to be hateful. No loving parent is going to damage their child by withholding food in favor of teaching their child better eating habits. Most of the protesting you get will be the kid trying to test their limits, not so much genuine starvation. So, here's what my family has done. Let me just start this off by saying this morning my 4 year old asked me for a salad, asparagus, and salmon for breakfast, because she was really, really hungry - then told me she would like an orange after she ate all this. This plan really worked for us. I made a no snacking rule. We live by this rule as much as possible. My daughter knows that she will not get to eat snack just because other kids are (that's been the hardest part, but we're getting there). There are three meals a day in our house and the only way you are getting a snack is if you come to me and either ask for a vegetable or a meat to eat. Seriously. Because you have to be pretty hungry to ask for these things. Did this create a lot of whining? Oh yes it did. My child was suddenly starving to death all the time... but only for fruit or chicken nuggets or whatever "kid marketed" food is out there. She wasn't starving for anything else, even if this poor "dying" child was given a plate of her favorite meat and vegetables. Nope, she'd just cry that it wasn't what she wanted. That is not hunger. That is a power struggle. It is important to really see the difference. I never turned this into a battle. These rules were set and everyone in the house was to follow them. Just like any other rules in the house. You can choose not to follow them, sure, but the natural consequence is you are going to be hungry if you didn't eat your food. To be clear, I never force my kids to eat or finish their plates. I cook healthy meals and my kids (4 and 18 mos) eat them. That's it. The kids have to taste (as in, put one bite in mouth and swallow) everything on their plate every single meal. There is no fruit or the rare treat until after the food is eaten (at first it is really good to have something after every meal, I think). Foods I know they have said or shown they like get eaten first and then the stuff they are unsure of (or sure they hate) get tasted. Every time. It can take up to 20 times for a young child to truly know if they like or don't like something. The first time is not a clear indicator as their taste buds are growing at this age. The liked stuff on the plate has to be gone, or at least mostly gone, before they get fruit or bath or play a specific game or whatever it is they were whining about wanting at the table. Sometimes, this results in me specifying a number of bites (and defining what a bite actually is). If my oldest (because the toddler is an eating machine and never seems to refuse food) really does not want to eat, she doesn't get the fruit or desert (if there was one) and she may leave the table. But, she does this with the understanding that this plate of food is her next meal, when she does get hungry. This is how I don't force a kid who isn't hungry to eat. You don't get to snack on other stuff though, because if you are truly hungry, you will eat this meal that I made. This may sound like I'm bribing her to eat her food, but it isn't. In our house, fruit or desert comes after the meal. This also means that if the meal is not eaten, the fruit or desert logically isn't eaten because that is supposed to follow the eaten meal. All these rules are straightforward in my house and are well known. Shoot, when a playmate comes and eats with us, my daughter will usually tell her she has to eat a certain number of bites and taste everything! These are our food rules. Food rules are really excellent to have. They take a lot of stress out of mealtime and they let the kid know what is expected of them. I started the food rules shortly after my daughter turned 3, but I see that my 18 month old is already catching on. Our rules have since expanded to manners (like speaking politely of other's cooking even when you don't like it), which I have to tell you is easier to teach when you are confining eating to just certain times of the day. Cooking is also easier because now it is confined to certain times of the day as well, and the kids are more eager to help when they know this is what they are going to be eating. I disagree that kids need to have snacks. If fed well rounded meals and given the time to finish them (kids take a lot longer to eat than adults and will sometimes even take a break mid-meal), they can last as long as adults between meals. I think parents are a little too sensitive to their hunger and want to feed them before they truly are that hungry. Also, I wonder if sometimes we are just too rushed and don't let them truly finish eating. To really start identifying their hunger, you have to let them get to the point of crying at the fridge or stove. Crying is not child abuse, either, and I know a lot of people get really uncomfortable doing that. I have taught my daughter that when she gets to this point, that means she is very hungry and that this is the best time to eat food. She is starting to recognize her hunger now because of this work. See, it doesn't have to feel like you're hurting them if you are turning it into a learning opportunity. And, it is truly remarkable when your child can come to you and tell you that they are so hungry, that they really want to eat salmon, lettuce and asparagus. Or, even better, turn down food at a party because they ate lunch already and are not hungry. Wouldn't it be magical if none of us had to go to great lengths as adult to understand our own hunger? So many of us have completely lost touch with our bodies - shoot many of us here are/were in that boat! What if we learned this gift from the start? It is hard work, and with a picky eater or a strong willed child, it can feel even harder, but our kids are really looking up to us to show them the way. The harder the work you do, the more rewarding the outcome. It has certainly been that for our kids so far!