@keightlynn Your post was very encouraging, thank you!
You reminded me that toddlers are naturally picky eaters. Thank you for pointing out that even parents who feed their toddlers junk still struggling with them being "picky". I just had an entire conversation about picky toddlers with a group of moms (and I happen to know none of them feed their toddlers well) but I didn't really put two and two together.
And the point about the food baggage was great. I hadn't really thought about it that way, but you are exactly right! I often feel bad that I'm denying them more enjoyable foods, but I think that more has to do with me and my food baggage.
Thank you again.