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  1. Am I a horrible person?

    Thanks everyone for your input! So helpful to know that there are other people out there with similar struggles. Since that post, I've definitely lessened my overwhelming drive for just six-pack abs. I found that it was mentally exhausting. Exercising should be fun, rewarding and stress relieving, not inducing. I've also found out that I'm pregnant so obviously, immediately my whole entire universe shifted. No longer am I concentrated on aesthetics, it is solely about keeping myself healthy and active. Preparing for the delivery of the baby and being the best I can be for my child. I was just re-reading through the threads and appreciate everyone's comments! One thing I did want to mention to @SugarcubeODis that I completely understand the mission of whole30. They want you to release the stress and anxiety around food, but whether something IS an obsession or whether it FEELS like an obsession, really, what's the difference? If doing something is making you anxious and stressed, it probably isn't the best so figuring other ways around it is a good idea. For me, rather than evaluating every single piece of food's "worth it" factor, I make a list of things I KNOW are not going to be worth it that day, that way, my decision making is done for me. Other things, I reserve my energy to make those decisions in the moment, that way I'm not struggling with "should I eat this or not" everywhere I look. The holidays are coming up again and I feel MUCH more prepared this time. I am doing my fifth Whole30 in September, while pregnant. I am working on becoming a whole30 coach to help others along this same process. Again, thank you everyone for your feedback. Much more comfortable in my FFF skin and it will only get better! <3 xo, Abby
  2. Whole30 and Strength Training

    My casserole is this one: I make it every Sunday for the entire week. It has sausage, sweet potatoes, coconut milk, red and green peppers and I top it with compliant bacon, so I think I'm hitting all the macros pretty well (I think). One 9x13 dish makes about 6 big slices, I usually have a slice and a half in the morning. I always eat until I'm full. I am currently doing the January whole30 so I'm journaling it this time. I'm going to keep track of my hunger. I'm considering adding another meal in the day because I'm up and eat so early. I seem to max out around 4-5 hours, I can't wait much longer after that before becoming hangry! Thanks for all your thoughts!
  3. Pre/Post Workout Meal Question

    @kirkor I will definitely do carbs after a high intensity work out, like running or soccer, but when I use their carb calculator in "It Starts With Food", it doesn't come out to needing any after strength, mainly because I haven't cardiovascularly exerted myself. I don't think I'm tapping into my glycogen during strength training. Any thoughts?
  4. Hello! I just have some questions for other fellow strength training whole30ers. I strength train about 5 days per week. One of my goals is to become as strong and fit as I can. I don't have any children yet but I want to be in the best shape that I can be before getting pregnant. I also want to maintain it throughout my pregnancy and well into life after. I want to be able to keep up with my kids and hold them for a long time without feeling tired! For right now, I don't usually do a pre-wo snack because I literally roll out of bed into my basement which is where I work out. After I work out, I eat breakfast immediately which is usually a casserole that I make ahead of time for the week (eggs, sausage, peppers). I eat a hefty amount of this but am usually hungry by 9:30-10am (I eat breakfast around 6am). I've tried increasing the portion but it doesn't seem to change much (especially during the week before my period, I'm absolutely ravenous all day no matter what I eat). My questions are what do you other strength trainers typically do pre and post work out as far as food goes? What does your carb intake look like or do you even pay attention to this? I want to make sure I'm fueling my muscles properly with all the training. Any thoughts would be great!
  5. Pre/Post Workout Meal Question

    I'm in a similar boat as @fitgirl_valx. I work out at home, though. So all I have to do is walk upstairs and eat breakfast. I'm always a little confused about the pwo meals because of this. I work out at 5am, typically I am strength training 5 days per week and I have 1-2 cardio days. I won't eat carbs after my strength days, just protein, but I also am struggling with timing. I could eat a hard boiled egg/chicken right after my work out, but I'm having breakfast at that time. Do you suggest maybe bringing extra protein later in the day to eat to help with muscle rebuild? Any suggestions would be great! Thanks!
  6. A little afraid of Thanksgiving...

    Great advice from ElizabethG. I also am finding myself in the same internal struggle. Melissa has some good advice for the holidays in her book. Plan out when your parties are going to be. Decide your "worth it" foods ahead of time. Eat as many or as little as you need to satisfy your need. In between parties, just default back to your reset and eat as compliantly as possible. That will help preserve all those good feelings you have from your reset yet giving you a chance to exercise your food freedom during your worth it moments. As far as work things go, those foods are typically never as good as homemade. Bring your own lunch even if they are doing a pot luck. Definitely the random candies and pastries that hang out at work aren't worth it, you can get those any time you want, even the special Christmas colored ones Every day is a learning process with this. Every bite is an experience, an opportunity. If you bite something and find it's not worth it, don't finish it. Check yourself too, be honest. Are you feeling out of control as you wolf down those cupcakes? Maybe tell yourself no treats for 3 days until you get yourself in check. Those kinds of things seem to work for me so far. Being mindful and keeping eye on the prize! Happy Holidays!!
  7. Am I a horrible person?

    @saraip Thanks for the feedback! I definitely love the feeling of being in control of my decisions. I am happy with my progress when I am in control knowing I'm moving in the right direction. When my sugar dragon takes over (pre-Thanksgiving work meals, family get togethers, etc have already started waking her up) then I feel out of control and even though I'm still physically in the same place, I feel worse about it. For some reason, I can never eat treats or desserts without feeling some form of guilt. Even though I made the decision to. Work in progress. Anyway, slowly but surely working towards those abs. I know the pants are getting smaller and there isn't as much fat to press through to feel them, ha! I'm going to enjoy the holidays, do a January reset, and get focused. Hopefully we can keep in touch!
  8. NSV's but little weight loss

    I haven't been on a scale since before starting my whole30. I didn't get on it at the end because I didn't care what it said. I lost 1.5 pants sizes (in between sizes right now) and looked better from my before an after pictures, but I'm in a rut. I have been done with my whole30 since May and haven't lost anymore. I feel stuck. I just posted on this myself in this forum.
  9. Let me start by saying that Whole30 is an amazing program and it has changed my life. It has opened my eyes to so many other aspects of "health". My main NSV are increased energy levels, decreased bloating and finally destroying my sugar drag (although she returns very quickly if I even smell sugar). Once it hits the lips it tastes so good! I haven't done a reintroduction properly as of yet but am planning to do this in January. I adore Melissa and her tough love. I firmly believe that being "healthy" is all encompassing; it needs to include body and mind. There are just a few things that have me conflicted during and after whole30 and subsequently holding me back from my Food Freedom. My Food Freedom Forever struggles. She just recently posted an article about navigating the holidays and being hyper-aware of all the decisions that you make during the holidays. I know that she is recommending you evaluate a food's "worth-it" factor but there are two things I'm struggling with. 1. My worth it has nothing to do with my energy levels or sugar dragon because I know that I can easily recover these with a reset. Let me preface this with the fact that I do not binge just because I know I can reset. I am consistent with my healthy eating habits. My worth it is my weight. I am having a very hard time letting this go (do I even need to)? When I am presented with a cupcake, hell yes this is worth a little bloating and a raging sugar dragon for a day or so. But the guilt sets in when I know that I "shouldn't" because my waistline starts to increase. Not immediately, obviously, and sometimes not even after 3-4 cupcakes 3-4 days in a row, but my struggle is where is that line between indulging in your "worth it" foods and not feeling guilty because you know that it's making you "less healthy- aka gain weight". Yes it's a conscious decision to eat something but I can't shake the guilt knowing I could be healthier without it. Then I feel deprived if I decide not to eat it. Also, I feel like the one-bite rule is a little bit like “moderation”. That person that can take one bite of chocolate and put it back. Not this girl. One-bite rule cannot exist in my world, unless that bite is horribly underwhelming. Otherwise, sugar dragon takes over. 2. My other struggle with the article she posted is that yes, being conscious of your food choices is a constant effort, but in reading the article, I began to feel anxious. I was trying to evaluate what about it was making me anxious and I think that being that hyper-aware of every single decision starts to drudge up feelings of an eating disorder. When you’re that focused on any one thing, it starts to become an obsession, and that’s what I feel like I will be doing these holidays. Obsessing over every single decision and white knuckling my way through them trying not to binge because all those foods for me during the holidays are worth it. This probably makes me sound like a crazed cupcake maniac which prior to my whole30, I was. I’m a relatively healthy person now-a-days. I work out daily (usually 5 days per week) doing strength training and/or playing soccer. I continue to eat whole30ish until the week before my period when my sugar dragon wakes up on her own and sits on my shoulder watching my every move. Otherwise, she’s usually in check. My goal at this point is getting 6-pack abs. Am I superficial? Is this wrong? Am I a horrible person? I want to prove to myself that I can do this. Do I really need to get into the nitty gritty of counting carbs and calories for this? That’s part of my love for the whole30 is that I can eat until I’m full without counting these things. I am frustrated because I’ve been working for a long time to get there and it seems impossible. I am healthy otherwise, I don’t starve myself and the whole30 has been great in helping me be mindful of all these things, yet my desire to lose the last 10-15 pounds overrides other NSV for me. Has anyone else experienced this? I need some advice. This is a link to her article so you have an idea of what I’m talking about:
  10. Attention All Sugar Dragon Slayers! Read this.

    @Neva147 Thank you so much for your kind words. You're a doll I see in your other post you just started a reset. Good for you! You're going to kill it. You have all our support and if you need anything along the way, we'll be right here with you!!
  11. Attention All Sugar Dragon Slayers! Read this.

    @nanette09 Thanks for your reply! Great job on pushing through your whole30 despite all the push back we sometimes face. Like Melissa mentions in Food Freedom Forever, the issue is with them, not you. You keep on keepin' on, girl. I agree with you, those whole30 downloadable sheets are amazing. I've definitely been caught a time or two in the aisle talking to myself, my phone and my jar of dressing (WHY AREN'T YOU COMPLIANT?!) People have to think I'm crazy. I also have felt alone in my struggle at times. People criticize you until they realize how great you feel and look, then suddenly, they're genuinely interested in what you're doing. I'm trying now to figure out how to help support the most people through the whole30 in January. My sister (mind you is 17 years older than me) is stubborn as a mule and was pissed the entire first whole30 because she couldn't have ketchup. I'm like really? That's neither here nor there, but I'll definitely be on facebook and instagram. I'm thinking about posting my favorite 30 recipes and having a sort of check in every day to see how people are hangin' in there! My handle is @aimtogainfit. Hope to see you there! @Raven Ha, Thanks! Word vomiting. It actually felt really good to verbalize that stuff! #stayreal
  12. Hello!! I am new to the forum so allow me to introduce myself. I'm Abby and I'm a binge eater (Hi, Abby). I've struggled with binge eating (no purging but definite shame, guilt and anxiety), weight and self-confidence my whole life. My entire family is overweight with both my brother and sister having had gastric bypass surgeries. I’ve tried all sorts of diets that, as Melissa so sweetly puts it, never work. That was until I tripped and fell face first into the whole30. Now I’m a go-getter. I love challenges and I love to win. Whole30 was exactly that, a challenge, so of course, I took it head on. I immediately bought “It Starts with Food” because I need to know WHY I’m doing something. Do you ever have those things in life you know you want to accomplish but don’t know how? You’re wandering aimlessly but never get there? Then someone gives you direction, a road map on exactly how to achieve this and voila. Flood gates open and you’re a blood thirsty cheetah, full bore towards your meal (no pun intended). That’s what this book was to me. Every word made sense. It stopped me dead in my tracks because I knew this was what I needed to save my life. When I say this, don’t underestimate it’s meaning. We all know the physical benefits of improved health, but the mental aspects are equally, if not more important. Struggling daily with feeling like you’re “not-good-enough” and “why-don’t-I-have-6 pack-abs-like-those-models” takes its toll. You don’t need anyone to tell you how toxic that mindset is. You’ve already lost before you’ve even started. If you’ve felt this before, you’re not alone. This book also showed me that stuffing your face full of 3 packages of Oreos before your husband even gets home from work isn’t an issue of “willpower” but most importantly, the book showed me that I’m not crazy. I knew it, this was it. This is when I dragged my skeptical fiancé begrudgingly into doing our first whole30, who by the way, was training for a marathon #amazeballs. He not only completed the marathon but killed it, so please ignore recommendations not do to a whole30 if you’re planning on training for something, it’s possible. I had eaten pretty well before I ventured into my first whole30. I had done some research on “clean eating” and completed an Emily Skye program (diet and exercise). While she is amazing (stunning to boot), encouraging and a wonderful role model (especially for women), I needed a little more direction. I was eating all the things we think are “healthy” like whole grain toast, greek yogurt, granola bars, etc. So my transition into clean eating was quite a shocker. The only thing I really had to cut out going into the whole30 was grains and dairy. My first whole30 was in May 2016 which went splendidly, likely because I was in a daze for 30 days and had no idea what I was getting into. Then the day came. Have you met your sugar dragon yet? My first whole30 introduced me to mine. She is a raging hormonal female who seems to always be on her period. Oh, then she just found out her husband cheated on her, broke a nail, pants are too tight, has a bad hair day EVERYDAY and just got fired from her job. Needless to say, she’s a raging bitch and DOESN’T LIKE TO BE IGNORED. Until the 3rd week of my whole30 when my mother’s homemade chocolate cake with homemade buttercream frosting and of course, a heaping scoop of vanilla ice cream lay in front of me (commence internal struggle). Along with my family’s open jaws and bugged-out eyes in astonishment because I “didn’t want it”. Whoa, wait. What? It was no longer staring at me with that devilish grin. It was easily decided that there was no way in hell I was waking up Sugar Dragon Lady on day 25. Ohhhh hell no, she was finally sound asleep. Mind you, this cake is probably one of my most favorite things in the world, along with reese PB cups (hello sex in a foil wrapper). This was a monumental moment. Hello non-scale victories, #winning. 1 for the in-control-of-my-food-decisions, 0 for the EAT-ALL-THE-THINGS-bad-guys. It was this very moment that I knew that whole30 was just what I was looking for. That road map finally emerged from the glove compartment. Whole30 was going to give me directions to exactly what I wanted to accomplish. Oh, I’m also a Physician Assistant and I work with people who struggle with these kinds of issues every day. Thyroid disease, high blood pressure, diabetes, rheumatoid arthritis, depression and anxiety (the last two almost everyone struggles with at some point in their lives). I’ve prescribed the whole30 to several patients with inspiring results. You’d think I’d have my shit together as a PA but I don’t. Even your health care providers struggle with anxiety, depression and poor relationships with food, like on the daily. I never reintroduced at the end properly of my first reset. Which lead me to my second whole30. I proceeded with life whole30ish after my first attempt. I learned very quickly that Sugar Dragon Lady was mean and she liked to steal my energy. She had some nasty tricks up her sleeve for getting what she wants. She’s a little brat. I wanted to reintroduce the right way to see if other things were just as bad. To be honest, I didn’t miss grains or dairy but I also didn’t know if they aggravated me. I decided to do a September whole30 but did the things Melissa heeds warning not to do. I didn’t clarify my butter, I didn’t avoid the cashews cooked in soybean oil, and oh, I got married two weeks after it ended so I again, didn’t reintroduce. Well, I did. On our honeymoon. Apparently everything in sight was #worthit. Now I’m home, dragging, bloated and still convinced all our leftover wedding cupcakes are #worthit. Sugar dragon lady agrees. Not to worry though, we finished those off last night together. She’s in for a rude awakening. Back to whole30ish. I need another reset with a proper reintroduction but I know that isn’t going to happen with the holidays. Thanksgiving is definitely my favorite holiday. Not necessarily because of the food, because let’s be honest, I can make that meal anytime I want. It’s because of the family. I like it more than Christmas because there’s no pressure of gift giving, you can just enjoy family time. And harassment, and grandpa’s inappropriate questions about “making love” (wtf?) and mom’s subtle (not no subtle) mentioning “Abby doesn’t eat anything good anymore”. Love you too, mom. I’ve pre-ordered our head mistress’s new cookbook. I’ve got my sister, her wife, my best friend and my husband on board for a January whole30. I’m looking for others to share this reset with. Let’s share recipes, tips, tricks and let’s be honest, misery because this s#*t is hard. Oh and is it weird that I cried reading the last page of Food Freedom Forever? She gets me. Who’s in?? #Letskillit