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    praxisproject got a reaction from Hope4Overcomers in Round Two of Whole30 starting August 4th. Anyone with me??   
    Sneaking in your group although I'm Post-W30 I'll only post compliant stuff in here.
    Rebooting my Food Freedom habits, started 1st of August. I find Post-W30 a little harder than W30 (silly I know). I've done so many rounds over the years I don't count them anymore.
    I owe all of my successful rounds to the yummy Whole30 recipes of Mel Joulwan (which are also sometimes funny), here's one of her awesome posts with loads of resources: 
    http://meljoulwan.com/2017/01/02/whole30-resources-mega-post/
    Looking forward to dinner tonight, roast chicken! (bulk cooking tip -> two chickens at once!)
    https://nomnompaleo.com/post/26079656034/julia-childs-classic-roast-chicken
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    praxisproject reacted to gross067 in Leg cramps every morning!   
    I use a topical magnesium oil before bed and notice a STRIKING difference in my sleep.  I haven't started whole 30 yet, but I've been having bad leg cramps for some time.  I just realized i didn't get them last night after dosing myself with magnesium oil, but it could be coincidence. Something to consider! 
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    praxisproject reacted to Elizabeth33 in Round Two of Whole30 starting August 4th. Anyone with me??   
    I am hoping to start in Aug. I am getting ready now. I have done some protein prep that I put in the freezer and vacuum seal so no freezer burn. Grass fed burger pattie, homemade pork breakfast sausage, ground chicken (emergency food), also not pictured in turkey, sage, and walnut Meatloaf. 

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    praxisproject got a reaction from cristinamt in Are you new here? Welcome!   
    Is this your first Whole30? This is what it's all about
    http://whole30.com/new/
    There are lots of PDF downloads to help you out
    http://whole30.com/pdf-downloads/ including the fabulous Meal Planning Template
    Not sure what you can have? Whole30 Rules & Can I Have...
    You'll also find great info searching in the forum section Can I have...?
    http://forum.whole30.com/forum/6-can-i-have-___/
    Did you know there's Rules AND Recommendations?
    http://whole30.com/2015/01/rules-recommendations/
    It's early now, but bookmark the Timeline, it's really great http://whole30.com/2013/08/revised-timeline/
    Really want to complete your Whole30, might want to read this now - Do I really have to start over?
    http://whole30.com/2014/06/really-start-whole30/
    Welcome you've totally got this!
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    praxisproject reacted to chichi in What does "riding your own bike" mean to you?   
    @Advocado I'm curious if after a while you have a different understanding of the 'is it worth it' mentality. My 'journey' with this wasn't quick, and I sometimes think people that feel like they've abruptly changed their entire life are in a honeymoon period and haven't landed back into their real lives yet. It is hard. It took me 3 years of gradual, gradual changes to feel like I truly operate, mostly unemotionally and without stress, with an 'is it worth it' mindset. I can tell you what it looks like now, though the first year was not much like this at all! It was eating like I did before the Whole 30 and feeling guilty.
    Now, 3ish years after I started this thing, when we go out to a 'nice' place, I'll just choose things that I know are minimally troublesome, though they might certainly still have added sugar, soy, legumes, etc., and I have no problem simply asking for 'no dairy' (that's the worst for me, I don't even enjoy the expensive meal because my sinuses are stuffed up and my throat is itchy as soon as I eat it). I don't ask the server specifics, I just generally steer away from things that are likely going to make me feel like garbage later. But I might still have a glass of wine or two, and I might still feel like garbage the next day sometimes. It doesn't send me crashing wildly into failure land. It reminds me why I love feeling mostly good most of the time, and why I really want to eat cabbage and eggs and every day for breakfast.
    I didn't get 'rid' of less healthy things permanently. Today I ate a melted chocolate out of my delivery van's cupholder, and I was so very, very low blood sugar that it was 110% worth it, and I was very, very excited to get home and eat shredded chicken with avocado, greens, and mustard, cold out of the fridge. I drink about 2% of the alcohol I used to, and don't miss it at all. I don't plan my less healthy foods, I just don't think about food as much as I used to. My general habits and choices have changed. My 'comfort foods' are the things I always have on hand that I can rely on to make me feel good, well fed.
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    praxisproject reacted to kirkor in Mayo help!   
    Oh good lord.  This is one of those things that I thought, "C'mon, how bad could it possibly be??" and then one fateful day I was visiting my mom and wanted to make mayo and all she had on hand was EVOO, so again, "it can't possibly be as bad as people say.............."

    yep, it's that bad.
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    praxisproject got a reaction from naomi_munoz in What sayings help to keep you on track?   
    "it doesn't get easier, you get stronger"
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    praxisproject got a reaction from cristinamt in Are you new here? Welcome!   
    Is this your first Whole30? This is what it's all about
    http://whole30.com/new/
    There are lots of PDF downloads to help you out
    http://whole30.com/pdf-downloads/ including the fabulous Meal Planning Template
    Not sure what you can have? Whole30 Rules & Can I Have...
    You'll also find great info searching in the forum section Can I have...?
    http://forum.whole30.com/forum/6-can-i-have-___/
    Did you know there's Rules AND Recommendations?
    http://whole30.com/2015/01/rules-recommendations/
    It's early now, but bookmark the Timeline, it's really great http://whole30.com/2013/08/revised-timeline/
    Really want to complete your Whole30, might want to read this now - Do I really have to start over?
    http://whole30.com/2014/06/really-start-whole30/
    Welcome you've totally got this!
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    praxisproject got a reaction from cristinamt in Are you new here? Welcome!   
    Is this your first Whole30? This is what it's all about
    http://whole30.com/new/
    There are lots of PDF downloads to help you out
    http://whole30.com/pdf-downloads/ including the fabulous Meal Planning Template
    Not sure what you can have? Whole30 Rules & Can I Have...
    You'll also find great info searching in the forum section Can I have...?
    http://forum.whole30.com/forum/6-can-i-have-___/
    Did you know there's Rules AND Recommendations?
    http://whole30.com/2015/01/rules-recommendations/
    It's early now, but bookmark the Timeline, it's really great http://whole30.com/2013/08/revised-timeline/
    Really want to complete your Whole30, might want to read this now - Do I really have to start over?
    http://whole30.com/2014/06/really-start-whole30/
    Welcome you've totally got this!
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    praxisproject got a reaction from cristinamt in Are you new here? Welcome!   
    Is this your first Whole30? This is what it's all about
    http://whole30.com/new/
    There are lots of PDF downloads to help you out
    http://whole30.com/pdf-downloads/ including the fabulous Meal Planning Template
    Not sure what you can have? Whole30 Rules & Can I Have...
    You'll also find great info searching in the forum section Can I have...?
    http://forum.whole30.com/forum/6-can-i-have-___/
    Did you know there's Rules AND Recommendations?
    http://whole30.com/2015/01/rules-recommendations/
    It's early now, but bookmark the Timeline, it's really great http://whole30.com/2013/08/revised-timeline/
    Really want to complete your Whole30, might want to read this now - Do I really have to start over?
    http://whole30.com/2014/06/really-start-whole30/
    Welcome you've totally got this!
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    praxisproject got a reaction from cristinamt in Are you new here? Welcome!   
    Is this your first Whole30? This is what it's all about
    http://whole30.com/new/
    There are lots of PDF downloads to help you out
    http://whole30.com/pdf-downloads/ including the fabulous Meal Planning Template
    Not sure what you can have? Whole30 Rules & Can I Have...
    You'll also find great info searching in the forum section Can I have...?
    http://forum.whole30.com/forum/6-can-i-have-___/
    Did you know there's Rules AND Recommendations?
    http://whole30.com/2015/01/rules-recommendations/
    It's early now, but bookmark the Timeline, it's really great http://whole30.com/2013/08/revised-timeline/
    Really want to complete your Whole30, might want to read this now - Do I really have to start over?
    http://whole30.com/2014/06/really-start-whole30/
    Welcome you've totally got this!
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    praxisproject got a reaction from Holly1970 in Well, gained all my weight back! Having trouble finding a healthy balance Post-Whole30   
    Part of the balance is knowing what situations set you on a path that's unbalanced and working out ways to avoid them, or reduce the level of consequences to something you can live with. A reality check for me was really how unhealthy my old lifestyle was, going back to it was just a recipe for going back to being sick, all. the. time.
     
    For me, one of the things it's taken some time to come to terms with is that I can never eat whatever, whenever without consequence (I really don't know why this was a surprise, it's actually been like this my whole life). I was very ill before my first Whole30 and at that time I was mostly a whatever, whenever except that I was always trying to lose weight, so it was mostly VLCD, low carb whatever whenever, but it just didn't work. I didn't feel good, I didn't look healthy and I kept getting sick.
     
    Template meals help keep my health on track, eating to a regular schedule (keeping my hormones even, not all over the place), getting enough sleep and outright avoiding the foods I know come with serious consequences, for me (I've done quite a number of Reintroduction cycles (following multiple Whole30s) so I have a pretty good handle on what makes me thrive and what doesn't and even things I can tolerate some, they don't make me thrive and really, that's what I'm looking for.
     
    Gluten and most grains are just a complete derailment for my health. I tried doing a bit of moderation and stuff, but body said absolutely not to that for gluten and it's pretty unhappy about most of the grains if I have them in any volume (white rice least bad but still no good in high volume) and the after impacts aren't temporary it takes me some time to recover. Dairy is not a complete derailment anymore, but it's certainly not my wingman, more of a frenemy. As I have healed over time, my tolerance for dairy is continuing upwards, when whenever I add it back like a "normal person", it starts being a bumpy ride and I want to get off. For me, having dairy and grains together (like cheese on corn chips) has a multiplier effect, extra bad, extra consequences.
     
    I think I've been through my food grief completely now, a little denial to start with, at least one angry foot stamping temper tantrum, a bit of bargaining (that's yer slippery slope right there), a short period of self pity about how hard it all is getting sick from food other people can eat, and then, not sure really what changed, maybe just me, but now I accept it, I can rail against my reality all I want, but it isn't going to change it, getting off my butt and doing something to feel healthy is the only change I have available, so now I just get on with it.
     
    It's weird, I've had serious health problems in my life which I accepted a lot easier than this (ironically these are all gone now!), I think the idea that food can make us sick is a bit challenging in the modern world, even if it's a bit of a non event in some more traditional locations. I think one of the things my mind really struggled with, was how many of my old "habits" that I thought were healthy, were actually so negative and I just had no idea at the time. The past is something I just have to remember that I did the best I could at the time, with the knowledge I had. I didn't know then what I know now, so there's no point beating myself (or anyone else) up about it.
     
    Some things that have really changed for me over time (it's been a few years now), sometimes it's not just about food (really, It Starts With Food).
     
    Boundaries, Supporters and Influencers - Change & Growth
    After my first Whole30, I set some boundaries for myself about my work lifestyle (which I have made big changes to), changing jobs isn't quick or easy, but it's been one of the most pivotal changes for me. I couldn't be my healthier me without that change, my old job would have always held back my health (I never got enough sleep). I did a kind of "trial run" to see whether I could live with the change, not only could I, I thrived. Should have done it years ago.
     
    I now not only expect, but I demand that my friends and loved ones don't sabotage my efforts to protect my health. I don't expect them to give up anything and I don't care if they eat things I can't eat in front of me or go out to places I can't eat without me (or we just do fun stuff together where food is not the main focus), but putting bad stuff in my food or trying to make me or trick me into going out somewhere to eat where there is *nothing* I can eat safely is just something I no longer tolerate. Either my friends and loved ones want me to be healthy, or they don't, I'm not making myself sick to please or appease anyone else, ever again. Too many of us have been trained to eat what we're served, don't make a fuss, don't speak up, etc when it comes to food. Ignorance and well-intentioned mistakes are one thing, willfully sabotaging someone else's health is just nasty behavior and I'm quite willing to shed my life of anyone who treats me like that now.
     
    I was pretty surprised at the number of people I'd thought were nice normal humans who thought adding secret doses of gluten into my food was funny, clever or insightful (so I'd know I was imagining it), without any concern whatsoever for the consequences to me or my health. I was pretty shocked when some of them even saw the effects in person and then did it again! I had seen this kind of behavior before with those trying to lose weight (people trying to get them to eat cake, get drunk, eat unhealthily etc) but I was really very surprised at how willing some people are to poison another person with food intolerances, for their own enjoyment or weird issues. Some people weren't so aggressive, but they had their own passive aggressive versions, regularly "forgetting" not to contaminate shared items, pretending to me something was gluten free when they knew full well it wasn't. I didn't recognise this behavior in some people straight away (clearly I expect people to be nicer than they are), so if you're feeling unhappy about how others treat your food requirements, have a really serious think about how good a friend that person is to you (or family member, or colleague). I don't mean if they're "worth it" to put up with a certain level of abuse (cos really, that's a whole other type of unhealthy), but really, what influence do they bring to your life and your happiness. I found some people I thought were good friends, weren't really. I was a very good friend to them, but they were not always very good to me. I had a think about what I would tell a friend of mine, if they told me someone was treating them like that and I realised I would give them a different answer than I was justifying to myself (because I liked them and I really wanted to believe they were better people and I made a lot of excuses for pretty inexcusable behaviour), so I changed my approach. Glad to be rid of a bunch of toxic people from my life now, actually, this journey has really helped me identify positive people in my life and those who are more interested in their own agendas than in our relationships and my health and wellbeing  Interestingly the ones I shed, only ever contacted me afterwards when they wanted to use me in some way, to get something they wanted, with zero interest in how I was, what I was doing, etc. Further highlighting exactly why I'm better off without them For context, the remainders don't eat like I do, they're not Whole30, paleo or anything similar, so don't think lack of support just comes with the territory for those who eat differently.
     
    I've found some really amazing supporters in my life and I'm finding the more I surround myself with those positive growth-focused people, the happier my life is in general.
     
    I still have more health goals I want to achieve, but being sick was a long journey for me so I expect my recovery will just take some time and now, given how far I've come already, I'm really sure I can do it.
     
    Onwards, upwards!
     
    You can do this!
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    praxisproject got a reaction from Spoilergirl in Fast weight gain during reintroductions?   
    I always thought it was carbs too (ex-Atkins), but I don't get the same reaction from non-grain carbs, I'd just never tried it that way before my first Whole30, grains are pretty pervasive where I live, prior to Whole30 I don't think a single day of my life was wheat free (even my first baby cereal contained wheat and many Atkins & low carb products contain wheat & gluten).
     
    I've also found it's a multiplier. If I had wheat + dairy + soy + seed oils, the result is extreme. Each one gives me inflammation, but to different degrees. Wheat is the worst, but dairy amplifies all the others (pretty sure it punches little holes in my guts and all the other rubbish just invades my body through the holes). However some dishes contain several items by default (eg. takeaway pizza) and these are things I have to completely cut from my life, there is no 20% flexibility for me. A little dairy I can tolerate from time to time, but it's critical I don't mix it with any other inflammatories.
     
    A lot of doctors ignore inflammation "water weight", "fluid retention" etc.
    It has serious implications for the body and should not be ignored, it's not just water, there are markers in your blood too and they are not good.
    I have inflammation trouble with all of these: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prolamin
     
    I lost an entire cup size giving up wheat, at first I was horrified, then the horror actually sunk in that it was really inflammation, not a real part of my body.
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    praxisproject got a reaction from Selcazare in Autoimmune- So what CAN I eat?   
    If you're interesting in spices for AIP, you will want to read this http://www.thepaleomom.com/2012/07/spices-on-autoimmune-protocol.html
    As a note, Sichaun pepper is also a fruit like black pepper but is unrelated, so reactions may be different (reintroduce separately). It naturally creates a slight numbness in the mouth and is used in a number of cuisines across Asia.
     
    Avoid spice blends or anything with the generic "spices" as an ingredient, it could be everything on the irritant list.
     
    Some general info about nightshades and AIP http://www.thepaleomom.com/2012/08/the-whys-behind-autoimmune-protocol.html
     
    There's a number of AIP recipes here, but not all of them are Whole30 compliant http://www.thepaleomom.com/category/autoimmunity/recipes-autoimmunity
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    praxisproject got a reaction from Selcazare in W30 and "morbid obesity"   
    Last year I went from being incredibly sick, to feeling quite good AND losing weight (I have a huge amount of weight to lose, it's going to take quite a while).
     
    You don't need to measure calories to lose weight*, but you do need to be healthy. Don't just measure your progress in how your clothes fit, or a scale, measure your health, your muscle definition, your skin, your eyes, the whole everything.
     
    I'm also morbidly obese, some of my learnings over the last 12 months:
    Skipping breakfast messes with my appetite and my metabolism and not in a good way. It's a must, every day. I have massive inflammation, I didn't realise how bad it was until a bunch of it went away when I got rid of wheat & other grains. I did have improvement eliminating nightshades, but when re-introducing them, I kept the volumes low and 99% of the benefits too I was just having too many nightshades before. I may try the autoimmune protocol at some point, but not yet. I needed more fat and less protein (I was on high protein as I had been consistently burning up my muscle mass which was making me very sick). Volume of food and calories - I think I eat more food now (probably more calories too) than I have ever eaten in my life. I've been on some kind of restricted eating since I was 13. Counting calories doesn't work for me, if it did, I wouldn't be morbidly obese. I eat more and exercising less (I was a "chronic cardio" person) and I'm losing more weight, my doctor is surprised   Get treatment for any health issues you have, be persistent. I have chronic sinusitis, I've had surgery, the works. I have had more sinus improvement on Whole30 than in 7 years of professional treatment. Now I can breathe a lot better, it sure makes working out a lot easier I still have off days, but they're manageable. I'm pretty sure I have cortisol problems, which I'm waiting on tests for. I ditched cardio and switched to lifting heavy things and had a HUGE improvement (this may be the cortisol) in my health and weightloss. I also moved my workout to the evening and not the morning (cortisol levels are lower then). Keeping control of the sugar dragon and my blood sugar is critical to my health, anything that results in a sugar spike isn't a "treat" it's just mean to my body. For me, I have to watch the amount of starchy carbs I have, but I can still eat sweet potato and pumpkin regularly (I just have them in smaller amounts).  I've added magnesium, vitamin D3, CoQ10 and vitamin C supplements. The magnesium and Vitamin D3 make a huge difference. I'm now experimenting with natural food sources of Vitamin K too. Sleep is still my biggest issue, I need to get more of it, every day, consistently. I'm an ex-insomniac and I've worked rotating shift work for over 10 years and it's taken it's toll. I'm now in a 99% day job, but it sometimes has long hours and I have trouble staying awake too late. * the next time someone tells me the human body is a closed system, I will ask them when they last ate their own poop lol
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    praxisproject got a reaction from cristinamt in Are you new here? Welcome!   
    Is this your first Whole30? This is what it's all about
    http://whole30.com/new/
    There are lots of PDF downloads to help you out
    http://whole30.com/pdf-downloads/ including the fabulous Meal Planning Template
    Not sure what you can have? Whole30 Rules & Can I Have...
    You'll also find great info searching in the forum section Can I have...?
    http://forum.whole30.com/forum/6-can-i-have-___/
    Did you know there's Rules AND Recommendations?
    http://whole30.com/2015/01/rules-recommendations/
    It's early now, but bookmark the Timeline, it's really great http://whole30.com/2013/08/revised-timeline/
    Really want to complete your Whole30, might want to read this now - Do I really have to start over?
    http://whole30.com/2014/06/really-start-whole30/
    Welcome you've totally got this!
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    praxisproject got a reaction from Amb_Bomer in What does WholeLife look like for you?   
    I find really interesting how many things I don't want if they don't have cheese on them. Nachos, pizza, you get the idea. If there's no cheese I'd rather eat something else... so they're really cheese carriers.
     
    The interesting thing I found with dairy was when I cut it out completely, I didn't want it anymore, if I have a bit of dairy, suddenly I want All. The. Cheese. Well before that study was done, this reminded me of smoking (which I quit a long time ago). Now that I don't smoke, I never want one, a couple of times I got drunk with old friends visiting (who still smoke) and I had one, always wanted more if I did that. Have none, want none.
     
    This is the thing that really stops me from even thinking about adding dairy back as more than an occasional visitor. I don't like that it can trigger a kind of addictive behavior.
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    praxisproject got a reaction from Zenobia42 in MCT Oil   
    Just as a heads up, some people also have reactions to MCT oils, but don't have them with more natural forms of MCT, like coconut oil (which contains plenty of MCT without being refined or processed).
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    praxisproject got a reaction from cristinamt in Are you new here? Welcome!   
    Is this your first Whole30? This is what it's all about
    http://whole30.com/new/
    There are lots of PDF downloads to help you out
    http://whole30.com/pdf-downloads/ including the fabulous Meal Planning Template
    Not sure what you can have? Whole30 Rules & Can I Have...
    You'll also find great info searching in the forum section Can I have...?
    http://forum.whole30.com/forum/6-can-i-have-___/
    Did you know there's Rules AND Recommendations?
    http://whole30.com/2015/01/rules-recommendations/
    It's early now, but bookmark the Timeline, it's really great http://whole30.com/2013/08/revised-timeline/
    Really want to complete your Whole30, might want to read this now - Do I really have to start over?
    http://whole30.com/2014/06/really-start-whole30/
    Welcome you've totally got this!
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    praxisproject got a reaction from cristinamt in Are you new here? Welcome!   
    Is this your first Whole30? This is what it's all about
    http://whole30.com/new/
    There are lots of PDF downloads to help you out
    http://whole30.com/pdf-downloads/ including the fabulous Meal Planning Template
    Not sure what you can have? Whole30 Rules & Can I Have...
    You'll also find great info searching in the forum section Can I have...?
    http://forum.whole30.com/forum/6-can-i-have-___/
    Did you know there's Rules AND Recommendations?
    http://whole30.com/2015/01/rules-recommendations/
    It's early now, but bookmark the Timeline, it's really great http://whole30.com/2013/08/revised-timeline/
    Really want to complete your Whole30, might want to read this now - Do I really have to start over?
    http://whole30.com/2014/06/really-start-whole30/
    Welcome you've totally got this!
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    praxisproject got a reaction from cristinamt in Are you new here? Welcome!   
    Is this your first Whole30? This is what it's all about
    http://whole30.com/new/
    There are lots of PDF downloads to help you out
    http://whole30.com/pdf-downloads/ including the fabulous Meal Planning Template
    Not sure what you can have? Whole30 Rules & Can I Have...
    You'll also find great info searching in the forum section Can I have...?
    http://forum.whole30.com/forum/6-can-i-have-___/
    Did you know there's Rules AND Recommendations?
    http://whole30.com/2015/01/rules-recommendations/
    It's early now, but bookmark the Timeline, it's really great http://whole30.com/2013/08/revised-timeline/
    Really want to complete your Whole30, might want to read this now - Do I really have to start over?
    http://whole30.com/2014/06/really-start-whole30/
    Welcome you've totally got this!
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    praxisproject got a reaction from LisaZ in Does anyone else feel nervous about fat?   
    A big lesson for me was the amount of nutrients that *require* fat for you to absorb them.
     
    I used to be deficient in all of these, when I lived my low fat life:
    http://nourishedkitchen.com/fat-soluble-vitamins/ - Vitamins A, D, E & K
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    praxisproject got a reaction from Raven in ADHD success stories?   
    I know a few parents who have seen great ADHD results through removal of gluten, dairy and even preservative 282 (aka Calcium Propionate - often in bread products and flour, you will not be excited to find out it's used in manufacturing as a mould retardant, ugh  ).
    Preservative 282 is a fairly recent mainstream additive in Australia and gets quite a bit of coverage in the media here as at certain times, it was almost impossible to get bread or flour without it and for some people (including children), the reaction can be extreme. http://fedup.com.au/information/fin-campaigns/bread-preservative-research
    Also, SWYPO does not apply to kids
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    praxisproject got a reaction from Lea Mint in Husband/Wife/Spouse/Partner Not With the Program?   
    Mom2A&M - We've been together 11 years and I've had quite a few changes to my eating over the years, he generally is very supportive, but gets pretty confused about what you can and can't have as he measures everything by "I like this" and "I don't like this", he's never been on a diet in his life lucky duck. That said, he knows how important it is to me and how important it is to my health. He thought the Whole30 thing was a bit silly to begin with, but he could see the difference during reintroduction, how things impacted my health. I think it really hit home when I tried to do the gluten challenge (bailed out Day 8 when the heart palpitations got scary), I knew I'd feel sick so I wasn't surprised when I got ill, but he really freaked out, he could see how sick I was and wanted me to go to hospital emergency immediately and stop the challenge. In hindsight he actually assessed that better than I did, I didn't realise how sick I was getting, but he could see it was far beyond "okay". I was so determined to complete it so I could have the test, I let it go too far.
     
    Now sometimes I occasionally get a "is that really what you want?" comment, which I'm really happy with He likes this question better than "are you allowed this?" He likes rules, so doesn't have any difficulty understanding the concept. Sometimes I don't eat what I really want, I make something quick instead and it's good when he calls me on any shortcuts
     
    I don't try and get him to eat paleo, he's very healthy and doesn't gain weight and isn't a person who responds well to pushing of anything. If he wants to change things, he will, I'll let him do whatever in his own time, he's not sick and has no urgent needs to change anything. He's pretty 80/20 on junky stuff anyway, he likes vegetables and good food, but he doesn't like to fuss about what he eats. He cooks his own meals and we've often eaten like that over the years (cook our own meals) as many of the foods we like are not mutually loved
     
    I've found when it was a cause of stress between us, sometimes he struggled with explaining why it was stressful, sometimes I'm not sure he understood why it was stressing him. Spending too much time in "food jail" I think is always a contributing factor, I didn't always spend this much time in the kitchen before, so it was a lifestyle change.
     
    The other thing that was a change, which we've now found a happy balance for is food shopping. He hates all forms of shopping, it's written all over his face if he has to do it. He used to come to farmers markets and things, but he was so miserable it made me miserable. We now get meat and veggies delivered so they only thing we shop for is stuff like washing powder and he's much happier with that Actually, I am too!
     
    Writing it out like this makes me realise, both of the big changes were time related.
     
    If you're taking extra time to do something, you're usually taking it from somewhere and in my case it was taken from quality time together. Getting groceries delivered gives us a whole stack of quality time back
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    praxisproject reacted to Real Food Y'all in Am I a horrible person?   
    Any of our feelings of your body image/goals aside, I think the guilt you feel should be part of your "worth-it" rubric. If eating a cupcake is going to cause you inner turmoil, then you have to decide if that guilt is worth it - not just the potential fat loss stagnation, etc.