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    kaybee got a reaction from suzannes in Sugar Addict? Is it possible to actually do this?   
    I think we all have something we struggle with. I remember reading ISWF in October, and "wishing" I could do the whole30. I kept thinking "I want to do this, but NO WAY can I give up wine, pasta/bread, sugar for 30 days. I just couldn't". I continued to lament the fact that I felt like crap pretty much all the time. I decided I would "try" to do the Whole30, but I really didn't think I could. I was extremely wishy-washy, I mean, I drink wine pretty much every day! Toast and hot chocolate were part of my daily routine. Finally something clicked, and I realized that I had exactly two choices: 1. Do the whole30 and feel better. 2. Not do it, continue as I was and feel like crap. Those were my only two options, I made myself choose. I chose to do the Whole30. This might sound crazy, but did you sign up for the daily email? I did, and for some reason, that little message in my Inbox everyday, rooting me on, holding me accountable at the end of the day for whether I ate clean or not, made all the difference. I can't really explain it, it's such a small thing. In the book it says something about how we'd all like to think that we can eat everything in moderation, but the bottom line is our brains can't always handle it. I know that's true for me, I would constantly justify why it was okay to eat what I wanted. I never denied myself, if I was being honest. The Whole30 takes the decision making part out of the equation. If you are doing the Whole30, you don't eat it. End of story. No decision to be made. So, when I'm tempted I think "is this going to be worth throwing the past xx days out the window?" (16 days, in my case, so far). And the answer is most definitely NO. It's only 30 days. I have sweets in my house, but somehow I don't see them and I don't think about them. If I do start craving something, I tell myself I can have it in 14 more days. Cheating isn't an option. Can you somehow convince your brain of that?
    You also have only two choices:
    1. continue being a sugar addict,
    or
    2. do the Whole30 and change.
    Pause each time you consider cheating, and ask yourself if it's worth it, worth throwing away all your progress.
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    kaybee got a reaction from invinciblechar in Pretty please: don't claim food allergies if you don't have them.   
    And I say this with love and respect, friends. I know it's difficult to order in restaurants. Believe me, I'm fretting about it myself, and I own, manage and wait tables at a restaurant. There are a few good reasons why I ask you not to do this. The first has to do with The Boy Who Cried Wolf, we all know what this means. The more people that claim fake allergies, the less seriously allergies are taken. And this is a huge problem. Huge. Especially for people with real allergies, whose lives could literally be at stake. The second has to do with procedure. When a guest tells their server they have a food allergy, the manager becomes involved (should, at least) to consult with both the guest and the chef on what can be done and what cannot be done. The kitchen then comes to a screeching halt* as the kitchen has to extra sanitize most every single thing in the kitchen, pots, pans, stoves, sometimes even the oven to make sure there's no cross-contamination from other food in the kitchen. I'm talking way above and beyond what we already do. The manager must oversee this and ensure that the proper food gets to the guest and that it's correct. It's stressful, and you know why? Because we know that with an allergy this person is potentially placing their life in our hands. So at this point you might be thinking "So what? I want this kind of care taken with my food". Well, it doesn't need to be this way in order to have your food carefully prepared. You have dietary constraints (that's what they are) that you need taken into account? Just say so. Yes, it's true! Any decent restaurant will be glad to make you what you want, assuming it's not completely off menu and/or 7:30 on a Saturday night. Here's why: restaurants want you to be happy, they want you to feel taken care of. Honestly. Even better, if you really want to be comfortable with the situation and make your ordering a breeze, call ahead the day before (in the afternoon, not during dinner rush). Speak with a manager or the chef if possible, tell then you have dietary constraints, no need to go into detail, just tell then what you need. When they ask if it's an allergy, say no. They will be relieved that killing you is something they don't have to worry about. They will discuss the options and constraints with you and be prepared when you arrive. That's really all you have to do. Any decent restaurant will be happy to comply.
    Please consider my plea the next time you think about claiming food allergies. "Dietary constraints" = much better and very do-able. :-)
    *Some bigger, newer restaurants have competely separate areas of their kitchen with separate equipment and a separate cook, just for food allergies. Most restaurants do not.
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    kaybee got a reaction from j9bee in Day 16 No noticeable weight loss.   
    Why would you feel bummed and unsuccessful? It's not all about the number on the scale -- that's just a measurement of your relationship with gravity, don't let it define you! This is not a weight loss plan, its a plan to make you more healthy. Can you honestly say there are no other benefits? And let me remind you, you're only about halfway through. It's a 30-day (or longer) plan, not a 16 day plan. If you don't have a lot of weight to lose you likely won't see a dramatic change in that little number, but how is your sleep? Your skin? Your energy level? Give it a chance, and don't measure your success with a random number.
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    kaybee got a reaction from jennifersn in W30 Approved Italian Sausage?   
    I got some at WF. The brand is "The Original Brat Hans", they're chicken sausage. They have both mild and spicy, no msg, nitrates, nitrites or antibiotics. The ingredients are: chicken, roasted green peppers, roasted red peppers. Then it says "contains less than 2% of the following: chicken broth, anise, black pepper, fennel, mustard, extract from oregano, paprika, red pepper, salt.
    Bonus: they're quite tasty and very juicy.
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    kaybee got a reaction from SpinSpin in The crazy things people say   
    The "no carb" thing really drives me bonkers. It's like people just can't get their head around it, they need it to fit into a little box they already think they understand.
    The W30 FB page can drive me nuts, too. Particularly when people say something like "I woke up today with a 104 degree fever, chills, and hacking cough. I think this 'diet' is making me sick and I should quit". Yes, it must be that. Eating healthy is making you deathly Ill, not the severe flu that's going around. *rolls eyes*
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    kaybee got a reaction from SpinSpin in The crazy things people say   
    The "no carb" thing really drives me bonkers. It's like people just can't get their head around it, they need it to fit into a little box they already think they understand.
    The W30 FB page can drive me nuts, too. Particularly when people say something like "I woke up today with a 104 degree fever, chills, and hacking cough. I think this 'diet' is making me sick and I should quit". Yes, it must be that. Eating healthy is making you deathly Ill, not the severe flu that's going around. *rolls eyes*
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    kaybee got a reaction from alissafoo in W30 is so great it's bumming me out.   
    I apologize for being crabby, I'm just frustrated right now...
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    kaybee reacted to Xandra in Full of anger (at myself)! Why can't I make the right choices?   
     
    I do know what you are talking about, and here's what worked for me.  When I battle myself, I lose. When I have arguments in my head or I'm fighting myself over "choices", I lose. So what works for me is to lose the drama. I don't give myself choices, or make decisions, or have arguments, or make deals over "just a little bit this one time only on Tuesday afternoon"....  It simply doesn't work for me to do that, so now I don't even start the conversation.
     
    I'm following an eating plan. Here it is in writing, this is what I eat. If it's on the list, I'm eating it. If it's not on the list, there's no discussion or debate or planning or anything. There's no fight because I refuse to fight myself. The plan is the plan and I'm on it. That's all I need to know for the next two months. And when the drama is gone, there is peace in my head, and it's all relatively easy and I can go think about things that are more important in my day.
     
    That's what works for me.
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    kaybee reacted to JJB in Full of anger (at myself)! Why can't I make the right choices?   
    I'm sure lots of people can relate, and I'm certainly one of them. I don't have any desire to do additional W30's, but I definitely want to get off the off-roading roller coaster and just be content to eat good, healthy food every day. It sounds like maybe you've been at this for the same amount of time as me (this whole year) and I'm not quite there yet either. I figure if it takes me a year or more to get things straightened out, that's really not so bad...I've been eating terribly for 36 years after all. Big changes can't always be made overnight, even if we think that's what we want or that we should be able to do it. I have a pretty uncomfortable reaction whenever I eat gluten (never noticed pre-W30), but I blew it off for the last 6 months...and it was just this past weekend that I finally decided I've had enough, and I WILL be gluten-free from now on. And then I talked myself into allowing some sugar for awhile, because I'm depressed about giving up the gluten for good! The holiday season really is a terrible time to try and be good, isn't it?? I know I can do better, but I decided I will allow some candy or other treats off and on until January, when I will get serious again.
     
    One thing I know for sure is that getting angry at myself usually ends up backfiring. I've been trying to let that go lately. When I eat something I wish I hadn't, I just try to move on and not inflict too many mental wounds.
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    kaybee reacted to drtracyb in Full of anger (at myself)! Why can't I make the right choices?   
    Kaybee - I have fallen off the wagon more times than I can count, even when I have a specific goal with a reward (like a beautiful trip to Puerto Vallarta).  I freely acknowledge I have an eating disorder.  And like any addiction, it is going to be with me for life.  I do what I can to make sure the eating disorder does not take over my life.  By taking over, I mean by making me heavier than I want to be, not able to fit in my fun clothes, not liking how I look and feel.  My solution is to basically pay someone to hold me accountable.  I have been in every diet plan known to man.  I have paid for more groups of personal training sessions than I can remember.  But this is the first time I have been on a forum like this one, with a community of supportive individuals sharing a similar experience.
     
    I am currently losing the same 20 lbs for the billionth time.  (Not to mention the 40 or 80 beyond those, but luckily that additional 40-80 have been off for a while - I had to do gastric bypass for those.)
     
    It relieves my judgment of myself to freely acknowledge I have an eating disorder.  All I can say is, I come from a family of addictive behaviors, and there are worse addictions.  Unfortunately, a food addiction affects how we feel about ourselves and is harder to go cold turkey from.
     
    Hang in there.  Every day is a fresh start.
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    kaybee got a reaction from Irish Rose in Feeling....pudgy.   
    Okay, I was thinking the exact same thing -- I eat way more than that! Glad I'm not the only one. For a second I panicked that I was eating too much...(am also pretty active)
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    kaybee reacted to 1Maryann in Struggled..... "Failed"   
    It isn't a failure until you stop trying.  Until then, it's just a learning experience.
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    kaybee reacted to Robin Strathdee in Feeling....pudgy.   
    It's also important to note that if your body has been significantly undernourished, you may experience a period of weight gain before your body trusts your new eating habits enough to lose.  
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    kaybee got a reaction from Robin Strathdee in Stopping Whole30 early, then restarting again...   
    I like this thread too. Thanks for posting. I agree that being able to consciously make healthy choices about food being the desired end of the W30. I certainly see the value in completing the 30 days -- which you have many times before -- but you've been there/done that and know what you want out of this. It's a constant learning experience. I think you did the right thing even though the cake wasn't 'all that'.
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    kaybee got a reaction from SpinSpin in The crazy things people say   
    The "no carb" thing really drives me bonkers. It's like people just can't get their head around it, they need it to fit into a little box they already think they understand.
    The W30 FB page can drive me nuts, too. Particularly when people say something like "I woke up today with a 104 degree fever, chills, and hacking cough. I think this 'diet' is making me sick and I should quit". Yes, it must be that. Eating healthy is making you deathly Ill, not the severe flu that's going around. *rolls eyes*
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    kaybee reacted to Whole Amy in RIP Heath -o-Meter   
    I did it...I threw away my scale!  It is officially in the dumpster outside my house, I will never have to get on that thing again and feel terrible about myself!  I have gotten on the scale at least daily for years...except for my whole30 when I stayed off of it and then got on it to find out I had not lost weight and then felt bad!  
     
    What blew my mind when I was looking at it was that it the brand is "Heath-o-Meter"!!!  LOL - it is a far cry from a device that measures health.....for me it was a constant source of pain. 
     
    From now on I will measure my health in the following ways by:
    1) Sticking to three meals a day of good protein, fat and carbs
    2) How often I am eating in a calm environment sitting down
    3) Trying on my jeans to see how they fit
    4) Assessing how I am reacting to stress in my life
     
    Today is a new chapter!!!
     
     
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    kaybee reacted to Carlaccini in W30 is so great it's bumming me out.   
    Yes it's about figuring out what is special and what isn't special. 
     
    The key is - if you embrace rules - write your own rules, exceptions, and the like.  Use what you have learned during your whole 30 and create your own rules to riding your own bike.  I find this helps immensely and helps me put things in perspective greatly.
     
    Do I have those days that I feel like whinning?  Yep!  But then I need to put into perspective....  Do I want to feel more better, or less better?  And yes there are days that I don't give a sh*t.   Those are days that I don't wish to repeat often.  But they happen, and I own up and move on.....
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    kaybee reacted to Tom Denham in Day 22 and I feel like hell   
    That you know not only how much you have lost in 22 days, but that you have not lost anything in the last 4 days, tells me that you are probably not eating enough. The same people who choose to ignore the guideline about not weighing themselves often make up their own guidelines about how much to eat and turn the Whole30 into a calorie-restricted diet. Your being cranky and exhausted is a big clue too.
     
    Start following the meal template guidelines for eating: http://whole9life.com/book/ISWF-Meal-Planning-Template.pdf
    The guidelines include recommendations to increase from one to two palm-size portions of protein if you are hungry between meals. You may have forgotten what hungry feels like. You may need to eat 1.5 palm-size portions of protein just to be safe. And a full plateful of cooked veggies. Raw veggies are harder to digest and take up more space than cooked and you almost certainly need more veggies, not less. 
     
    And as Robin mentioned, be sure to get some starchy veggies like sweet potato into the mix. Carb sources like sweet potato make many people feel much better when they eat them.
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    kaybee reacted to Nadia B in W30 is so great it's bumming me out.   
     
    If a pity party launches I say to myself: "You have no idea what's going on with these people. You have no idea if they suffer or not/binge or not/beat themselves out/starve/obsessively counting calories. Appearance has nothing to do with actual health markers". It's about your well being, not theirs. There is no magic formula, just finding your personal balance. I just feel that there are so many ways to find "pleasure response" food gives us in other areas. Food just happens to be the most convenient but least satisfying in a long run. Sorry, just being honest. 
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    kaybee reacted to Carlaccini in W30 is so great it's bumming me out.   
     
    This - This!! Mom2A&M this hits the nail right on the head.  I've had days of feeling like this, throwing tantrums in my head. I have to eat Whole 30 + nightshade free most of the time in order for me not to have a 3 day menstral migraine.  You know what - some days it just sucks, especially when you see someone eating much loved old foods in front of you, then asking you if you miss eating it.  And can't you just have it just this once?
     
    I have come to the conclusion about grains - I miss the convenience of them, and the ease of preperation.  But that is all I miss.  I don't miss what they do to me.
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    kaybee reacted to Mom2A&M in W30 is so great it's bumming me out.   
    I think I'm starting to realize that I'm mad that I can't have it all. I see people carelessly eating whatever and probably never feel like shit after! Maybe I'm more upset with this crazy body of mine than I am actually craving foods. I think I crave the "carefree" eating/lifestyle more. Can you say therapy!! Lol!
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    kaybee got a reaction from ginjaswag in W30 is so great it's bumming me out.   
    Weird, I know. I LOVE how I feel on the w30, my body feels like great, I have tons of energy, and my digestive system is not calling attention to itself in any way (no heartburn, gas, etc). I want to eat this way ALL the time, I want to feel this great 24/7. So, why not just go paleo then? Here's the thing: I'm not ready to give up pasta, bread, wine, cheese, cocktails, etc. The thought of doing so bums me out, yet I also don't want to go back to feeling crappy. My life pretty much revolves around food and booze (not excessive booze, mind you). I'm in the restaurant business, as are most of my friends. My husband and I take great pleasure in seeking out new spots for a cocktail or a fabulous meal. We travel to different cities to eat & drink as well. I have a conundrum! How can I reconcile the two? I suppose the more W30s I do, the easier it will be to lean this way. My husband is very supportive of W30, willing to eat in for the entire month so I'm not tempted, which is great. But I keep thinking about what will happen when this is over (I'm on day 12 of my second w30). I feel like I don't do well with moderation, apparently I'm more of a rules gal. Who knew? I know that if I went to a restaurant, I wouldn't order the grilled fish with veggies. I'd 100% be going for the pasta with the sausage and cheese. If I did order the healthier option, I'd feel pissy and deprived. My brain will not cooperate!
    How have others reconciled the greatness of w30 with the off-plan foods they love without trashing your body?
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    kaybee got a reaction from alissafoo in W30 is so great it's bumming me out.   
    Excellent point, alissafoo. Yesterday was the first bad day I've had this time around. It was very much a "what's the point?" kind of day. Feeling a little better today. It's helpful to know I'm not alone in feeling this way, and I re-read the W30 timeline and it seems I'm pretty much in line with that, too, emotionally. I know it will pass...my husband (very supportive!) keeps reminding me how great I felt last time, and that over time I can integrate W30/paleo principles more and more, that it won't happen overnight. I'm glad at least one of us is sane right now!
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    kaybee reacted to alissafoo in W30 is so great it's bumming me out.   
    I struggled with the food grief too. I would say for now, don't worry that far in advance and just stick to the plan.  Tell yourself you can have it when the 30 days is up and then you can decide.  Otherwise don't beat yourself up now for something that won't happen for a few weeks!  It's not the Whole365.
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    kaybee got a reaction from alissafoo in W30 is so great it's bumming me out.   
    I apologize for being crabby, I'm just frustrated right now...