Renee McCarty

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    Renee McCarty got a reaction from stephanie_0 in Can of Pumpkin Puree?   
    I actually love it just with a little coconut oil and cinnamon, heated. Tastes much like other winter squash to me... I had it for breakfast this morning!
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    Renee McCarty got a reaction from Marceeruns in So Much Fat!!   
    Yes that is so helpful! I have a friend who is doing this with me, she has weighed twice in the first week (she's losing and it shows!) and she's tracking calories. I am trying so hard to put a stop to the obsessive part of my food issues, that I think hearing about what she is doing is tweaking my fear and perfection/control issues. I just had the most wonderful chicken curry for breakfast, made with coconut milk, and I am not going to feel guilty about it! I am going to trust the process!
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    Renee McCarty got a reaction from Tom Denham in If You Ever Thought of Giving Up Trying to Lose Weight   
    Thank you Suzy for being so courageous and sharing your story. I am 53 years old and at 5'3", I weighed 240 4 years ago. I was depressed, had sleep apnea, arthritis, and felt terrible about myself. Over 1 1/2 years, I lost 60 lbs on Nutrisystem. But it is expensive, so finally had to jump off and into the real world. I didn't know at the time that it is really unhealthy as well! I decided to take a short-cut and did HCG - 3 times. I got to my "goal weight" of 175 (I know, still plump, but wanted to learn to live in this body..." but have steadily put 20 lbs back on over the past year, no matter what I did. In addition, the HCG ruined my hormones to the point where I don't know if I'll ever be able to lose that weight again. I am on Day 24 of my first Whole30, and I have to tell you that even though I don't think I've actually lost any weight, I feel fabulous. And it is so freeing to not weigh everyday, not obsess about counting calories, not having to weigh my grams of protein... I have more time! I am smiling more! My husband says he doesn't care if I never lose another pound as long as I am happy, because I have been so obsessed and miserable for the past 2 years that it was hard for him to watch.
    I hope I do drop a bunch of weight when I get back into balance, but in the meantime I am learning to love myself and not have my self worth be based on the number on the scale, or the label in the back of my pants!
    Keep up the awesome work!! We can totally do this!!
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    Renee McCarty got a reaction from stephanie_0 in Can of Pumpkin Puree?   
    I actually love it just with a little coconut oil and cinnamon, heated. Tastes much like other winter squash to me... I had it for breakfast this morning!
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    Renee McCarty got a reaction from megmac in If You Ever Thought of Giving Up Trying to Lose Weight   
    I want to be like you, Suzy... that's why I'm doing this and sticking with it beyond just 30 days. It's not about being some skinny minny little girl, I am a 54 year old grandma with big breasts and saggy skin from losing weight. If I can get back to 175 lbs I'll be doing a happy dance! I will never fit into a spaghetti strap tank top in the summer, or skinny jeans. But I want to be healthy and strong and be a good example to my grown kids and my grandkids. I want to have self discipline and not feel like I have no control over what I put into my mouth... I want to love myself enough to change... Thanks for sharing!!
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    Renee McCarty got a reaction from megmac in If You Ever Thought of Giving Up Trying to Lose Weight   
    I want to be like you, Suzy... that's why I'm doing this and sticking with it beyond just 30 days. It's not about being some skinny minny little girl, I am a 54 year old grandma with big breasts and saggy skin from losing weight. If I can get back to 175 lbs I'll be doing a happy dance! I will never fit into a spaghetti strap tank top in the summer, or skinny jeans. But I want to be healthy and strong and be a good example to my grown kids and my grandkids. I want to have self discipline and not feel like I have no control over what I put into my mouth... I want to love myself enough to change... Thanks for sharing!!
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    Renee McCarty got a reaction from megmac in If You Ever Thought of Giving Up Trying to Lose Weight   
    I want to be like you, Suzy... that's why I'm doing this and sticking with it beyond just 30 days. It's not about being some skinny minny little girl, I am a 54 year old grandma with big breasts and saggy skin from losing weight. If I can get back to 175 lbs I'll be doing a happy dance! I will never fit into a spaghetti strap tank top in the summer, or skinny jeans. But I want to be healthy and strong and be a good example to my grown kids and my grandkids. I want to have self discipline and not feel like I have no control over what I put into my mouth... I want to love myself enough to change... Thanks for sharing!!
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    Renee McCarty got a reaction from megmac in If You Ever Thought of Giving Up Trying to Lose Weight   
    I want to be like you, Suzy... that's why I'm doing this and sticking with it beyond just 30 days. It's not about being some skinny minny little girl, I am a 54 year old grandma with big breasts and saggy skin from losing weight. If I can get back to 175 lbs I'll be doing a happy dance! I will never fit into a spaghetti strap tank top in the summer, or skinny jeans. But I want to be healthy and strong and be a good example to my grown kids and my grandkids. I want to have self discipline and not feel like I have no control over what I put into my mouth... I want to love myself enough to change... Thanks for sharing!!
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    Renee McCarty got a reaction from megmac in If You Ever Thought of Giving Up Trying to Lose Weight   
    I want to be like you, Suzy... that's why I'm doing this and sticking with it beyond just 30 days. It's not about being some skinny minny little girl, I am a 54 year old grandma with big breasts and saggy skin from losing weight. If I can get back to 175 lbs I'll be doing a happy dance! I will never fit into a spaghetti strap tank top in the summer, or skinny jeans. But I want to be healthy and strong and be a good example to my grown kids and my grandkids. I want to have self discipline and not feel like I have no control over what I put into my mouth... I want to love myself enough to change... Thanks for sharing!!
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    Renee McCarty reacted to Suzy in If You Ever Thought of Giving Up Trying to Lose Weight   
    Those were the things I said that I believe were the most offensive to people. I still hold to what I said, now more than ever, actually, since I see how psychologically damaged some people can get over talking about fat. Maybe society needs more talk about excess fat instead of tiptoeing around it. I wasn't saying that being 20 or even 40 extra pounds overweight was going to kill a person in and of itself, I was saying that being overweight is an indicator that a person hasn't been as healthy as she could be. When I healed my bad food habits, I gained muscle and got leaner. And I'm not skin and bone, girlfriends, I'm 162 lbs of womanly, muscular triumph! I don't need to get thinner than this. I like what I eat and my level of exercise and this is me now. I healed my lifestyle, thereby healing my body. See?
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    Renee McCarty reacted to Seana H in If You Ever Thought of Giving Up Trying to Lose Weight   
    I have typed several responses and not posted them - as I want to remain calm and not confrontational. But now, I have to speak out.
    Those of us that (1) feel that our weight is unhealthy for ourselves, and (2) choose to make weightloss one of many goals in our Whole30 are sharing our own feelings and experiences. Pomme, you feel judged and that we are hitting your triggers by discussing our very personal and painful feelings?? Then don't participate in this thread. It is just like me not wanting to read about cauliflower recipes because I hate cauliflower and it makes me nauseous. You have a choice to participate or not - please don't sling mud as you walk out the door. It's ok. We won't judge you for not wanting to participate.
    We are all mature adults that have a life full of feelings about health, weight, and body image. We all deserve to have our own feelings. Am I 60lbs overweight? Yes. Does it bother me? Yes. Do I know that my husband doesn't find me attractive anymore? Absolutely. But these are MY feelings. I could care less if anyone else is 60lbs over where they want to be? If you want to say "it's ok to be fat" then do it. I don't even know you or what your concept of "fat" is. I do know that I started a Whole30 because I felt unhealthy, bigger than I wanted to be, and so irritable that I was not being the mother I wanted to be to my children.
    So I am going to support Suzy, Lauraska, and anyone else on this thread and others that are opening up with some VERY personal feelings. Because I have a choice to stay on a thread, or not. We all have our "triggers" who is anyone to say that my triggers aren't as important as their own? The irony is that you are judging the rest of us.
    And the moderators have done exactly what they should. We don't need babysitters, here. We are all adults.
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    Renee McCarty reacted to KelKel in If You Ever Thought of Giving Up Trying to Lose Weight   
    I'm just gonna throw this in here...like a bomb...of LOVE!
    Something that I think is important to keep in the back of our minds when we're talking about weight...especially amongst ladies...is that no matter how hard you try, it's always going to be a totally loaded issue, because society is setting us up to fail.
    We've spent our whole lives being told that thin = better. Every. Single. Day. Thin = healthy. Thin = beautiful. Thin = acceptable. If you lose weight you're a winner, if you gain weight you're a failure. Some of us try very hard and very deliberately to break that thinking, but it's like pushing honey uphill.
    It can also be very hard to untangle those feelings of just wanting to be healthier, when you hear back is 'omg you look so good since you lost weight!' 'omg you're looking skinny, it's hot!'... Like to the world, it doesn't matter that I feel a bajillion times better, what's important is that I'm a smaller dress size.
    So the point is (I have one, I swear) is that it's damn hard talking about this stuff, it's even bloody harder feeling this stuff. So whatever you're thinking about it, if you've thought about it critically, and you're making the right choices for you, and you're respecting other people, then you're doing it right.
    You're doing it right!
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    Renee McCarty got a reaction from Tom Denham in If You Ever Thought of Giving Up Trying to Lose Weight   
    Thank you Suzy for being so courageous and sharing your story. I am 53 years old and at 5'3", I weighed 240 4 years ago. I was depressed, had sleep apnea, arthritis, and felt terrible about myself. Over 1 1/2 years, I lost 60 lbs on Nutrisystem. But it is expensive, so finally had to jump off and into the real world. I didn't know at the time that it is really unhealthy as well! I decided to take a short-cut and did HCG - 3 times. I got to my "goal weight" of 175 (I know, still plump, but wanted to learn to live in this body..." but have steadily put 20 lbs back on over the past year, no matter what I did. In addition, the HCG ruined my hormones to the point where I don't know if I'll ever be able to lose that weight again. I am on Day 24 of my first Whole30, and I have to tell you that even though I don't think I've actually lost any weight, I feel fabulous. And it is so freeing to not weigh everyday, not obsess about counting calories, not having to weigh my grams of protein... I have more time! I am smiling more! My husband says he doesn't care if I never lose another pound as long as I am happy, because I have been so obsessed and miserable for the past 2 years that it was hard for him to watch.
    I hope I do drop a bunch of weight when I get back into balance, but in the meantime I am learning to love myself and not have my self worth be based on the number on the scale, or the label in the back of my pants!
    Keep up the awesome work!! We can totally do this!!
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    Renee McCarty got a reaction from Jessica M. in Freaking out about end of 1st Whole30   
    I confess, I am frightened about finishing the Whole30. I do not believe I have lost any weight, which is disappointing because I really need to lose some. I must be one of the 5% that doesn't. But I feel really good otherwise, and my hubby is totally on board with eating Paleo permanently. He wants to add in a little dairy, I am allergic to casein so that's out for me anyway. I agree with jayelle though, I have been dreaming about oatmeal!! I think I'm going to take a few days off, take a couple of deep breaths, have a glass of wine, and get right back on next week. I really want more "magic" than I got this time...
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    Renee McCarty reacted to megmac in If You Ever Thought of Giving Up Trying to Lose Weight   
    I've been following this thread but have hesitated to add to it because it has gotten...well...just plain bizarre. But now I feel like I really want to add my 2 cents.
    I have read and re-read these posts, and find it to be about people overcoming their personal obstacles and working toward their personal goals. It's about people being honest with themselves, and with others. And even more than that, it's about a bunch of us that really want to become healthier-both emotionally and physically. Once and for all. That means something different to every one of us.
    I have gained 20 pounds in the last 4 years. Mostly around my middle. I don't like the way I look. I don't like the way I feel. And I know it affects me as a wife, mother, friend, and employee. I know I have increased my health risks because of this weight gain. I am on this journey because I want to change my emotional and physical relationship with food forever. I believe I will be healthier as a result of that. The details are different for each of us, but I am venturing to guess we all have at least one goal in mind-better sleep, clearer skin, to get off medications, to lose body fat, reduce allergies, etc.
    I don't see that anyone is judging my goal, and I'm not judging theirs. If we are confident in ourselves, nothing anyone else says can really change that. Often I find what stings me the most is the truth. And my "triggers" are often the things that I am least confident about...and most need my attention.
    Maybe it's time to let this one go.
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    Renee McCarty reacted to Renee Lee in If You Ever Thought of Giving Up Trying to Lose Weight   
    Pomme,
    I'm sorry you feel that way. Personally, I feel like that the only person that has control over my feelings and reactions is me. While I would expect others to respect my opinions on things, I certainly can't expect them to change their behavior. The only thing I can do is disengage.
    In this thread, there's a lot of, "Hey, I used to be in a REALLY bad, negative, unhealthy place, but I wound up overcoming it and I feel a lot better about myself. Yay me!" Tbh, especially because I've been there and had a similar experience, I think that this dialogue is awesome! And if it was Whole30 that helped them get there, all the better!
    From my perspective, It's not disrespect towards you and your triggers. Rather, it's a celebration of them and overcoming THEIR struggles.
    Whole9 encourages people to break up with their scales, because the number doesn't actually tell you anything...but that doesn't mean that losing significant amounts of weight (as a side effect of improving health) is not something to be proud of.
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    Renee McCarty got a reaction from Tom Denham in If You Ever Thought of Giving Up Trying to Lose Weight   
    Thank you Suzy for being so courageous and sharing your story. I am 53 years old and at 5'3", I weighed 240 4 years ago. I was depressed, had sleep apnea, arthritis, and felt terrible about myself. Over 1 1/2 years, I lost 60 lbs on Nutrisystem. But it is expensive, so finally had to jump off and into the real world. I didn't know at the time that it is really unhealthy as well! I decided to take a short-cut and did HCG - 3 times. I got to my "goal weight" of 175 (I know, still plump, but wanted to learn to live in this body..." but have steadily put 20 lbs back on over the past year, no matter what I did. In addition, the HCG ruined my hormones to the point where I don't know if I'll ever be able to lose that weight again. I am on Day 24 of my first Whole30, and I have to tell you that even though I don't think I've actually lost any weight, I feel fabulous. And it is so freeing to not weigh everyday, not obsess about counting calories, not having to weigh my grams of protein... I have more time! I am smiling more! My husband says he doesn't care if I never lose another pound as long as I am happy, because I have been so obsessed and miserable for the past 2 years that it was hard for him to watch.
    I hope I do drop a bunch of weight when I get back into balance, but in the meantime I am learning to love myself and not have my self worth be based on the number on the scale, or the label in the back of my pants!
    Keep up the awesome work!! We can totally do this!!
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    Renee McCarty got a reaction from Tom Denham in If You Ever Thought of Giving Up Trying to Lose Weight   
    Thank you Suzy for being so courageous and sharing your story. I am 53 years old and at 5'3", I weighed 240 4 years ago. I was depressed, had sleep apnea, arthritis, and felt terrible about myself. Over 1 1/2 years, I lost 60 lbs on Nutrisystem. But it is expensive, so finally had to jump off and into the real world. I didn't know at the time that it is really unhealthy as well! I decided to take a short-cut and did HCG - 3 times. I got to my "goal weight" of 175 (I know, still plump, but wanted to learn to live in this body..." but have steadily put 20 lbs back on over the past year, no matter what I did. In addition, the HCG ruined my hormones to the point where I don't know if I'll ever be able to lose that weight again. I am on Day 24 of my first Whole30, and I have to tell you that even though I don't think I've actually lost any weight, I feel fabulous. And it is so freeing to not weigh everyday, not obsess about counting calories, not having to weigh my grams of protein... I have more time! I am smiling more! My husband says he doesn't care if I never lose another pound as long as I am happy, because I have been so obsessed and miserable for the past 2 years that it was hard for him to watch.
    I hope I do drop a bunch of weight when I get back into balance, but in the meantime I am learning to love myself and not have my self worth be based on the number on the scale, or the label in the back of my pants!
    Keep up the awesome work!! We can totally do this!!
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    Renee McCarty reacted to Tom Denham in If You Ever Thought of Giving Up Trying to Lose Weight   
    YES! As a moderator, I've been looking for the right way to speak up in this conversation, but now I can just say goddesslynne has said it well. Thank you!
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    Renee McCarty got a reaction from Tom Denham in If You Ever Thought of Giving Up Trying to Lose Weight   
    Thank you Suzy for being so courageous and sharing your story. I am 53 years old and at 5'3", I weighed 240 4 years ago. I was depressed, had sleep apnea, arthritis, and felt terrible about myself. Over 1 1/2 years, I lost 60 lbs on Nutrisystem. But it is expensive, so finally had to jump off and into the real world. I didn't know at the time that it is really unhealthy as well! I decided to take a short-cut and did HCG - 3 times. I got to my "goal weight" of 175 (I know, still plump, but wanted to learn to live in this body..." but have steadily put 20 lbs back on over the past year, no matter what I did. In addition, the HCG ruined my hormones to the point where I don't know if I'll ever be able to lose that weight again. I am on Day 24 of my first Whole30, and I have to tell you that even though I don't think I've actually lost any weight, I feel fabulous. And it is so freeing to not weigh everyday, not obsess about counting calories, not having to weigh my grams of protein... I have more time! I am smiling more! My husband says he doesn't care if I never lose another pound as long as I am happy, because I have been so obsessed and miserable for the past 2 years that it was hard for him to watch.
    I hope I do drop a bunch of weight when I get back into balance, but in the meantime I am learning to love myself and not have my self worth be based on the number on the scale, or the label in the back of my pants!
    Keep up the awesome work!! We can totally do this!!
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    Renee McCarty reacted to Seana H in If You Ever Thought of Giving Up Trying to Lose Weight   
    Dear CAK911,
    I feel that this thread is very supportive and accepting. Weight is a truly personal matter and I believe each person has their own struggle with their body image, and we should respect that. I don't feel that anyone here (or on this forum as a whole) is putting out blanket statements that being "fat" is bad...we are all commiserating and sharing our feelings about how we feel about our bodies. What "being fat" means to each of us is for us to decide for ourselves.
    I am on Day 22 and the past 3 weeks has completely changed my outlook for the better. But do I still feel like I'm carrying 50lbs extra weight and I hate it? Yes. Do I still feel unattractive to my husband? Yes. But only I can choose what that means for me. It's not about a number, it is about how I feel about myself.
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    Renee McCarty reacted to lauraska in If You Ever Thought of Giving Up Trying to Lose Weight   
    I've always been fat, too, and nothing here offended me at all. It's just a difference of opinion and I sort of like that people have been able to respectfully debate about it in this thread. I don't think anyone was attacking anyone else or being unsupportive. As I said in one of my posts, I think that what the medical community classifies as obese (through the BMI scale) is ridiculous, BUT I do think there is a line, that is specific to each person, where weight goes from being a virtual non-factor to having some real health consequences. I don't think it's right to judge a person based solely on their weight, but I also think it's a slippery slope to say we shouldn't be encouraging healthy weight loss at all because it doesn't have anything to do with health. It is not the end-all-be-all of health, but it IS a factor, whether we like to believe it or not.
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    Renee McCarty reacted to Suhug123 in If You Ever Thought of Giving Up Trying to Lose Weight   
    Suzy, I love this post! I am on my second Whole 30 while my aunt and best friend are both doing WW. I feel such a relief and freedom from the crazy diet mentality. I shared all of my first Whole30 experiences and results with both of them but neither one was willing give up certain habits (diet soda, small daily sweets, preparing fresh meals at home etc.). When they tell me about their weekly dates with the scale it makes me sad because I know what a false sense of self those numbers give you temporarily. I am happy to no longer get on a scale. I feel better, clothes are fitting a bit looser and that is good enough for me!
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    Renee McCarty reacted to MamaDrew in If You Ever Thought of Giving Up Trying to Lose Weight   
    This is a fabulous thread, I'm glad I found it I too have been in WW multiple times over the years and my weight has always been up and down. At my heaviest I was 195. I had lost that and gotten down to 148 (over a couple years) and then went back up to 185 (again over a few years) and back down to 150. Right now I'm about 158. I too am addicted to the scale and will admit I have gotten on it a couple times during my Whole30 bad i know. But I have lost a couple pounds, I was around 160 when I started and I'm on Day 23. More than the weight I feel so much better and as I get closer to day 30 and I'm working out I can actually see great changes in my body. I will stay Paleo and continue exercising because it makes me feel happy! I have to stop worrying about a number!
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    Renee McCarty reacted to Suzy in If You Ever Thought of Giving Up Trying to Lose Weight   
    A Whole30 is not a plan for weight loss, but rather a template for overall better health that might include losing weight for those that need it. I just wanted to share a place I went before I stumbled upon Whole9 with the people who are struggling with weight issues. It was a dark, horrible place for me.
    My weight profile was the most common one in first world countries: I was overweight, teetering on the brink of obesity. I actually was technically obese, being 5'5 and about 194 at my worst. What got me up to that number was binging and dieting, over and over in a cycle. It's a boringly familiar story.
    From Spring 2011 to January of last year, I was on Weight Watchers. WW is THE worst thing you can do if you want a healthy relationship with food. It makes you obsess about food volume and arbitrary point-counting (the points system is designed to keep what you're eating a mystery and keep you reliant on WW for life). And WW changes their program, just ever so slightly, every couple of years, so you have to buy all their new program material to keep up. And no one who works at WW will tell you about that. You have to find that out on your own and quit eventually. Then the next bunch of desperate, overweight people, mostly women who just want to be valued by society, file into these horrible meetings. Ugh. I needed to rant about that, thanks.
    So, there I was after WW this time last year. I thought, maybe this is just how I am. I missed the slim youth boat. At 32, I felt old and fat. So I just tried to pick up the pieces from years of yo-yo dieting and try and accept. I found this site: http://www.bodylovewellness.com/ I'm sorry to the well-meaning Golda Poretsky who created this, but this was the deepest point of despair, the darkness before the dawn, that helped me search for health instead of being ok with being sick and fat. This woman is a life coach for obese women. She says that it's ok to be fat. It is NOT okay to be fat. Being obese is your body's way of telling you that your lifestyle is WRONG for you. She says to love yourself, you have to give up. I say to love yourself, sometimes you have to change yourself. The thing that helps the most is realizing that certain foods out there are addictive, like sugar and flour, and getting away from them will give you a clarity you've never experienced before.
    I found Whole9 in summer of 2012. I lost over thirty pounds in a period of about 5 months. It was an awesome experience that I can't shut up about. With another Whole30 (actually a W100), I'm losing more.
    What do you think about changing in order to love yourself? The act of changing things IS love to me.