MamaToJakers

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    MamaToJakers got a reaction from Suzy in If You Ever Thought of Giving Up Trying to Lose Weight   
    My first time posting on the forum ... I was so moved by your post and the stories of others. Thank you for sharing. All of my WW experiences have been awful, leading to more obsession with food, counting, etc. Finally, with the whole30, I am not counting. I am eating when hungry and food is DELICIOUS! I am only on day 11 and I struggle daily with my food demons. I'm terrified that I will go back to my old habits when I'm done. I'm terrified that I will quit. I'm hoping to change my relationship with good and, frankly, I am shocked I've made it this far. Part of me thinks that has just as much to do with the concepts of the whole30 as it does with my (strength, willpower, whatever you want to call the forces that have kept me compliant for the past 10.5 days).
    Anyway, just wanted to chime in and say I appreciate everyone's honesty and I am glad to know there are others on a similar journey.
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    MamaToJakers reacted to lauraska in If You Ever Thought of Giving Up Trying to Lose Weight   
    I read this today and thought of all of you. It's a little terse, as Jezebel posts tend to be, but I thought the message was a good one.
    http://jezebel.com/if-you-must-think-about-your-weight-here-are-10-things-508925649
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    MamaToJakers reacted to Moluv in If You Ever Thought of Giving Up Trying to Lose Weight   
    A few years ago I read a pretty cheesy 80's diet book from the thriftstore called "Intuitive Eating". While most of their food selections were dead wrong (read: lowfat) I just ignored all of that (I already knew better) but took away from this book what I still view to be one of the most helpful pieces of advice I've received and it is this: Love yourself exactly where you are. Love yourself so much that you will only allow the very best for yourself. Don't say, "when I lose x amount of pounds I can get some new clothes"- get the new clothes now for the size you are. Wear really comfortable undergarments and shoes. Don't buy cheap crap because you don't like your size. That is basically sending the message to yourself that you don't deserve nice things, that you are not worth the effort or expense. It is from that place of loving and caring for yourself that good decisions flow from. So yes, loving self=changing self, but not in a linear equations, it's more of a neverending spiral.
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    MamaToJakers reacted to lauraska in If You Ever Thought of Giving Up Trying to Lose Weight   
    I've been reading and catching up on this thread and wanted to say THANK YOU to all of the people who had such kind supportive words to say, not just to me, but to others who shared parts of themselves in this thread. I am not very good at being open about things like this and you made it possible for me to share memories that I haven't shared with anyone other than a couple select family members.
    I was inspired to come over to this thread this morning after something very nice happened to me this morning. So here's a little story for you all that literally just happened an hour or so ago that reminded me that beauty is subjective but it's okay to acknowledge your own...
    I work on an ivy league college campus FULL of traditionally gorgeous co-eds. As a staffer, I'm used to sort of being in the background of college life. I walked into Starbucks this morning, as I do every morning, and ordered from the new guy - very young (I'm 35..he was probably 20?) and quite handsome, although I admit I didn't really notice until he started talking to me. He took my order and then said, "You know, your necklace is beautiful." I thanked him and said it was my grandmother's. He said she must have had great taste. I gave him my credit card and he asked for my ID, as I have "ask for ID" written on the card. But then he just held on to my ID and kept staring it. I was starting to get uncomfortable when he looked up and said, "Sorry, I was doing the math. Are you really 35?" At first, I was like, who is this freakin' kid and why is he announcing my age to all of Starbucks? Does he think I look 45?? But then he was like, "I'm sorry. It's just, I saw your wedding ring and assumed you must have gotten married really young because I really thought you were a student." At this point, everyone behind the counter has stopped to stare at him with looks of utter terror on their faces because I think they thought I was going to flip out. I said, "Well thank you, but I am indeed 35 with a two year old kid and I haven't been a student in almost a decade. You made my day, though!" He told me he swore it wasn't a line ("I have a girlfriend!," he said.)...he really just thought I was the prettiest woman he'd served coffee to all morning and he wanted to let me know.
    The moral of this story is that he didn't see the poochy post-baby belly that I see, or the chubby fingers that I despise, or the uneven pigmentation on my arms and legs, or hastily pulled back hair because I desperately need a haircut, or the imperfect teeth that show when I smile. He saw beauty. We should all see in ourselves what others see in us.
    Anyway, sorry for the novel. I just had that happen this morning and instantly thought of this thread. Hope everyone is well.
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    MamaToJakers got a reaction from Suzy in If You Ever Thought of Giving Up Trying to Lose Weight   
    My first time posting on the forum ... I was so moved by your post and the stories of others. Thank you for sharing. All of my WW experiences have been awful, leading to more obsession with food, counting, etc. Finally, with the whole30, I am not counting. I am eating when hungry and food is DELICIOUS! I am only on day 11 and I struggle daily with my food demons. I'm terrified that I will go back to my old habits when I'm done. I'm terrified that I will quit. I'm hoping to change my relationship with good and, frankly, I am shocked I've made it this far. Part of me thinks that has just as much to do with the concepts of the whole30 as it does with my (strength, willpower, whatever you want to call the forces that have kept me compliant for the past 10.5 days).
    Anyway, just wanted to chime in and say I appreciate everyone's honesty and I am glad to know there are others on a similar journey.
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    MamaToJakers got a reaction from seaglassgreen in Day 11... I want to give up   
    BTW, I have to add that I came from the Standard American Diet amplified by 1 million, meaning I had terrible eating habits - mostly processed food, dairy, little to no veggies, some fruit, and lots of eating out. So.....that's another reason this has been so hard for me....and another reason that I am trying to remember to be proud of myself for making it this far without cheating. It's a big deal. Even one day at a time is hard....it's more like one moment at a time, one decision at a time.
    Blah blah blah, sorry to blather on!
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    MamaToJakers got a reaction from Suzy in If You Ever Thought of Giving Up Trying to Lose Weight   
    My first time posting on the forum ... I was so moved by your post and the stories of others. Thank you for sharing. All of my WW experiences have been awful, leading to more obsession with food, counting, etc. Finally, with the whole30, I am not counting. I am eating when hungry and food is DELICIOUS! I am only on day 11 and I struggle daily with my food demons. I'm terrified that I will go back to my old habits when I'm done. I'm terrified that I will quit. I'm hoping to change my relationship with good and, frankly, I am shocked I've made it this far. Part of me thinks that has just as much to do with the concepts of the whole30 as it does with my (strength, willpower, whatever you want to call the forces that have kept me compliant for the past 10.5 days).
    Anyway, just wanted to chime in and say I appreciate everyone's honesty and I am glad to know there are others on a similar journey.
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    MamaToJakers got a reaction from Suzy in If You Ever Thought of Giving Up Trying to Lose Weight   
    My first time posting on the forum ... I was so moved by your post and the stories of others. Thank you for sharing. All of my WW experiences have been awful, leading to more obsession with food, counting, etc. Finally, with the whole30, I am not counting. I am eating when hungry and food is DELICIOUS! I am only on day 11 and I struggle daily with my food demons. I'm terrified that I will go back to my old habits when I'm done. I'm terrified that I will quit. I'm hoping to change my relationship with good and, frankly, I am shocked I've made it this far. Part of me thinks that has just as much to do with the concepts of the whole30 as it does with my (strength, willpower, whatever you want to call the forces that have kept me compliant for the past 10.5 days).
    Anyway, just wanted to chime in and say I appreciate everyone's honesty and I am glad to know there are others on a similar journey.
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    MamaToJakers got a reaction from Suzy in If You Ever Thought of Giving Up Trying to Lose Weight   
    My first time posting on the forum ... I was so moved by your post and the stories of others. Thank you for sharing. All of my WW experiences have been awful, leading to more obsession with food, counting, etc. Finally, with the whole30, I am not counting. I am eating when hungry and food is DELICIOUS! I am only on day 11 and I struggle daily with my food demons. I'm terrified that I will go back to my old habits when I'm done. I'm terrified that I will quit. I'm hoping to change my relationship with good and, frankly, I am shocked I've made it this far. Part of me thinks that has just as much to do with the concepts of the whole30 as it does with my (strength, willpower, whatever you want to call the forces that have kept me compliant for the past 10.5 days).
    Anyway, just wanted to chime in and say I appreciate everyone's honesty and I am glad to know there are others on a similar journey.
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    MamaToJakers got a reaction from Suzy in If You Ever Thought of Giving Up Trying to Lose Weight   
    My first time posting on the forum ... I was so moved by your post and the stories of others. Thank you for sharing. All of my WW experiences have been awful, leading to more obsession with food, counting, etc. Finally, with the whole30, I am not counting. I am eating when hungry and food is DELICIOUS! I am only on day 11 and I struggle daily with my food demons. I'm terrified that I will go back to my old habits when I'm done. I'm terrified that I will quit. I'm hoping to change my relationship with good and, frankly, I am shocked I've made it this far. Part of me thinks that has just as much to do with the concepts of the whole30 as it does with my (strength, willpower, whatever you want to call the forces that have kept me compliant for the past 10.5 days).
    Anyway, just wanted to chime in and say I appreciate everyone's honesty and I am glad to know there are others on a similar journey.
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    MamaToJakers got a reaction from Kirsteen in Day 11... I want to give up   
    Thanks so much Kirsteen. I do feel better this morning and am going to do my best to tackle the day.
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    MamaToJakers got a reaction from Suzy in If You Ever Thought of Giving Up Trying to Lose Weight   
    My first time posting on the forum ... I was so moved by your post and the stories of others. Thank you for sharing. All of my WW experiences have been awful, leading to more obsession with food, counting, etc. Finally, with the whole30, I am not counting. I am eating when hungry and food is DELICIOUS! I am only on day 11 and I struggle daily with my food demons. I'm terrified that I will go back to my old habits when I'm done. I'm terrified that I will quit. I'm hoping to change my relationship with good and, frankly, I am shocked I've made it this far. Part of me thinks that has just as much to do with the concepts of the whole30 as it does with my (strength, willpower, whatever you want to call the forces that have kept me compliant for the past 10.5 days).
    Anyway, just wanted to chime in and say I appreciate everyone's honesty and I am glad to know there are others on a similar journey.