calikatie

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    teen eating junk food when out with friends

    Thanks, @ladyshanny. That kind of talk sounds inspiring. As far as the donuts twice a year, my point was more illustrative. (It's not like I have an alarm on my phone that says "Six months have passed, you can have a second donut." I can't actually remember the last time we had a donut.) I meant to give context that she is not so sugar restricted at home that she might be reacting to too strict a diet - we have the usual chocolate Easter bunnies and eggs, Halloween candy, other treats, etc. that most families do. It's just not a daily thing.
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    teen eating junk food when out with friends

    Thank you @GoJo09. I will look for that article. It sounds really helpful.
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    teen eating junk food when out with friends

    I would like to chill, laura_juggles, but when the pediatrician says she is concerned about a 15-pound weight gain in one year and passing out from blood sugar fluctuations, and I observe her eating junk food every day and all weekend, it is a problem, which is why I posted here. To be clear, I'm looking for suggestions on how to help a teen who is in sugar addiction make better choices when she has the autonomy to purchase her own food. I'm not pushing off a mental disorder, but the first line of treatment for ADD (in addition to or instead of medication) is cutting back on carbs and sugar, and exercise. (I know because I went through that myself. After five years of medication for ADD that barely touched it, meditation, exercise and a low sugar diet made a huge difference.) I don't think the issue is 2 doughnuts or 25, it's how she can make good choices when she has free reign outside the house.
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    teen eating junk food when out with friends

    Thank you so much for your thoughtful reply, Shannon! We have discussed it together with her pediatrician twice - she also was was concerned that my daughter gained 15 pounds over a year of middle school without adding much height, and has fainted from low blood sugar! (My daughter also started complaining of ADD symptoms over the past year and asked the doctor if she could be tested, and I'm pretty sure it is the brain fog she is in from her food choices.) I think you're right about doing it because her friends do (her new best friend's diet consists of little more than chicken, white rice, pasta, and smoothies). And I think she has a sugar/carb addiction. (My mom told me that what we eat during pregnancy influences our children's food preferences, and I had a lot of broccoli but a lot of ice cream and pizza bc of morning sickness - lol and thanks, mom!) I tried for a long time to provide healthy snacks for when she goes to friends' houses, like air-popped popcorn and kombucha and LaCroix, but she turned them down (I'm sure in favor of more enticing snacks at their houses). I get that part of the thrill of being a young teen is finally having the autonomy to spend your own money to indulge in Doritos and muffins and frappucinos. I'm going to agree with you that it is partially the confidence to make her own decisions in spite of what her friends are doing - try grabbing an apple and nuts when your three besties are eating oversize pretzels and Jamba juice at the mall - I can imagine it is hard! At home, we are all good - she loves to cook and has surprisingly no complaints about our crazy healthy Paleo and Whole30 meals and snacks. And we do have the Whole30 cookbooks that she likes to look through!
  5. I am at a loss with how to stop my teen daughter from eating junk food when she is out with friends. At home, we have always had a very healthy diet - no sodas or junk food, lots of fish and greens, etc. I'm also not super strict - ice cream and cake for celebrations, or desserts when out at fancy restaurants, pizza and lemonade with the basketball team, even the occasional 'what the hell' doughnut (twice a year). And my daughter's weight and energy was fine until middle school. But as soon as she was old enough to go with her friends to Starbucks or fast food after school, and go to sleepovers where the parents are in bed hours before the kids, her sugar consumption went nuts. She is athletic, but she is a carb addict. I have tried EVERYTHING to get her not to indulge on a daily basis in muffins, brownies, chicken nuggets, and chips. I've spent a fortune on "healthy" bars to keep in her backpack, and delivered everything from sushi to brown rice and chicken to her after school before she goes off with her friends. It's a losing battle. She might skip a day of treats, but the very next day, she is sharing a bag of cookies with them on the walk home from school. Weekends are the worst as she comes home from sleepovers having a) gone to bed really late and b) binged on sweets, so it's a double whammy of fatigue and crankiness the entire next day where she struggles to do homework or chores. I have tried cutting off her spending money so she can't buy treats, but her friends will cover her, and their parents take them for ice cream and give them access to a pantry full of junk food. My question is, should I just let this go, and feed her well when she is home and not worry about the thousands of calories in sugar she's getting everywhere else? She cares about her weight and complains that her clothes don't fit her (I'd say she's easily 15 pounds overweight now - she weighs as much as I do and she is 14 and 3 inches shorter). My other hope is that if I can string together a few consecutive weeks this summer where she is Whole30 or at least Paleo, she'll see that the sugar is an addiction and try to control it herself. But I'm already dreading that as I know the second she goes out with a friend, they'll be eating junk. How do I help her set up good habits without constant nagging and even fighting about the frequent sugar binges?