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    BookJockey got a reaction from mfustos in Not doing this for the right reasons--history of eating disorders   
    Emphasis mine added. Thank you, @ladyshanny for this kind and insightful answer. This is why I love Whole30, it is ostensibly about being kind to your body and yourself.
    As someone who's also had a lot of trouble with very disordered eating in high school and college (but who is, admittedly, many years farther away from those days than @fmb16 is), I feel this post hard. I had a lot of trouble with this on my first Whole30 last year. I wasn't weighing myself, but constantly measuring myself and I was not always in the best of mental spaces, especially at first.
    I decided to stick with it after a lot of soul searching. Whole30 was making me feel a lot better in ways that had nothing to do with weight loss (my autoimmune disorder wasn't plaguing me with constant mystery illnesses, aches, and pains, my chronic indigestion was almost non-existent, I was feeling more alert, I was finally escaping the calorie counting nightmareland of my 20s, etc). It took a lot of effort to focus on that stuff more than the weight loss aspects, and to stop measuring myself. Trying to focus instead on all the other positives gave my overthinker brain something else to do. In the end, sticking with it was good for me, but that may not be the right decision for you, and that is, as stated above, 1000% ok.
    Whatever you decide to do, do it with love and kindness towards yourself and your body. You are worth it.
    P.S. I want to commend your bravery posting this here, and your insight in recognizing this in yourself, as they say, the first step is identifying when there's an issue.
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    BookJockey reacted to mfustos in Not doing this for the right reasons--history of eating disorders   
    Hi @fmb16 - You have my full support! Feel free to dm me at any time. I have gone through anorexia several times myself, and while it has been quite a while since I was in the throws of it, I will always be recovering. There are times that I notice myself going down "the path" and I know something has to be done. For example, this is my 5th or 6th W30 and I am doing it for very different reasons than the others. I had a baby almost 11 mos ago and started letting myself eat whatever was around - both because it was easy, and because I thought I deserved it as a reward. Fast forward to December and I was constantly saying to myself "Oh, I can have this chocolate cake as a treat today, I'll just make sure I'll eat better tomorrow." but as you can guess, tomorrow never came. I started to just not care what I was putting into my body at that point and quickly realized that the next "step" for me would be to completely panic and overcorrect my misguided food journey by cutting way too much food out of my life; slowly going down that road that I know all too well: obsession with what goes into my mouth and guilt over what I do put there. I decided at that very moment I needed another Whole30 to get my relationship back on track with food. If you haven't read the book "It Starts with Food" I highly recommend it. I am the type of person that wants to know the science and reasoning behind why I do things and what works and doesn't, so reading this book gave me a ton of information on how our body utilizes food and how it affects our brain's ability to produce chemicals and receive transmissions between nerves and such. It also made me realize that food and I shouldn't be enemies and food shouldn't be a "reward" or "punishment"...it is my fuel. It is what helps me think clearly, sleep soundly, have energy, control my anxiety and depression, and have everything I need to take care of my baby. I do also agree with @ladyshanny and what she said. We all need to show ourselves a little more compassion (I am up for any advise on how to do this myself...I struggle with this a lot). Do know that if you decide to make the decision to step back from the program and regroup, that you can always reach out to me to talk to. I know exactly how you feel and I want you to know that you are not alone in this. I wish I would have had a forum like this when I was actively struggling with my eating - please reach out if you need to. 
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    BookJockey got a reaction from mfustos in Not doing this for the right reasons--history of eating disorders   
    Emphasis mine added. Thank you, @ladyshanny for this kind and insightful answer. This is why I love Whole30, it is ostensibly about being kind to your body and yourself.
    As someone who's also had a lot of trouble with very disordered eating in high school and college (but who is, admittedly, many years farther away from those days than @fmb16 is), I feel this post hard. I had a lot of trouble with this on my first Whole30 last year. I wasn't weighing myself, but constantly measuring myself and I was not always in the best of mental spaces, especially at first.
    I decided to stick with it after a lot of soul searching. Whole30 was making me feel a lot better in ways that had nothing to do with weight loss (my autoimmune disorder wasn't plaguing me with constant mystery illnesses, aches, and pains, my chronic indigestion was almost non-existent, I was feeling more alert, I was finally escaping the calorie counting nightmareland of my 20s, etc). It took a lot of effort to focus on that stuff more than the weight loss aspects, and to stop measuring myself. Trying to focus instead on all the other positives gave my overthinker brain something else to do. In the end, sticking with it was good for me, but that may not be the right decision for you, and that is, as stated above, 1000% ok.
    Whatever you decide to do, do it with love and kindness towards yourself and your body. You are worth it.
    P.S. I want to commend your bravery posting this here, and your insight in recognizing this in yourself, as they say, the first step is identifying when there's an issue.
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    BookJockey got a reaction from 1of3isme in Daily bathroom habits with less fruit   
    Seconding @ElizabethG - I don't get sugar cravings from fruit, especially not when I eat it the Whole30 recommended way (with a protein and/or as part of a larger meal) but if I have it on it's own, it tends to just make me hungrier after. Apple alone is good, but I'll be hungry again in 30 minutes to an hour. Apple + prosciutto or banana + nut butter, etc is a really satisfying snack to tide me over between meals if I need it.
    I eat about 1 or 2 fruits per day, and again, just never a piece of fruit on it's own. Fruit helps keep me regular too, particularly apples it seems, so I get where you're coming from!
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    BookJockey reacted to ElizabethG in Daily bathroom habits with less fruit   
    Hi @1of3isme, fruit is wonderful, and you should keep eating it! The one point that W30 makes is that eating fruit on its own can lead to a spike in blood sugar, or even sugar cravings in many people. With that in mind, eating fruit as a part of a meal is great, and can add flavor and/or texture to your dish. For example, I love adding fruit to salads, and there are some delicious recipes out their that incorporate things like apples and pears to hashes. Only you will know for yourself how much of any kind of food is too much. I don't get sugar cravings from eating fruit on it's own, however, it's never a good snack idea for me because it doesn't solve my hunger the way protein and fat does. Good luck!
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    BookJockey reacted to ladyshanny in Not doing this for the right reasons--history of eating disorders   
    Honestly I don't think anyone here can answer that for you. If you feel that the Whole30 is a detriment to your health then you should absolutely stop and seek out some kind of assistance if needed. If you think you can "right the ship" along the way, then continue on. We can't answer that for you, unfortunately, it's too personal a decision and only you know you.
    If you do decide to stop, please reframe the decision as one of self-care and compassion rather than guilt and anxiety over "quitting". If you make the decision that you are better served by stepping away from this program for as long as you need, then that is the right answer for you. We have no judgement here and a 30 day voluntary elimination plan shouldn't be increasing guilt or anxiety. Remember, there are no awards or ribbons at the end.  More importantly, wherever you go, there you are, right? So making the right decision for yourself is the right one no matter which way you choose to go. 
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    BookJockey got a reaction from smazze in Don't over think this.   
    Just posting to say thank you for this original post, OP, and thank you to whoever pinned it, and thank you to all folks who have added to it since! I really needed to hear it on this, my day six of second Whole30 because I am a card carrying overthinker and I want my second whole30 to be just as good for me as the first was.
    I was actually feeling "bad" for having a really large salad for lunch - a coworker commented that it looked like I brought lunch for everyone and I was furiously re-reading my Whole30 rules and book and thinking, "but I'm doing the proportions they said!" This post brought me back down. Yeah, my salad looks giant compared to the ones you can get at fast food joints because it doesn't have yuck-o fillers and I need it to keep me satiated till dinner, so I don't graze like I normally do. So suck it, coworkers.
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    BookJockey got a reaction from ladyshanny in The crazy things people say   
    Honestly, this has been my experience as well. I have some family and friends who either know and are supportive, or likely would be if they knew, but other family who would be judgey as all get out and I don't need that. And I really don't need to fight folks at work who think it's some kind of fad thing. Dealing with sugar cravings and aches in the beginning is enough to have to worry about without dealing with judgement on top of it.
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    BookJockey got a reaction from ladyshanny in The crazy things people say   
    Honestly, this has been my experience as well. I have some family and friends who either know and are supportive, or likely would be if they knew, but other family who would be judgey as all get out and I don't need that. And I really don't need to fight folks at work who think it's some kind of fad thing. Dealing with sugar cravings and aches in the beginning is enough to have to worry about without dealing with judgement on top of it.