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    theya got a reaction from HeidiB40 in Managing Social Events   
    Ok, I am only on Day 1 of my whole 30, but I have attempted them in the past and never succeeded due to my complete loss of resolve during social situations. I am totally a social eater and drinker and seem to be unable to manage peer pressure (what am I 15?!...not even close). I follow a mostly Paleo diet but am very attached to the old 80/20 rule. I know what to do, I just don't always do it.
    I have just come home from a vacation where I went way off the rails (Margaritas and Mexican anyone?) to find my weight way up, my hemorrhoids blazing (sorry for the TMI) and lack of motivation in high gear. I decided to start a Whole 30 right away (why wait?) but I have lots of social events coming up in the next few weeks (houseguests, anniversary, Easter, birthday parties...) and I'm anticipating lack of resolve. I would love to hear some of your strategies for navigating such situation with grace and keeping your motivation intact.
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    theya reacted to Tarcy33 in 30 Days Flew By! Unexpectedly happy and grateful.   
    When I committed to the Whole30, part of me went into it with a “diet†mindset as much as a mindset to find a solution to annoyances including allergies, hormone nuttiness, unreliable sleep and sluggish energy. I kind of figured I'd get through the 30 days, half assuming that I'd wind up somehow disappointed or resigned to reverting to my slovenly ways when it was over (because I was not very happy with myself when this started, you see). Well, this long-ass post is to tell you that A#1) Today is Day 30, and B#2) I have learned more about myself in these 30 days than I ever would have expected.
     
    I've learned that:
     
    I don't in fact need a glass (or two or three…) of wine every day. I have not lost my sense of humor, my charm or my creativity without it. I don't even need it to wind down or as a “sleep aide.â€
     
    Cheese apparently has nothing to do with my physical or emotional well-being or survival.
     
    Sugar withdrawal can induce crazy vivid dreams to rival those I've only experienced on a nicotine replacement patch.
     
    When my body is sufficiently nourished, I don't crash. For the first time possibly ever, I don't find myself hitting the wall that requires a snack/mid-day coffee/nap.
     
    When my body is sufficiently nourished I don't crave anything. Really. And “noshy†just doesn't happen.
     
    Moving through day to day, week to week without the expectation of weighing in creates a clarity that allows me to notice how I feel, rather than worrying what I weigh. I am finally learning the language of my body, and how to tune in and listen.
     
    It is nearly impossible to find a healthful, all-natural, pre-packaged food. Convenience comes at the cost of processing, additives, chemicals and preservatives. Then again, lots of veggies, fruits, nuts and my two new favorites – hard boiled eggs and leftovers – are convenient when you have a plan.
     
    I have a new-found love for: Eggs, Sweet Potatoes, Kale, Coconut Oil, Mason Jars, Avocados, Almond Butter, Bone-in/Skin-on Chicken, Mashed Cauliflower, Licorice Tea and 10pm Bedtime.
     
    I feel so damn good that I plan to continue until Easter, and then begin the reintroduction phase. And now I know that I can trust my body to let me know what works and what doesn't when the time comes. I've experienced a shift in my relationship with food, and a surprising development of respect for my self and my body. I'm glad I stuck with it.
     
    That is all. Thank you.
    I mean it: THANK YOU!
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    theya got a reaction from praxisproject in Who's made what from Well Fed 2!   
    I made Moroccan style Bangers (Merguez) and served them with sweet potatoes mashed with coconut oil and mustard....delicious!
     
    I can't wait to try the fried sardines...
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    theya got a reaction from praxisproject in Anyone ever made "Paleo" pasta?   
    I'm crazy about zucchini "noodles" and find that they really scratch that pasta itch! I use a spiral vegetable slicer to give them a spaghetti like shape and there is no funny business involved in trying to use some expensive flours to make sub-par sex-with-your-pants-on pasta!
     
    Here is as recipe where I top them with Melissa Joulwan's Sunshine sauce...
     
    http://whatthehelldoicook.com/2013/11/03/chicken-satay-saute/
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    theya reacted to fierroaj in Eating Too Much   
    I am right there with you, Scott! My first few weeks were bumpy. I found myself eating/binging on nuts/nut butter/dried fruit. Which, told me two things: 1) my overeating had more to do with emotion than sugar and carbs as I had originally thought (I always blamed my sugar addiction) and 2) that I had a serious need to reconnect with my "self" and my thoughts.
    So...here is what I did.
    1. I made sure I had enough good fat and protein at Meal 1 (a.k.a. breakfast). This means I have a half of an avocado with my eggs and veg, everyday! And, I, too, include a sweet potato or squash. Although, I have cut it back a little now, because I found I was not hugry for lunch until 3pm, which screwed up the family dinner times. By day 15 or so, I was in a groove.
    2. NO nuts, nut butters, or dried fruit were allowed in my house until I got a handle on my snacking/binging/emotional issues. Again, by day 15 or so, I had that demon under control. I still stay away from nut butter...too risky to put a spoon in and eat mindlessly, so it is banned for now. But, roasted nuts are back in.
    3. Fruit is kept at a minimum...my brain sees it too similar to sugar...and wants to use it as a replacement. Especially dried fruit and bananas. So...it is now limited...as it states in the book "It Starts with Food", you can get enough goodness from vegetables to keep fruit at a minimum.
    4. Hydrate, hydrate, hydrate. I started drinking more water, herbal tea, and mineral water. This helped get through those inbetween times when I THOUGHT I should be eating something.
    5. Deep breathing. Remeber to relax.
    6. I made a conscious effort to stop snacking, because I realized it was just another game my brain was playing. When I started the Whole30 I did so with the agreement with myself that this was going to be at 100% or nothing...by standing at my kitchen cabinet licking almond butter from a spoon was doing nothing to retrain my brain from old habits...which is the point of the Whole30. So, I was switching the grande latte with three sugar packets for a heaping spoonful of almond butter and a dried slice of mango...ludacris and unfair to myself.
    Like Melissa Joulwan says in her cookbook "Well Fed"...this lifestyle is liberating because you are allowed to "just eat". You can do this!! Right now you are worried about doing it right and you probably feel like you are doing something wrong, but be patient with yourself...by day 15-16...you may be singing a different tune! Stick with it...it is worth it!! Trust me!
    Andrea
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    theya got a reaction from Fenderbender in Managing Social Events   
    I may just trot out the raging hemorrhoid story, you're right that will shut them right up! lol What a great idea to bring your own stuff to a wedding! I would have never had the guts to do that. Thanks for the suggestions.
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    theya got a reaction from Fenderbender in Managing Social Events   
    I may just trot out the raging hemorrhoid story, you're right that will shut them right up! lol What a great idea to bring your own stuff to a wedding! I would have never had the guts to do that. Thanks for the suggestions.
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    theya got a reaction from Fenderbender in Managing Social Events   
    I may just trot out the raging hemorrhoid story, you're right that will shut them right up! lol What a great idea to bring your own stuff to a wedding! I would have never had the guts to do that. Thanks for the suggestions.
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    theya reacted to slpears in Managing Social Events   
    Plan, plan, plan, and take a no excuses approach.
    My tactics are:
    1. Eat before you go
    2. Bring a compliant appetizer/dish to share
    3. Soda water looks remarkably like a cocktail
    4. Focus on the socialization and not what is in your hand or your mouth
    I find that I like to plan what I am going to eat, say, do in advance and that helps calm me down from the anxiety of worrying about what to do.
    You can TOTALLY do this. I resisted free champagne and cupcakes last night at an alumni event for women. Then, Chick-fil-a nuggets and sodas at a board meeting. Because I was full from my dinner (spicy grilled chicken and chipotle roasted sweet potatoes), I didn't even feel the urge.
    Good luck - I think you can do it!
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    theya got a reaction from Renee Kosowan in Probiotics   
    I just started making my own sauerkraut, which is super easy and great in salads, on grilled meat, and all alone. It's not scary or gross, as I feared it might be. You simply get a sterilized one quart jar, chop up about 1/2 of a cabbage (my kids like purple), mash this with 1tbs of sea salt until the juices flow out (I just use a big wooden spoon), then you stuff all that in your jar with enough spring water to cover it all. You want about 1 inch of liquid at the top, so mash down the cabbage with your spoon until you achieve this. Cover tightly and let sit out on the counter (out of the sun) for 3 day and that's it! You can use any veggies and spices that you like (ginger and carrots is a yummy combo). Pickled veggies great source of probiotics, and if you make them yourself you are getting your own "local" bugs which seem to me would be the most helpful in dealing with all the other local stuff you come into contact with.
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    theya reacted to LandShark in Paleo-Rexia? It's my mom...   
    Sometimes it helps to try to break down what she's doing and why. That way you're not reacting to her behaviour, but to her reasons behind it. (<-- sorry if that sounds condescending or know-it-all-y. I have 99 problems and my mom is every last one of them!)
    She's super paranoid and irrational about food now. Why? Because she experienced an amazing transformation and her horrible symptoms were relieved and she can't even imagine going back to her old way of life with all its daily pain. She probably even knows her behaviour is irrational! Eating at home, where she trusts everything, is safe. She is finally in control of her food and her body and her symptoms. Outside, even if it's a dang salad bar or your house or the Garden of Eden, she is NOT in control. And that's scary. She probably knows she's hurting your feelings, making you crazy, and losing out on a bunch of things. But those negatives outweigh the loss of control/return of symptoms/weight gain she is even more afraid of.
    Clearly, not a healthy outlook. But also NOT YOUR PROBLEM, unless you make it your problem. Let her figure her stuff out, even if it takes months. Try to feel sympthetic (even if it becomes pity) "Mom is being so crazy and paranoid and judgey today! She must be feeling really scared or threatened." If that leads you to being extra nice to her, gold star for you! If, like me, that leads you to rolling your eyes and ignoring her, just as good!
    Imagine your mom was deathly afraid of snakes. You, on the other hand, have a healthy respect for them, and can even enjoy them in some situations.
    Imagine you and your mom see a picture of a snake.
    You: Oh, cool! That thing looks super dangerous but also, look at the scales, so beautiful.
    Mom: OMG EEEEEEKKK!
    You: Mom! Relax! It's just a picture!
    Now imagine you're at one of those reptile park things where they let you hold the snakes. A snake is carefully placed in your hand.
    You: Holy cow! I am kind of scared and keeping my eye on its pointy teeth, but this is pretty cool!
    Mom: OMG EEEKKK!! Next thing, my daughter will be diving head first into a pit of boa constrictors!
    You: Mom, relax. I know you are afraid of snakes, but it's okay. I got this.
    That was long-winded, but my point: irrational fear, and the desire to protect you.
    Check out this thread: http://forum.whole9life.com/topic/1801-do-you-find-yourself-judging/
    Totally rational, nice people tend toward your mom's behaviour. Try to replace "mom is judging me" with "mom has concern for me even though she knows I'm an adult and a-okay already, she just doesn't know how to express it very well because she's got her own issues in the way" inside your head. Simple, but not easy.
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    theya got a reaction from Renee Kosowan in Probiotics   
    I just started making my own sauerkraut, which is super easy and great in salads, on grilled meat, and all alone. It's not scary or gross, as I feared it might be. You simply get a sterilized one quart jar, chop up about 1/2 of a cabbage (my kids like purple), mash this with 1tbs of sea salt until the juices flow out (I just use a big wooden spoon), then you stuff all that in your jar with enough spring water to cover it all. You want about 1 inch of liquid at the top, so mash down the cabbage with your spoon until you achieve this. Cover tightly and let sit out on the counter (out of the sun) for 3 day and that's it! You can use any veggies and spices that you like (ginger and carrots is a yummy combo). Pickled veggies great source of probiotics, and if you make them yourself you are getting your own "local" bugs which seem to me would be the most helpful in dealing with all the other local stuff you come into contact with.
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    theya got a reaction from Renee Kosowan in Probiotics   
    I just started making my own sauerkraut, which is super easy and great in salads, on grilled meat, and all alone. It's not scary or gross, as I feared it might be. You simply get a sterilized one quart jar, chop up about 1/2 of a cabbage (my kids like purple), mash this with 1tbs of sea salt until the juices flow out (I just use a big wooden spoon), then you stuff all that in your jar with enough spring water to cover it all. You want about 1 inch of liquid at the top, so mash down the cabbage with your spoon until you achieve this. Cover tightly and let sit out on the counter (out of the sun) for 3 day and that's it! You can use any veggies and spices that you like (ginger and carrots is a yummy combo). Pickled veggies great source of probiotics, and if you make them yourself you are getting your own "local" bugs which seem to me would be the most helpful in dealing with all the other local stuff you come into contact with.
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    theya got a reaction from Renee Kosowan in Day 2, tackling my issues...   
    Hi Renee and DucatiGirl! It's great to have your support and I'm happy to have people who can relate to my issues. I know we can do it. I am on Day 4 (again) because I had some off-roading and ended up with lots of tummy trouble (agony!). I would not have believed it myself if it hadn't happened. But the upside is that I felt so awful that I am newly committed. Going to my first cocktail party tonight wish me luck...
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    theya got a reaction from Renee Kosowan in Theya's Umpteenth attempt at a Whole 30   
    Ok, I'm back and Day 1 is today again. Yes, I will keep trying, and yes, I am sick of listening to myself complain. I have been on this board whining about cheese or honey or wine, or whatever other item I wanted to ingest to "make me happy" and I'm here to tell you that I ingested those things this weekend, and not in any crazy amounts either, I simply ate like a "normal person" and I am in agony today. I kid you not. Agony.
    I confess, I was skeptical when I would read about people going off plan eating a piece of toast and being "doubled over in pain" or having some cheese and spending all night on the toilet. I would roll my eyes and think "aw, come on? can it really be that dramatic?'. I've been eating wheat and dairy all my life and it has never bothered me. I have an iron stomach. Right? WRONG. It can be that dramatic and has been for me all day. I actually had to call my mother and have her come over and take my kids to the zoo because I have been doubled over in pain all day. I thought I might even have food poisoning (but no vomiting), just really, really painful abdominal cramps. It's so awful. I am now a believer.
    And all because of a few corn tortillas, some beans, a martini and a few bites of chocolate cake!!! Because I wanted to feel "normal" at my cousin's birthday party. Not worth it.
    Day 1--- with renewed commitment
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    theya got a reaction from Renee Kosowan in Day 2, tackling my issues...   
    Hi Renee and DucatiGirl! It's great to have your support and I'm happy to have people who can relate to my issues. I know we can do it. I am on Day 4 (again) because I had some off-roading and ended up with lots of tummy trouble (agony!). I would not have believed it myself if it hadn't happened. But the upside is that I felt so awful that I am newly committed. Going to my first cocktail party tonight wish me luck...
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    theya got a reaction from Skiley in Day 2, tackling my issues...   
    I have started and stopped my the Whole 30 plan more times than I would care to admit. Part of my motivation for writing here today is accountability. In the past, the things that seemed to trip me up were all related to social pressure (How old am I? Twelve?) I found it hard to resist that cup of tea my hubbie so lovingly prepared for me "with just a bit of honey" or a bite of homemade cake on a friend's birthday. I especially found it difficult to deny myself a small "treat" after a particularly stressful day, of which there were many (i.e. a piece of dark chocolate or glass of white wine). I kept telling myself that I would start again "when life is not so stressful" or "after such-and-such social event" (wedding, birthday, anniversary etc.) as if the thought of attending any of these events without sugar, cheese, alcohol, or whatever my crutch de jour is would be somehow unbearable. I am now realizing how crazy that is, not to be able to end a difficult day, or attend a social event without a drug (as I believe sugar, alcohol and dairy all to be addictive).
    While I don't consider myself to be an "addict" in the clinical sense, as a life-long depressive, I do rely heavily on mood altering foods and experiences to "make me feel better". I am a certified holistic nutritionist, who knows exactly which mistakes I make when I am making them, making those mistakes all the more frustrating when they occur. Based on my studies and research, I believe very much in the burgeoning Paleo movement and would like to tell my clients that I am a part of it. Here's to one more try.
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    theya got a reaction from Skiley in Day 2, tackling my issues...   
    I have started and stopped my the Whole 30 plan more times than I would care to admit. Part of my motivation for writing here today is accountability. In the past, the things that seemed to trip me up were all related to social pressure (How old am I? Twelve?) I found it hard to resist that cup of tea my hubbie so lovingly prepared for me "with just a bit of honey" or a bite of homemade cake on a friend's birthday. I especially found it difficult to deny myself a small "treat" after a particularly stressful day, of which there were many (i.e. a piece of dark chocolate or glass of white wine). I kept telling myself that I would start again "when life is not so stressful" or "after such-and-such social event" (wedding, birthday, anniversary etc.) as if the thought of attending any of these events without sugar, cheese, alcohol, or whatever my crutch de jour is would be somehow unbearable. I am now realizing how crazy that is, not to be able to end a difficult day, or attend a social event without a drug (as I believe sugar, alcohol and dairy all to be addictive).
    While I don't consider myself to be an "addict" in the clinical sense, as a life-long depressive, I do rely heavily on mood altering foods and experiences to "make me feel better". I am a certified holistic nutritionist, who knows exactly which mistakes I make when I am making them, making those mistakes all the more frustrating when they occur. Based on my studies and research, I believe very much in the burgeoning Paleo movement and would like to tell my clients that I am a part of it. Here's to one more try.
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    theya got a reaction from Skiley in Day 2, tackling my issues...   
    I have started and stopped my the Whole 30 plan more times than I would care to admit. Part of my motivation for writing here today is accountability. In the past, the things that seemed to trip me up were all related to social pressure (How old am I? Twelve?) I found it hard to resist that cup of tea my hubbie so lovingly prepared for me "with just a bit of honey" or a bite of homemade cake on a friend's birthday. I especially found it difficult to deny myself a small "treat" after a particularly stressful day, of which there were many (i.e. a piece of dark chocolate or glass of white wine). I kept telling myself that I would start again "when life is not so stressful" or "after such-and-such social event" (wedding, birthday, anniversary etc.) as if the thought of attending any of these events without sugar, cheese, alcohol, or whatever my crutch de jour is would be somehow unbearable. I am now realizing how crazy that is, not to be able to end a difficult day, or attend a social event without a drug (as I believe sugar, alcohol and dairy all to be addictive).
    While I don't consider myself to be an "addict" in the clinical sense, as a life-long depressive, I do rely heavily on mood altering foods and experiences to "make me feel better". I am a certified holistic nutritionist, who knows exactly which mistakes I make when I am making them, making those mistakes all the more frustrating when they occur. Based on my studies and research, I believe very much in the burgeoning Paleo movement and would like to tell my clients that I am a part of it. Here's to one more try.
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    theya got a reaction from Skiley in Day 2, tackling my issues...   
    I have started and stopped my the Whole 30 plan more times than I would care to admit. Part of my motivation for writing here today is accountability. In the past, the things that seemed to trip me up were all related to social pressure (How old am I? Twelve?) I found it hard to resist that cup of tea my hubbie so lovingly prepared for me "with just a bit of honey" or a bite of homemade cake on a friend's birthday. I especially found it difficult to deny myself a small "treat" after a particularly stressful day, of which there were many (i.e. a piece of dark chocolate or glass of white wine). I kept telling myself that I would start again "when life is not so stressful" or "after such-and-such social event" (wedding, birthday, anniversary etc.) as if the thought of attending any of these events without sugar, cheese, alcohol, or whatever my crutch de jour is would be somehow unbearable. I am now realizing how crazy that is, not to be able to end a difficult day, or attend a social event without a drug (as I believe sugar, alcohol and dairy all to be addictive).
    While I don't consider myself to be an "addict" in the clinical sense, as a life-long depressive, I do rely heavily on mood altering foods and experiences to "make me feel better". I am a certified holistic nutritionist, who knows exactly which mistakes I make when I am making them, making those mistakes all the more frustrating when they occur. Based on my studies and research, I believe very much in the burgeoning Paleo movement and would like to tell my clients that I am a part of it. Here's to one more try.
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    theya got a reaction from FireTopRed in Day two...the strange thing I miss the most is...   
    CHEESE!
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    theya got a reaction from Sarah2012 in Eat Right For Your Blood Type   
    I'm a type A and followed that diet's recommendation years ago. Being a vegetarian, I believe, threw me into a battle with depression that lasted for years. A vegetarian diet did not provide me with enough amino acids to support my brain and make my much-needed seratonin and other mood elevating hormornes. Nor did it provide my brain and body with enough healthy fats to thrive. I think the only reason why some people feel better on ANY diet plan is that for the most part they have cut out junk food and processed carbohyrates.
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    theya got a reaction from Tom Denham in Theya's Umpteenth attempt at a Whole 30   
    Day 3
    I'm really just checking in to be accountable, I figured it I started a log then it will keep me on track. Today was way easier than yesterday. Yesterday all I did was think about food and I couldn't wait until my next meal. I felt like my whole world was centered around food. I am currently a stay-at-home-mom and as it's summer break, and I'm feeding a tween and a toddler, so actually my day really does revolve around food!
    I think the key to my success today was eating enough at my 3 meals (I'm really trying not to snack), particularly protein. Also, today I am making a recipe I adapted from Bon Appetit which has rendered the cooking a little more exciting. I can't get stuck in a grilled chicken and burgers rut. Today it's Chicken-Apricot Skewers. They are marinated in a peanut coconut milk yogurt, cilantro sauce which was pretty easy to deal with, I just swapped out the peanuts for almonds, and replaced the yogurt with more coconut milk and omitted the brown sugar. If it turns out yummy (and pleases the crowd) I'll post the recipe tomorrow.
    I feel like I should say something profound but that's all I've got at the moment.
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    theya got a reaction from Skiley in Day 2, tackling my issues...   
    I have started and stopped my the Whole 30 plan more times than I would care to admit. Part of my motivation for writing here today is accountability. In the past, the things that seemed to trip me up were all related to social pressure (How old am I? Twelve?) I found it hard to resist that cup of tea my hubbie so lovingly prepared for me "with just a bit of honey" or a bite of homemade cake on a friend's birthday. I especially found it difficult to deny myself a small "treat" after a particularly stressful day, of which there were many (i.e. a piece of dark chocolate or glass of white wine). I kept telling myself that I would start again "when life is not so stressful" or "after such-and-such social event" (wedding, birthday, anniversary etc.) as if the thought of attending any of these events without sugar, cheese, alcohol, or whatever my crutch de jour is would be somehow unbearable. I am now realizing how crazy that is, not to be able to end a difficult day, or attend a social event without a drug (as I believe sugar, alcohol and dairy all to be addictive).
    While I don't consider myself to be an "addict" in the clinical sense, as a life-long depressive, I do rely heavily on mood altering foods and experiences to "make me feel better". I am a certified holistic nutritionist, who knows exactly which mistakes I make when I am making them, making those mistakes all the more frustrating when they occur. Based on my studies and research, I believe very much in the burgeoning Paleo movement and would like to tell my clients that I am a part of it. Here's to one more try.
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    theya got a reaction from Skiley in Day 2, tackling my issues...   
    I have started and stopped my the Whole 30 plan more times than I would care to admit. Part of my motivation for writing here today is accountability. In the past, the things that seemed to trip me up were all related to social pressure (How old am I? Twelve?) I found it hard to resist that cup of tea my hubbie so lovingly prepared for me "with just a bit of honey" or a bite of homemade cake on a friend's birthday. I especially found it difficult to deny myself a small "treat" after a particularly stressful day, of which there were many (i.e. a piece of dark chocolate or glass of white wine). I kept telling myself that I would start again "when life is not so stressful" or "after such-and-such social event" (wedding, birthday, anniversary etc.) as if the thought of attending any of these events without sugar, cheese, alcohol, or whatever my crutch de jour is would be somehow unbearable. I am now realizing how crazy that is, not to be able to end a difficult day, or attend a social event without a drug (as I believe sugar, alcohol and dairy all to be addictive).
    While I don't consider myself to be an "addict" in the clinical sense, as a life-long depressive, I do rely heavily on mood altering foods and experiences to "make me feel better". I am a certified holistic nutritionist, who knows exactly which mistakes I make when I am making them, making those mistakes all the more frustrating when they occur. Based on my studies and research, I believe very much in the burgeoning Paleo movement and would like to tell my clients that I am a part of it. Here's to one more try.