Thoughts about "I can never have that again"

[jularoons]

HI!

I'm planning to start my 30 day program on Monday.  I'm having thoughts like, I can never have quiche, ice cream, sandwhiches, cake, etc. etc.  That is where I feel like the deprivation comes in and after 30 days I'll be slipping all over the place.

 

I know that others have had these thoughts, what do you do to replace that kind of negative thinking?

 

How do you get used to never having foods that you've always loved?  I'm a foodie, I love good food, the richer the better. 

 

thanks

j

[MeadowLily]

It’s For Your Own Good

Here comes the tough love. This is for those of you who are considering taking on this life-changing month, but aren’t sure you can actually pull it off, cheat free, for a full 30 days. This is for the people who have tried this before, but who “slipped” or “fell off the wagon” or “just HAD to eat (fill in food here) because of this (fill in event here).” This is for you.

• It is not hard. Don’t you dare tell us this is hard. Beating cancer is hard. Birthing a baby is hard. Losing a parent is hard. Drinking your coffee black. Is. Not. Hard. You’ve done harder things than this, and you have no excuse not to complete the program as written. It’s only thirty days, and it’s for the most important health cause on earth – the only physical body you will ever have in this lifetime.
• Don’t even consider the possibility of a “slip.” Unless you physically tripped and your face landed in a box of doughnuts, there is no “slip.” You make a choice to eat something unhealthy. It is always a choice, so do not phrase it as if you had an accident. Commit to the program 100% for the full 30 days. Don’t give yourself an excuse to fail before you’ve even started.
• You never, ever, ever have to eat anything you don’t want to eat. You’re all big boys and girls. Toughen up. Learn to say no (or make your mom proud and say, “No, thank you”). Learn to stick up for yourself. Just because it’s your sister’s birthday, or your best friend’s wedding, or your company picnic does not mean you have to eat anything. It’s always a choice, and we would hope that you stopped succumbing to peer pressure in 7th grade.
• This does require a bit of effort. Grocery shopping, meal planning, dining out, explaining the program to friends and family, and dealing with stress will all prove challenging at some point during your program. We’ve given you all the tools, guidelines and resources you’ll need, but take responsibility for your own plan. Improved health, fitness, and quality of life doesn’t happen automatically just because you’re now taking a pass on bread.

- See more at: http://whole30.com/whole30-program-rules/#sthash.0KnVJNF6.dpuf

[Carlaccini]

Hi There,

 

Yes we all have these thoughts.  But remember it's only 30 days.  During that time sandwiches, ice cream will not be leaving this planet.  They will still be there when you complete your whole 30.

 

As an aside - This is some of the richest abd best tasting food I have ever had.  There are things like Quiche with a meat crust, Slow Cooker Korean Short Ribs. Paleo Pad Thai.  Check out the websites from Nomnom Paleo, and The clothes make the girl. 

[leahcarn]

Were you asking about slipping after you've finished whole30, rather than making it a lifestyle? If so, try making a list on day 30 of ALL the positive effect you notice from doing whole30. Use the guide to nutritional off-roading to help you decide when off plan food is "worth it", and then get back on plan. If you notice any one of your awesome effects start to fade, or any symptoms come back, get back on plan immediately, until you feel awesome again. This is what I did between my first and second whole30, hope it helps a bit

[Tom Denham]

When I began the Whole30, I made a goal of trying every kind of meat and lots of the fish they sold in the grocery store. For the first time in my life I ate lamb, bison, and duck. I cooked my first liver and my first turkey. I ate fish I had never heard of before. I decided to try making something with nearly every vegetable sold in the grocery store. Doing a Whole30 opened the door to my menu expanding exponentially. I don't see a Whole30 as limiting to me.

 

Yesterday, I ate soft shell crab with a friend at a Thai restaurant. He ordered Thai donuts at the end of the meal, thinking it would be one or two bites. The waiter brought 8 freshly fried/hot donuts with honey dipping sauce. My friend ate 4 and I chose to eat none. My friend loved the donuts. I am sure they were good, but I got a belly ache after eating breaded foods at an Indian restaurant last week and I did not want to risk eating donuts this week. The waiter ate the last 4 donuts and was happy to get them. I would have eaten a donut if I thought it was worth it to me, but it wasn't. That might seem like a weird thing to you at this point, but I have been eating Whole30-style for more than 4 years. I did what I wanted to do. 

[MeadowLily]

http://whole30.com/step-two-finished/

[Juice06870]

You might be surprised, after 30 days I bet there will be a few things that you might really currently love and crave which will no longer have such a hold on you.  Your tastes and tastebuds will reset and change for the better.  That being said, of course there are certain guilty pleasures that we all have and want to enjoy once in a while.  The key is to do that when you feel like you need to (preferably not every other day of course, and don't regret it! enjoy it!) and then just get right back on the horse with your very next meal.  Don't let it turn into 2 or 3 straight meals (or days) of poor eating.  That could become a big hole to dig out of.  

 

Plus, once you see and feel the results after 30 days, you might be so motivated and happy with the way you have been eating, that might be incentive enough to not indulge as much as you think you might.

[AuntJane]

Okay for some reason I can't copy and paste here (???) but there is a helpful (and witty!) post on whole9life.com about the 5 stages of food grief.  You might want to check it out.

 

I bet Juice is right, though, your tastes will change during the Whole30 and you won't miss your favorite foods as much as you think you will.  I'm only on day 12 going into my second weekend; a month ago I didn't think I could make it through a weekend without my favorite treats but I really don't care about that right now.  I'm looking forward to a nice steak tomorrow.

[Britishgal]

It's true your tastes change. To me now (just started my second whole30) my beloved chocolate tastes bland and my previous addiction diet coke nearly made me vomit when I took a sip if my sisters by accident a couple of weeks ago!

There are things that I'd like to incorporate into my eating now and again as a treat...good crusty bread, honey on thick yoghurt, a cherry scone of my mother's...but there are far more things that I won't be bothering with even when not in a whole30 now as they just don't excite me anymore. I made a list of things that taste bleugh and things that are worth it and stuck it to my fridge. The worth it list is tiny and the bleugh list ran out of room very quickly

[AuntJane]

Love the list idea, Britishgal, I'm going to have to do that! 

[Vian]

I did my first whole30 early 2012. Afterwards I got sloppy and went back to eating things I shouldn't have, so I did another one at the end of summer. Then another on January 1st 2014 that I kept up for 2 months before trying the Autoimmune Protocol for psoriasis, which I've been doing ever since. I found that every time I recomitted myself to eating clean, it got easier. I missed those foods I chose not to eat less and less. Through reintroductions I learned I'm sensitive to gluten/wheat, mustard, eggs from chickens fed corn and soy, non organic coffee, and almonds. I'm hoping once I've healed my gut, I'll be able to eat those things again (since they are all sensitivities, not true IgE allergies), but for now I'm just enjoying eating real foods.