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How to gracefully decline


Xandra

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I got caught in a setting where I did not know how to decline to eat the food offered. I ate the food and will restart my 30 days tomorrow. I'm hoping you all could offer suggestions as to how to handle this type of situation.

 

My mother prepared food for my son's birthday party. He requested a vegetable omelet for me, because he knows I like those. By the time I arrived, she had put cheese in the omelet and served it on my plate, and everyone was ready to sit down and eat. I felt that to decline to eat this would be rude. She would have thrown it out and taken time to make another one (if she even had enough remaining ingredients) while everyone's food got cold. So instead of saying something, I ate it and decided to restart my Whole30 the next day.

 

What would you have done?

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Welp.   I love my mother to smithereens.  I can tell you love your mother, too.

 

I don't know what day you're on.  If it's only Day 2, what the heck.

 

If it was Day 28, I would've had to say, "Mama, I have to wrap this up and take it home for the kids."   I would love to, but I can't....I'd give her a tight hug and a smooch on the cheek.   Then I'd wrap it on a plate and take it home.  I certainly would not have made her feel she had to throw it out.   Mothers don't like to waste anything.

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I have learned the hard way that eating food that hurts us so as not to offend, will hurt us more. 

I ended up in the hospital after eating dairy in a Thanksgiving trifle. 

I knew it was a problem for me and didn't want to offend my hosts. 

 

The truth sets us free "Mom, I love you so so much but I'm not eating cheese or actually any dairy right now and its totally my fault for not letting you know. I'll take this home with me and just have some extra salad. No worries at all, I'm actually not that hungry" 

 

I know this is super hard to do, but its for your health and that is the most important thing that those who love us have to understand. 

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