Britishgal Posted August 12, 2015 Share Posted August 12, 2015 I will be finishing a whole67 on the 5th of September...I have a wheat allergy and was puttjng off testing wheat (when the dr thought it was an intolerance) until after my son goes bavk to school the first week of sept. But now I don't have to test wheat...so this is my schedule and I'd love feedback... 2nd school back 4th party 6th rice and corn nachos/tortillas 9th garden peas and chickpeas 12th party 13th party 14th goats cheese 16th goats cream 18th-20th weekend away 21st cows cheese (never been able to eat cows milk) 24th cows cream/sour cream 28th potato skins (arthritis flared up last week after eating them so I want to check this wasn't an aberration) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jmcbn Posted August 12, 2015 Share Posted August 12, 2015 Just so as I understand the plan a little better - are the 'party' days compliant? And do you think the goats cheese & cream won't be problematic? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Britishgal Posted August 12, 2015 Author Share Posted August 12, 2015 Yep...I just don't want any intros too near to them in case of any reactions! I'm used to doing without booze and obviously I can't eat cake ;( I'm hoping the goats cheese and cream are ok but who knows! I'd rather test them separately as I know cows milk has always been iffy digestion wise Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators SugarcubeOD Posted August 12, 2015 Moderators Share Posted August 12, 2015 Hey girl! Everywhere it looks like you put three days between, which is great. Except for the goat days, which seem a little bit snugged up... If you can, can you do 1 goat day, then all compliant until after your holiday and then keep going? I'd hate for you to have overdone goat dairy over those few days and then be suffering on your holiday! Also, even tho 3 days seems like plenty between, be sure to listen to your body and note if it's still having a reaction, then you might have to push your schedule... with those party and holiday days, your re-intro could go on closer to six weeks if you have reactions to anything but it's worth that time to properly test and recover. Just my two cents Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Britishgal Posted August 12, 2015 Author Share Posted August 12, 2015 Thanks Sugar I may switch up the goat days...give it more time there. I don't want to be all bloaty to go to see family, worse type of critics are family. They already pity my single status and sideways fat comments and "what have you done to yourself, you used to be so skinny/pretty/worthy of a man" sighs are not something I want from them anymore! Actually, after reading what I just wrote, maybe I won't go at all...stay home with my son for a pyjama wearing and steak eating weekend... Yep, in my mind intros are a moveable feast...but that being said I do like a bit of structure, even if I chose to flaunt it! I'll see how the early ones go, if they go spectacularly badly I may give myself a break from reintroing in the middle. Not easy this eating lark is it?! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Administrators ladyshanny Posted August 13, 2015 Administrators Share Posted August 13, 2015 They already pity my single status and sideways fat comments and "what have you done to yourself, you used to be so skinny/pretty/worthy of a man" sighs are not something I want from them anymore! Actually, after reading what I just wrote, maybe I won't go at all...stay home with my son for a pyjama wearing and steak eating weekend... Well I sure as hell wouldn't be looking forward to something like this! Your PJ = steak weekend sounds much more self-loving! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators SugarcubeOD Posted August 13, 2015 Moderators Share Posted August 13, 2015 Thanks Sugar I may switch up the goat days...give it more time there. I don't want to be all bloaty to go to see family, worse type of critics are family. They already pity my single status and sideways fat comments and "what have you done to yourself, you used to be so skinny/pretty/worthy of a man" sighs are not something I want from them anymore! Actually, after reading what I just wrote, maybe I won't go at all...stay home with my son for a pyjama wearing and steak eating weekend... Yep, in my mind intros are a moveable feast...but that being said I do like a bit of structure, even if I chose to flaunt it! I'll see how the early ones go, if they go spectacularly badly I may give myself a break from reintroing in the middle. Not easy this eating lark is it?! Good idea to take a break in the middle if it gets bad... no sense in suffering unnecessarily.. because this is planning to be a lifestyle for you, a 4 week or 6 week or 8 week re-intro isn't the worst thing! Isn't that the best?? OMG, come to my house instead! Seriously... they can 'feel' all the things they want I guess, but honestly, you're a grown ass woman and you were let loose to live your own life by your own rules years ago! Their pity, sighs and side eye comments are not welcome! Not sure your family situation, but if you go and get that kind of feedback, I'd be having a firm word with them if I was you. Family is supposed to be the soft place to land and if they can't be that, they can at least not try to be the prickle bush at the bottom of the cliff! FFS! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jmcbn Posted August 13, 2015 Share Posted August 13, 2015 Thanks Sugar I may switch up the goat days...give it more time there. I don't want to be all bloaty to go to see family, worse type of critics are family. They already pity my single status and sideways fat comments and "what have you done to yourself, you used to be so skinny/pretty/worthy of a man" sighs are not something I want from them anymore! Actually, after reading what I just wrote, maybe I won't go at all...stay home with my son for a pyjama wearing and steak eating weekend... Yep, in my mind intros are a moveable feast...but that being said I do like a bit of structure, even if I chose to flaunt it! I'll see how the early ones go, if they go spectacularly badly I may give myself a break from reintroing in the middle. Not easy this eating lark is it?! Sorry, I meant to come back to this yesterday & got totally side-tracked, then forgot - my bad! Yep, I'd stretch out the goat days - especially given that you've had some serious reactions throughout your Whole30. The allergists here actually recommend waiting 2 whole weeks between new food reintroductions so eating two new foods within three days is probably pushing it a bit in your case. With the cows cheese, cow's cream/sour cream & potato skins I'd probably plan on leaving at least a week in between. I'd say enjoy the parties, but it doesn't sound like they will be much fun... I vote PJ & Steak day too!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Britishgal Posted August 13, 2015 Author Share Posted August 13, 2015 It's partly my fault, the family thing. I don't fit in, I've never fitted in anywhere but it's with my extended family where I feel this the most painfully. I never ever feel as lonely and isolated as at gatherings with them and my aunts house, where we are going, is to me the loneliest place I have ever been. Although I love all them so very much. I'm emotionally exhausted and physically shattered and I just don't know if I want to do it. My best friend is trying to talk me out of going...she says it is too much just now. I'm afraid if I don't go I'll lose my family...whilst I see my sister, my bil, my nephews and my mother all the time I don't see the rest very often. I would also not go to one of the parties in sept, but I can't think of an acceptable excuse... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jmcbn Posted August 13, 2015 Share Posted August 13, 2015 It's partly my fault, the family thing. I don't fit in, I've never fitted in anywhere but it's with my extended family where I feel this the most painfully. I never ever feel as lonely and isolated as at gatherings with them and my aunts house, where we are going, is to me the loneliest place I have ever been. Although I love all them so very much. I'm emotionally exhausted and physically shattered and I just don't know if I want to do it. My best friend is trying to talk me out of going...she says it is too much just now. I'm afraid if I don't go I'll lose my family...whilst I see my sister, my bil, my nephews and my mother all the time I don't see the rest very often. I would also not go to one of the parties in sept, but I can't think of an acceptable excuse... And this is exactly why I don't think you should go - which is easy for me to say I know, but I think you've gone through a helluva lot lately, and I'm sure I only know a small part of it. If there is one thing I've learned from living a Whole9 life it's that I have to do what I can to reduce the stressors in my life to improve the quality of my life. This situation is not going to improve the quality of your life, or contribute to your overall health, and whilst they may roll their eyes (as mine often do) the family that really matter to you are not gonna walk out of your life because you didn't show up at a party. I'm not saying don't go, but maybe just leave your options open. As for thinking of an acceptable excuse - you don't need one - you just can't make it that day. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MrsStick Posted August 13, 2015 Share Posted August 13, 2015 To add in - stress can make you react differently to foods at times. When I'm super stressed out, non-cultured cow's dairy bloats me really badly. But if I'm at more of a chill place in life, it doesn't bother me at all. I know that the Whole9 Canada folks did a video on inconsistent reactions that touched on that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Administrators ladyshanny Posted August 13, 2015 Administrators Share Posted August 13, 2015 As for thinking of an acceptable excuse - you don't need one - you just can't make it that day. Oh, this. So much this. I'm going through this right now for a thing I'm supposed to go to but don't want to/dread. Being a grown adult with her own brain and heart, I feel like I have every right to say "I won't be attending xyz, but thank you for the invite" because the xyz not only doesn't make me happy, it stressed me the hell out.....and I really resent things that come into my happy (mostly) bubble and wreak havoc. So no. You don't have to go. And you don't need an excuse. And if your extended family is going to disown you because "something came up" then are they really people you are wanting to stress yourself out for? Also, your explanation of your aunt's house being the loneliest place you know is sad and depressing and that right there is why I wouldn't go. Life's too short to actively bring stress, sadness and negative self talk into it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Britishgal Posted August 13, 2015 Author Share Posted August 13, 2015 Also, your explanation of your aunt's house being the loneliest place you know is sad and depressing and that right there is why I wouldn't go. Life's too short to actively bring stress, sadness and negative self talk into it.Sadly it is this way in my mind because it is the place of family holidays and laughter...and me as a child, watching this going on with absolutely no knowledge of how to join in. Then as an adult on my own whilst the other 3 have always been with partners knowing how to join in a little more but feeling like it's too late, like I'm superfluous to the laughter now.They will miss me...and it will mean my son will miss out...but I may have to be selfish. The other party is a friend's and I've spent a week thinking of reasons to RSVP no. I could lie and say I'm away but I'd feel so guilty! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Administrators ladyshanny Posted August 13, 2015 Administrators Share Posted August 13, 2015 Sadly it is this way in my mind because it is the place of family holidays and laughter...and me as a child, watching this going on with absolutely no knowledge of how to join in. Then as an adult on my own whilst the other 3 have always been with partners knowing how to join in a little more but not feeling like I can now, like I'm superfluous to the laughter now. They will miss me...and it will mean my son will miss out...but I may have to be selfish. The other party is a friend's and I've spent a week thinking of reasons to RSVP no. I could lie and say I'm away but I'd feel so guilty! Don't lie, that is only doing a disservice to your integrity. You don't owe anyone an explanation. Sure, you could say "Oh, I'd love to but I have to take my boss' neighbor's dog to the vet for a deworming". Or you could say "Aw, thanks for the invite, unfortunately I'm not available that day". Either way gets you the same result, the second one you is guilt free because you took your own desires into consideration and made a choice that was the best for you that day........and because there is no lie there should be no shame. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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