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Hi my name is Joy I am 44 and live in the UK. I have lots of health problems fibromyalgia, raynauds, benign brain tumour, gastritis and IBS. I also suffer from depression/anxiety on and off. I work fulltime as a midwife and care for my 3 children who all have varying degrees of autism/ADHD. I get very little sleep due to lifestyle/shift work/children who don't sleep. I have done 1 whole 45 before and felt amazing but now I am back where I was. The reason I have concerns is I have tried twice more since then and failed mainly because I became so obsessed and was worried I was developing an eating disorder. I have no support from my husband he doesn't agree with paleo at all.

Currently I am training for a bikini competition and following a typical bodybuilders diet but for the last 3 weeks have totally lost the plot and back to binge eating. I have an online coach and she gives me a diet to follow. She has me on dairy/gluten free but I currently eating lots of oats and rice. I am going to need lots of support to do this. I am planning to start January 5th after my sons 20th birthday. I take prescription medication that I can't stop taking but other than that I will do this.

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Hi again joy! Read through this before realizing I replied to you in another thread.

You have a lot on your plate right now!! Both physical and mental stresses, a history with While30, and many reasons to want to succeed.

Not trying to be blunt or coarse, but why do you want to do a Whole30? In reading this I don't see a clear definition of what your specific goals. I mean a clear statement in your words. To help ease through the stress and concerns, could you make a list of reasons, focused on nutrition but including lifestyle? Then pare down the list to the high priority and must do first reasons? Then work on those in January?

With so much going on, it would be overwhelming to do too much. Perhaps chipping away slowly would work for you?

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Hi Lucie and thanks for your reply.

My main reason for wanting to do this are health reasons my medical conditions are so much easier when I eat paleo and whole 30 especially my hip pain. I hate feeling so emotionally attached to food especially binge eating. I am guilty of mindless eating and then depression as a result of this. When I did paleo before I was the closest I have ever come to a six pack and I have to admit that is appealing. I am fatigued all the time although the lack of sleep doesn't help but I can't change that until my children are a little more independent, even the 20 year old still heavily relies on me due to his ASD and my twins are 11 one of them having complex emotional needs. My other reason is I need to stay fit and healthy to be there for all my family. My father in law has recently been diagnosed with terminal cancer of the oesophagus and although I don't smoke like him I do have severe gastritis and reflux, I don't want to die prematurely. So I guess my main focus is health.

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Hi Joy;

 

If your aim is to be healthy, I would really suggest you consider why you also need to be training for a bikini competition at the same time.  It sounds like your health should be prioritized above all else considering the conditions you have and the ongoing amount of stress and lack of sleep.  Adding a bikini competition to this mix seems like adding fuel to an already somewhat explosive/exhausting situation... 

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Hi Joy,

 

First of all I am sorry to hear about your FIL's diagnoses.  

Secondly take a deep breath.  Try to relax - I sense from you that your mind is working overtime on this. You also sound like you have a lot going on and that merely thinking about doing a whole 30 is kind of stressing yourself out.

 

Stress is not your friend at anytime.

 

I agree that eating whole 30 like is highly beneficial - but if you are putting so much stress on yourself to do a whole 30 - i just might not be a good time for you. However if you are looking to improve your way of eating - maybe just take it one meal at a time and one day at a time.  If you string a few complaint meals together - fantastic - you made it through one day!  But if you don't - that's ok - just accept it and move on to your next meal.  Do not give yourself any guilt about eating something non compliant should this happen.  

 

Generally the second whole 30 is more difficult than the first - mainly because your initial goals do change.  http://whole30.com/2015/02/second-whole30/

 

Also when you find yourself mindlessly eating - I have a trick to make it more mindful.  Let's say you have a package of oreos.  And you make the conscious decision to have once oreo.  Fine.  But that cookie tasted sooooo good - so you want another.  And another.  And then sooner or later you finished the entire sleeve in a short amount of time.  And then you wondered where all the oreos went - that's mindless eating.  Now next time after you have enjoyed the first Oreo stop before you have the second one.  Then ask your question aloud (without judgement) - Do I wish to be happy and healthy or have the Oreo?  If the answer is I want to be healthy and happy - then you have to put the Oreo down and put them away.  If you want the next Oreo - then you have to I answer - I want the Oreo.   You have to continue this with every single one. You are trying to make your decision a more mindful one rather than a mindless one.

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