mkmjjmmom Posted December 14, 2012 Share Posted December 14, 2012 Hello all. I have just started the Whole30. I was on day 10 and made a conscious decision to eat "crap" because it was my twin daughters' 16th birthday and the family all wanted to go out for Chinese and then have store-bought cake and ice cream. I probably could have come up with an alternative, but as I said, I made the conscious decision to just dig in with the rest of them. Needless to say, I felt icky afterwards. I know that there will always be "reasons" to deviate, so I will have to learn to adjust and prepare ahead of time. I am very aware of that. I have jumped right back into Paleo this morning, but I am not sure if I can call this Day 11 or if I have to go back and start from Day 1 again...ugh! Anyone else do something similar? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Renee Lee Posted December 14, 2012 Share Posted December 14, 2012 Officially, you should start over. Making conscious decisions like that for a special occasion are commonplace and A-OK once you're done with your 30 days and start riding your own bike. You owe it to yourself to stick it out for a full 30 days of squeaky clean eating. You deserve those results! We aren't going to demand that you do that, though. You can call today whatever you want to call it and there's no judgment here Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MJam Posted December 14, 2012 Share Posted December 14, 2012 Conscious decision to eat crap = automatic start over in my book, don't want to start over, don't slip up. You said you could have come up with an alternative decision...why didn't you? Was it too "hard"? Did you not want to be questioned by other party goers? Take this as a learning lesson and begin again...not to be mean but it's not Whole30 with a huge binge in the middle. Had you accidentally consumed sulfites in a tea you didn't read the label on it *might* have been a continue where you left off situation (I am still personally of the mind ANY slip is a start over). Have you read It Starts With Food? If not I really recommend it. I have been saying this lots on here lately but it really is so much more about dealing with the mental issues. The program is hard and strict but it is like that for a reason and it's about getting a hold of all the emotional ties that food has on us and specifically unhealthy foods. Good luck! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mkmjjmmom Posted December 14, 2012 Author Share Posted December 14, 2012 Thanks for such a quick response! That's what I figured...LOL. My goal was to finish my Whole30 before the seminar in Philly (Jan 5th). Not going to happen now (officially, at least). But, I can't change the past, so I guess I have to start where I am, learn from the "slip-up", and keep moving on, right? I've even started a blog about it http://paleokickingandscreaming.wordpress.com/ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mkmjjmmom Posted December 14, 2012 Author Share Posted December 14, 2012 Conscious decision to eat crap = automatic start over in my book, don't want to start over, don't slip up. You said you could have come up with an alternative decision...why didn't you? Was it too "hard"? Did you not want to be questioned by other party goers? Take this as a learning lesson and begin again...not to be mean but it's not Whole30 with a huge binge in the middle. Had you accidentally consumed sulfites in a tea you didn't read the label on it *might* have been a continue where you left off situation (I am still personally of the mind ANY slip is a start over). Have you read It Starts With Food? If not I really recommend it. I have been saying this lots on here lately but it really is so much more about dealing with the mental issues. The program is hard and strict but it is like that for a reason and it's about getting a hold of all the emotional ties that food has on us and specifically unhealthy foods. Good luck! Yes, I'm reading it right now, and I understand the concept. When I got home from present shopping (6pm), the family was ready to eat, and I didn't feel like I could ask them to wait while I made myself a meal before going out. Just need to plan better. One question: I understand the intent...slay the sugar dragon, defeat emotional ties to food, etc. However, some people may slip up and then feel "I am a failure" and give up altogether, especially when it happens repeatedly. What is the general consensus about this? I am not making excuses or trying to "justify my decision". I did it, I own it, and I am starting over. Thanks again! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rebecca30 Posted December 14, 2012 Share Posted December 14, 2012 IMO the "strength" from the whole 30 comes from facing down hard temptations, and making good decisions for YOU. You have to respect and stand up for yourself. I have really built the confidence to tell people who love me that "this is how I am eating now. I need you to wait a few minutes while I make myself something healthy to eat." That being said, you can't expect people to wait while you prepare and entire meal from scratch. That is where planning comes in. It takes no time to nuke some veggies, a sweet potato and some left over meat. I always cook more than I need. Congrats on owning this! Hop back on the wagon while the motivation is strong! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators Tom Denham Posted December 14, 2012 Moderators Share Posted December 14, 2012 Some people may require a few trial runs to do a Whole30. They may have to work on improving their diet for months before they are in a place to sustain 30 days of full adherence to the plan. That's okay. Some people may need to spend some time in therapy working out food issues with a professional. Around the fitness world, I see an orientation towards trying to get all the advice and support needed in regards to food from workshops, forums, and personal trainers. That works for some, but I think it is important people recognize and make use of psychotherapists and counselors with expertise in food issues when food problems are serious. Full Disclosure: I was a psychotherapist until 1997. I thought I knew what I was doing in regards to food issues back then, but I wish I had known then what I know now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MJam Posted December 14, 2012 Share Posted December 14, 2012 I want to LOVE Tom's comment...up until a few months ago I wouldn't have said that my unhealthy habits with food were related to other parts of my life but in the summer I got the courage and the strength to sit down and talk with an awesome psychologist about my non-food problems (problems in my personal life) and NOW I can see how it was all connected. Now that I have dealt with those things everything is just easier. I have lost 30lbs and almost done a complete 180 on my life. I was hiding and running from something for 4 years and all of that tied into my issues with food and my want of unhealthy things. Now that my mind is healthy everything else is naturally following it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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