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@Brewer5  I’m laughing so hard right now envisioning you researching Rick Flair.  Woooooo.  I’m so glad I could positively influence your cultural circle just a bit.  Again I’m laughing so hard I have tears!!!  Keep on keeping on.  You are figuring out you and what your best life should look like.  I love how you are making deliberate worth it choices and then choosing to come back to home base to keep from going of the rail and down the ravine of food choices.  You are inspirational!

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So glad I could give you a hearty laugh, @BabyBear :lol:.  I was laughing, just picturing you laughing.

Yesterday, of course, was Day 10 ... I was just too busy with other things to post.

Today - the long-awaited trip to Qdoba - which my boss was literally counting down the hours to, she has been craving so much ........  Well, we got there and there was a sign on the door that said they were closed due to a water main break.  :lol:

We ended up going to a local Mexican restaurant instead.  I got my usual chicken, cheese, rice (arroz con pollo) and ate it with some chips and a few bites of salsa.  The food really had no effect on me, one way or the other ~ I mean, it was good, but I really didn't think about it too much.  The company and the conversation was good, and I was glad to be able to just go with it and not feel (at all) like it was going to cause me to go off the rails on the crazy train.  Things have changed for me, so much.

The rest of the day has been, and will be, my W30 food.  There's really not anything else I want to have ~ it was just this one meal, because my boss wanted to take me out for lunch.  I didn't even get a diet dew, and I totally could have.  I drank water.

And life goes on.  And it is good.  :) 

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@Brewer5 I cheering so loud for you!!! This is awesome!  You made a choice, and then continued on your happy whole 30 way. This sounds like so food freedom to me.  Mexican! I struggle with Mexican, that and pizza are typically the foods that I’m like hook me up with a Sundrop or a Mountain Dew.  They just seem to go so well together. So I have not ventured out into that part of my food feeedom yet, but someday I will.

 

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Day 1 again today.  

I'm posting now ~ because this is my quiet time to do so.  The rest of the day will be filled with running kids here and there, conversations with my family ... and putting down the new flooring.  I worked on it for a couple of hours last night ~ and it is going to be beautiful.  But boy-oh-boy ... it's going to take me awhile.  That's okay.  It's winter and I would rather have a project to focus on, for sure.  It's satisfying, seeing each piece click into place.  Hmm ... progress that can be seen before my very eyes ... I like that.

I had originally gone to a nearby flooring store and stamped my foot like Veruca Salt, saying, "I want it now!"  :lol:  You know, not really, but ... at first I did just want to pay the "professionals" to come in here and get it done quickly.  There's a little bit of Veruca Salt in there sometimes ... it's good for me to be aware of her presence, and keep her in check.

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My computer was doing some update crap this morning, and I couldn't use it to do things with my morning coffee like I usually do {Veruca was pissed}.  So I finally picked up this new book I had ordered:  The UltraMind Solution by Mark Hyman, MD.

I like holding real books in my hands ... and I like highlighting.

That's a part of myself that does not get honored nearly enough lately.  I have always had a love of learning, and I especially like reading books about the human body.  I don't know a lot about Mark Hyman, and I don't revere any doctors as Gods.  But these books usually have some great information that I did not know before ~ and, if they are worth anything as an author ~ some deep and thought-provoking quotes.  

I hit a point in the very first paragraph of Chapter 1 that made me tear up this morning.  He is talking about the epidemic of "broken brains":

"It deprives children of their future, the elderly of their past, and adults of their present."

Indeed.  This hit me right between the eyes.  I have children - one, in particular, whose mood and behavior is highly affected by his food choices.  I am the adult, and so is my husband.  And I have a great-grandmother, dear to me, who is 93 years old ... and the deterioration I have had to sit back and watch over the past few years is painful.  Downright, almost, seriously, physically, painful.  The way her "care" has been handled has caused a rift in our family that I think will never fully mend.

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Whew -- I hate to end on a sad note!  Let's not do that.  :)

So I will share one more thing, and maybe go into more detail later.  I have been undecided on whether I am ever going to work in nursing again ... very up-in-the-air, and I hate that feeling.  I know, sometimes it is necessary, and those uncomfortable times are often when we really grow the most.

I have decided to go back to WGU for a bachelors in business management -- that choice I decided on awhile ago.  

What's crazy is this:

I spoke with my admissions counselor yesterday.  I said yep, I like the way you transferred my credits, looks good, green light - let's go.  But I want to change my start date from March 1 to April 1, after spring break.  (That's no big deal - WGU starts every month, all year round).

Turns out, the program catalog is changing for all students who start April 1 and later.  So now, instead of just having a straight-up business management degree, you get "micro credentials".  And the two choices are:  Marketing track, or Healthcare track.

I'm working for a marketing company right now, and I love it.  But I'm also a nurse.  Lol.  I'm like ... are you freaking kidding me?  :lol: 

And it brought me clarity.  Looking through the marketing classes causes excitement.  Looking through the healthcare classes makes me want to barf.  I'm not sure it can get much more clear than that.

If you've actually read this far ~ Ric Flair "woo!" ~ I'm thankful for your presence here.  And I hope you have a fantastic weekend.

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Wow talk about timing!  If you were looking for a direct answer, it doesn’t get more direct than that.  We change as we grow and age.  It sounds like at one time healthcare/nursing was your thing, but as you have evolved that passion has moved else where and that is okay.  Very few people stay within their original profession their whole life.  It certainly is not a waste if you are learning and growing as person to develop yourself outside of your original profession.  I’m proud you for exploring what excites you!  Have a beautiful weekend filled with enjoyment and laughter!

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Day 2 today.  Funny how I feel confident going ahead and posting that in the morning, instead of having to wait until the day is over to see if I make it through.  :) 

My period showed up like clockwork this time ~ none of this "several days early" business like I had last month.  And you know what?  No, I don't feel like a crazy bitch.  I didn't think I felt that way last month, either ... but looking back, I know that I was unhappy/stressed with several things in my life, and I was pretty vocal about it.  I don't think there's necessarily anything wrong with that.  Some things really do need to be said.  But I'm going to keep an eye out over these next few days, and be mindful of both how I am speaking to my family and what I am saying.

Yes... there is no doubt I am in a better place now.

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Imagine your gas tank is sitting at "E" with the light on ... you can still drive around, and the car is still fully functioning.  Each night, you have just enough money to fill your gas tank to 1/4.  Whew!  The "E" light goes off, and you feel better.

Imagine this cycle day, after day, after day.  

Imagine that your tank never sits at 1/2 ~ let alone full.  Is it possible to function and be happy this way?  Sure, it is.  But you won't go any further than your current routine.  You will have just enough to get where you need to go, and back home again.

But what if, one day, someone handed you an extra $10, and you put that extra $10 in your gas tank?  If you are smart at all, that's exactly what you'd do -- and now, you have created a new baseline.  Not only can you get through most days without the "E" light having to come on at all, but if you needed or wanted to go further in a day, you could.

And you'd enjoy that feeling of not running on "E".  It would boost your confidence in your ability to go places, and it would reduce your overall daily stress.  And you'd think to yourself that, the next time someone gives you $10, it is most definitely going in your gas tank.

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This is how Whole 30 is for me.  I'm not in it for the 30 days ... I have been there, done that.  I am in it for the long haul.

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I realized, after I posted yesterday morning, that I referred to my grandmother as my great-grandmother.  I sort of laughed to myself and thought I'd make a joke here about "Mexican food brain".  Haha... I blame the Mexican food!  :lol:

But that's not funny.

I read Grain Brain and Brain Maker by Dr. Perlmutter years ago, and I was a big fan of his work at the time.  I read both of them more than once, and they were heavily highlighted and loved.

What happened to me?  Where did I go?

I took a journey that was necessary, and I did what I thought I had to do to survive that journey.  I've been in survival mode.  For years now.  Holy shit.

I was having those "Grain Brain" moments before I came back here ... more often than I'd like to admit.  

But there is a force, deep within us, that says:  WAKE UP.  

Like Percy Jackson and the lotus flowers.  Poseidon says to him:  WAKE UP.  And Percy realizes that he's been in a dream-like state, and that time has been passing by -- quickly.  He begins to refuse the lotus flowers -- which, keep in mind, pisses off those around him (!) because they all want him to stay in this state, in this place.  Forever.  

But Percy is a smart guy, and he's got Poseidon watching out for him.  He runs away from those &$%! lotus flowers, and he goes on to accomplish great things.  Huge things.  Meaningful things.

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So Grandma: I'm sorry.  You are a Great Grandmother, and even a Great Great Grandmother.  But to me, you are Grandma.  The picture of strength and mental clarity for the first ~38 years of my life ... and an inspiration to me like no other.

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Day 3 today ~ and back to work!  

It's amazing that I can type that out and realize that I actually look forward to going to work.  :huh:  What the heck?  Is that a thing?  Do people do that?  Haha...  

I've always liked this job ~ and there were some days in nursing where I was happy to go back on some level.  Those days just also had an impenetrable, underlying sense of anxiety, because it's the nature of the profession to never know what the day is going to bring.  I can handle "rolling with it" pretty well in most areas of life, but when people's lives are in your hands ... it requires a level of constant vigilance that is just exhausting.  I did that day after day after day, often for 15-16 hour shifts.  {I wonder why I feel burnt out on nursing.}

So I'll keep it short today and just say:  I'm so glad I listened to that little voice.  

I searched on indeed one time for the word "manager" to see what came up in my area.  "I also have the business management degree ... let's just see what else is out there."  My employer had listed this job as "Executive Assistant/Office Manager" -- and if she had not included the word "manager" -- we never would have found each other.  That is crazy.  I have become a part of the family, and I cannot imagine where I'd be and what I would be doing today if I hadn't listened to that little voice in that moment.

As it is ~ I did listen ~ and now I get to go spend my day away from the chaos of my house ... in a wonderful, quiet, uncluttered, office space with the two beautiful Irish setters who have become my very best work buddies.  ...Sorry, boss, if you read this someday.  You know the dogs are why I stay.  :lol:

Everybody, as always, have a fantastic Monday.  I hope you listen to that little voice and make great things happen.

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Day 4 today ~ and the floor is coming along beautifully.  

You would think, living in a home with four males aged 13-43, that I might have some help ... but I really don't.  I'm not typing that out in a bitter PMS state.  It's just a layer of my onion that I'm putting out here to observe.  

There is a sense of pride and accomplishment, seeing our home transform ... row after row after row ... and I will always be able to look at it and say:  I did that.  It's not perfect, and it never will be ~ but it's mine.

I've come to realize that I have a need to create.  I think, perhaps, that need has gone unfulfilled at many points in my life ... and I wasn't even aware of it being a need, until recently.

Now that I am aware of it, I will cultivate it.  I have a lot of ideas in my mind, all the time.  I will try not to get frustrated if those around me cannot see and share my vision.  I most likely don't need their help ~ I just need their support.  Get out of my way, and let me create.  

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I popped over to Amy's log today, and it was so interesting to see her talking about her Outlander addiction.

...Oh, @Amy_Michigan ... girl ... I so hear you.  

I read approximately the first three books, before I lost interest.  That was years ago.  But I just finished watching the entire Poldark series, while working on my floor over the weekend.  Then I'm like:  well, crap, now what?  :lol:

So I go to Amazon - realize that apparently I had purchased the first season of Outlander, years ago - and apparently I had watched the first couple of episodes.  I started back up, somewhere in the middle of the third episode.  I'm just thinking, "Whatever ... it's something to listen to while I work on this floor."

For the past two nights, I have stayed up until close to 2:00 am -- not working on the floor, because that involves banging with a mallet, and my kids are in bed -- but watching this damned show.  Last night was The Wedding, and ... good Lord.  I mean, seriously.  Seriously.  Lol.  I'm not sure if it's a good thing for me to be watching.  It made me want to drink wine with my husband, for one thing.  And it made me realize how far, far, far away it is from my reality.  It's far away from everyone's reality, clearly, and that's why we love it.  It's an escape.

So I started thinking along these lines:  Is it better for us to shut things like this out, and not stir up those feelings of discontent?  Is it better for us to watch things like this, and acknowledge that perhaps this is an area of our life that could use some ... weed-pulling?  

Hmmm.  I am going to keep deep-thinking on that one.  The conclusion I come to might decide whether I'm buying wine again anytime soon.  Which brings up the question:  Why do we need wine?  I'm not saying everyone does ... but I am going to call a spade a spade, and say that our level of intimacy is most certainly enhanced by alcohol.

Man.  Now my brain hurts, and I have to go to work.  :lol:  As always ~ best wishes for a glorious day!

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6 hours ago, Brewer5 said:

I popped over to Amy's log today, and it was so interesting to see her talking about her Outlander addiction.

...Oh, @Amy_Michigan ... girl ... I so hear you.  

Good work making progress on your house project!!  Laughed when I saw you mentioned me and my Outlander addiction in your log.  :lol:  It's sooo good.  And for some reason I find it better watching on a tablet/ipad up close instead of all the way across the living room.  I do both, though.  I subscribe to Starz every time a new season comes out.  And then I watch the new episode like three times before the next episode comes out a WEEK later.  I also started watching episodes backwards from the last available episode.  A new way to watch!  LOL.  My husband and I are watching/making fun of the show The Witcher on Netflix.  He doesn't watch Outlander with me.  Lately I've been picking up the next book (partially pictured in my Day 17 meal pic)- "A Breath of Snow and Ashes" (book 6 I think) and it has been a real dilemma on whether to read or keep going on my backwards series-watching during the week between new episodes.  Yes, I could be doing better things with my time, but as long as I'm whole30-ing, I go easy on myself with other things.  :)  I'm a type B, not a type A personality so I take things nice and slow and I never over schedule myself (if I ever schedule anything at all).  As for my knee, it only hurt that one day!  If it happens again I will take a look back at my log entries and try to figure out a correlation between foods I eat before experiencing the pain.  I've been having sweet potatoes nearly every day since starting the Whole30 (at least 2/3) so I think those are safe- yay!  I haven't added any white potatoes into my diet so far because I like sweet potatoes just fine.  Sorry you experienced yuckiness when you have potatoes!!   I might have to cut out nightshades eventually if my face redness/eczema doesn't go away with my Whole30... hope it does.  

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I'm not going to number today.  Not yet, anyway.

I had a big post started here ~ sounding kind of down, like I was feeling.  Then I had a phone call that strangely lifted my spirits.  (More on that later, perhaps).  Plus my morning coffee is kicking in.

So I'm going to leave it at this:  I'm going to get off the couch now, and I'm going to go kick this day's ass.  Then tonight, I might have some wine.  With my husband.

And life will go on.  And it will be good.  :) 

 

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2 hours ago, Brewer5 said:

So I'm going to leave it at this:  I'm going to get off the couch now, and I'm going to go kick this day's ass.  Then tonight, I might have some wine.  With my husband.

Yay!  Good for you!  I need some of that attitude to wear off on me.  My energy is not focused as I need it to be today.  I also keep having to remind myself- one day at a time- and this "being healthy" stuff will eventually just become habitual.  Have a wonderful, relaxing evening tonight.  Just a thought- but totally not trying to dissuade you from your plans- I just tried pomegranate juice not too long ago... And it tasted surprisingly like sweet wine to me.  It was Pom Wonderful brand, 100% pomegranate juice.  Sometimes a glass of wine is necessary and definitely not replaceable, though, lol.

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