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  1. chichi

    Issues with leafy greens

    @heb2014 I don't know how you guys are doing now, but I and my partner experienced something similar,--he wasn't even doing the W30, but our together meals changed. It can be frustrating when one person's body reacts totally differently than another person's, but of course, that was the point of this whole thing for me, to figure out what makes you feel your best, and what's seldom worth making yourself feel crappy. It can be kind of disheartening to find it's a 'good for you' food. My husband turned out to have a digestive allergy to raw carrots, and then, when vegetables became a much more significant portion of our meals, we realized he was always having a reaction to cooked carrots, as well, he'd just never eaten a whole bunch of them. Carrots are like my second-favorite vegetable, and he doesn't like my first-favorite! We are careful with all root vegetables with him, parsnips and beets, and it just means that sometimes, I make a big ole batch of something I like, knowing it's just for my lunches, and we are both eating in a way (mostly) that makes us feel good.
  2. @CricketProtein I think we all deal with this in some way or another, and I know you feel especially constricted by what you perceive as the cultural and gender expectations. My guess is, part of your problem right now is that you don't know them all that well yet. And if you have known them for a long time, it's time to start connecting about other things. My family is PUSHY with food, and they get personally offended if I don't eat something I used to eat, and they hold onto it for multiple holidays, they keep bringing it up, they talk about me and my 'diet' all the time like it's the primary thing about me. But I realized that food is a superficial placeholder for the relationship. Because it's not about the food, actually. It's about me differentiating myself from them, which to them feels like a betrayal, and that's always been a part of my whole family dynamic. I moved away, I chose a different kind of life, etc. etc., and what they really want is for me to just be one of them, and act like I enjoy the whole thing for once in my life. If it's not one thing, it's something else. When they watch me eat, and say, "I thought you didn't eat dumplings!" I just say, "I thought you mighta found something better to obsess over." And they like that. They just want me to talk to them the way they talk, not reserved and separate. So this isn't your nuclear family, and it's going to be hard to find the 'right' way to interact around food. But it's not really about the food. Go extra in other areas, spend as much time with them as possible, wash dishes with aunties, open up and be sincere, and communicate really well with your partner because you'll need her as your ally. You don't want to seem like you're unwilling to engage in their culture--what you need to do is talk to them. It will take time, and sometimes you won't eat as 'well' as you'd like to, and they'll think you're a very strange person, but they'll come around. And if they don't, you'll all have to put up with each other anyway.
  3. This is weird, but sometimes when I'm anxious and I want crunchy stuff, what works is to floss and brush my teeth. I can do it while I watch TV or listen to an audiobook and it fulfills something your brain is accustomed to getting, some kind of sensory input for yer mouth. Similar to the tea habit for me.
  4. chichi

    Most important long-term eating habits

    @Whole30survivor I hope you're still surviving! Meal template is huge, especially when you're out away from your structured schedule for a while, in an unreliable food landscape. Sure, sometimes when travelling, jerky and an apple is all I'm going to eat, but next time I have an opportunity to get a full meal with all the parts, veg protein fat, I really take that opportunity, even if it feels absurd ordering it. It's like a little bump of normalcy and assurance that I can feed myself in a way that makes me feel good, and helps me make it through my next travel day. I would also like to add about the double meal planning--- if you're making all the food, make what you eat. Take care of yourself. Put your mask on first. You're busy working and travelling for work: if your partner really cannot handle eating the way you eat, your partner can do the meal prep. When we make meals at our house (I don't have kids, just me and my husband), he might add cheese to his plate or warm up some rice to go with his meal, or put crackers in his soup, etc. Things like sugar or legumes when they are in sauce or seasoning don't bother me too much, so I don't worry about that if he's cooking, but he was able to convert to my cooking oils of choice and my general meal template, or at least recognize that just cooking a steak and cheesy potatoes wasn't a meal for me (though if there's salad in the fridge and an avocado on the counter, I can work with a steak).
  5. Yessss. It's all in the sauce. For us, and I say us because how I eat has changed the way our household eats even though my partner didn't ever actually do the W30, the biggest change has been meals built without grain products. Our dinner rotation used to be basically pasta, nachos, curry or stirfry w/ rice, soup w/ bread, grilled cheese sandwiches, etc. And breakfast was toast, oatmeal, bagels, muffins, pancakes etc. I don't think I had a grain-free meal in my life before my W30 (3 years ago). Now, all of our together-meals are pretty classic W30 plates. (Though, obviously, my own meals get weird, because leftovers. The rest of the taco fixin's on a plate of mashed potatoes with some green olives? Sure.)
  6. Does anybody (especially men, as it seems to be especially common in men) have experience with getting food stuck in their esophagus? As a chronic life issue? A number of men in my family have experienced this regularly, and I always dismissed it as not chewing their food, eating too much gristle off chicken bones, cutting steak too big, etc. But my husband had to have a bite of food removed from his esophagus last week, and the ENT told us the biopsy tissue results came back consistent with eosinophilic esophagitis, which as I understand essentially means chronic allergy to some food or food group, causing the esophagus to swell and constrict. It's super expensive to test this allergy since the allergic reaction doesn't necessarily happen externally; you may have to get a scope done each time you re-intro a food you've excluded to see if you're having an allergic reaction. I ride my bike pretty good these days, and my husband's general meal template has gradually shifted to look mostly like mine, though he does eat oatmeal pretty regularly, and still has the occasional milkshake. We generally eat really well, and healthily. I'm curious if anybody has experience with this and whether the Whole 30 experiment interacted with the condition, helped you discover a food allergy, or helped you manage this condition. I'm not sure what direction to go, as the ENT told me that the last two people he worked with that honed in on their allergies found them to be milk and strawberries, respectively. Fresh strawberries, of all things. I feel like I thought I had an understanding of how to feed us well, and now my compass is spinning in circles!
  7. @Advocado I'm curious if after a while you have a different understanding of the 'is it worth it' mentality. My 'journey' with this wasn't quick, and I sometimes think people that feel like they've abruptly changed their entire life are in a honeymoon period and haven't landed back into their real lives yet. It is hard. It took me 3 years of gradual, gradual changes to feel like I truly operate, mostly unemotionally and without stress, with an 'is it worth it' mindset. I can tell you what it looks like now, though the first year was not much like this at all! It was eating like I did before the Whole 30 and feeling guilty. Now, 3ish years after I started this thing, when we go out to a 'nice' place, I'll just choose things that I know are minimally troublesome, though they might certainly still have added sugar, soy, legumes, etc., and I have no problem simply asking for 'no dairy' (that's the worst for me, I don't even enjoy the expensive meal because my sinuses are stuffed up and my throat is itchy as soon as I eat it). I don't ask the server specifics, I just generally steer away from things that are likely going to make me feel like garbage later. But I might still have a glass of wine or two, and I might still feel like garbage the next day sometimes. It doesn't send me crashing wildly into failure land. It reminds me why I love feeling mostly good most of the time, and why I really want to eat cabbage and eggs and every day for breakfast. I didn't get 'rid' of less healthy things permanently. Today I ate a melted chocolate out of my delivery van's cupholder, and I was so very, very low blood sugar that it was 110% worth it, and I was very, very excited to get home and eat shredded chicken with avocado, greens, and mustard, cold out of the fridge. I drink about 2% of the alcohol I used to, and don't miss it at all. I don't plan my less healthy foods, I just don't think about food as much as I used to. My general habits and choices have changed. My 'comfort foods' are the things I always have on hand that I can rely on to make me feel good, well fed.
  8. chichi

    My sleep is totally messed up

    I am having a ton of trouble with sleep, too. Doing the wake up all morning thing, but also takes me a long time to fall asleep, sometimes two or three hours, which puts me into that half-sleep toss-turn phase anyway. I am NOT feeling rested or like I'm sleeping deeply. Groggy, wired-exhaustion brain, feels like I'm manic. This seems like a pretty weird and, the more I try and read about it, not uncommon problem with the protocol, and the answer is to take a sleep-aid? Is there any kind of theoretical time frame for your hormones adjusting to the diet and allowing your body to rest again? Is it different for every person?