Ari.

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  1. Ari.

    Obsessed with body image

    Wow, Kew- thank you for sharing that. It's crazy that even our children can add to our negative body image. And it also really shows how young it actually starts. He is lucky to have a mother that is aware of its negative impact so he can be set straight for the future!
  2. Ari.

    Starting Whole60 today! (6/5)

    Yes missmunchie!! When are you planning on starting your program?? I would love to have mental support buddies.
  3. Ari.

    Starting Whole60 today! (6/5)

    Absolutely! Congrats Kelly, I wish I could get my family on board!
  4. Ari.

    Starting Whole60 today! (6/5)

    Hi, I would love to be buddies! I have been through one Whole30 so I might be able to answer some questions that arise, and you might have some advice on stress relieving strategies! Either way, moral support is always a huge plus. Good luck to us both!! And congrats!
  5. I successfully completed my first Whole30 in May and after several guilt ridden posts about how off track I'd gone...here I am! I just finished school a couple of weeks ago and have been indulging food and sleep. The idea sounds great, but it made me feel awful. I am moving, changing jobs and switching schools in August, so I have been extremely overwhelmed and decided that I needed to focus on all of that this summer and my next Whole30 would have to come later when I settled in. But I finally realized yesterday that my health should be the most important thing in my life. Changes are momentary but health is 24/7. Even during my first Whole30 I viewed it as a slight inconvenience against all of my other obligations. This time around, I am going to complete a Whole60 which will give me 30 days to focus on the physical and 30 days to focus on the mental. I need to find alternative coping methods which I didn't bother with the first time. I just ignored my emotions. So I am not as prepared as I'd like to be to start today but I know I can make it work. Looking after our health should be unconditional right? Here I go!
  6. Really good points. I know that it all comes down to stuffing my emotions, and I was able to scratch the surface of some painful emotions while doing my Whole30. Suzy, it's so true that you have to try to stay "up", something that is really hard for me. I think it's a sign of maturity to be optimistic and positive because it's so easy to be sulky and indulge in negative emotions. I am just learning that, and I think being social will be a crucial part of my journey. 1Maryann, I think I may have taken the Whole30 too literally because I thought the only way to be successful is to go cold turkey and never look back but I am beginning to realize that it's not a one size fits all. 30 days is probably a great physical reset but by no means a sufficient amount of time to attempt a psychological reset. I hope I can find it within myself to do the program for a longer time period because I know that in the absence of unhealthy foods I could get in touch with my emotions. It's a scary thought! But like ISWF says, none of us are actually in a unique situation where we are incapable of recovery. It's easy to fall into the mind set of "well, it works for them but it can't work for me". Which is where I've been for a long time. I guess literally the only difference is: yes I will stick this out or no I will not stick this out. And maybe sticking it out doesn't mean being perfect.
  7. missmunchie I know exactly where you are going with this. I feel like I would be lost without my extra weight, like someone would be taking my baby blanket away. I can't imagine myself thin, I just wouldn't know how to act (even though logically I know I would be the same exact person). It's really a shame that all of this has to be so psychological. I am glad we are both here because at least we're not in denial
  8. And it is very true that I need to gain perspective on what's worse: the pain of living without the sugar dragon or the pain of living with the sugar dragon.
  9. Thank you ladies, I am in need of accessing what my relationship to sugar means...I agree that stopping at a change in diet might not be adequate. At least when I eat Whole30 compliant I do not have extreme mood swings and my head is clearer, maybe doing another Whole30 will help give me some clarity and I can begin to examine deeper problems.
  10. I successfully completed a Whole30 in May. I did have my bad days but this is definitely the right lifestyle for me. There is no question that I'm healthier while eating paleo. Yet, I have created some kind of psychological block that isn't even allowing me to begin another Whole30 because I feel like I'm kidding myself. I don't know how to live my life without my sugar habit and while the Whole30 does give my body a break I am lacking motivation to even get started since I know I can't sustain it. I do believe that I can change but I don't know how. Just feeling really discouraged! I recently went to visit my grandmother who has dementia and I noticed little things I was doing to soothe myself during the rough visit like chewing on gum continuously and taking a drink from my sugary coffee drink every time she said something completely out of context. How would I survive without those methods of coping?? Eating sugar is the only thing that got me through several deaths in my family and it continues to be what carries me through stressful periods. I moved away from all of my friends in high school and spent the summer eating ice cream everyday. I feel as though sugar is an old and reliable friend and I can't imagine the rest of my life without it. Does/has anyone else ever felt this way?
  11. I successfully completed a Whole30 in May. I did have my bad days but this is definitely the right lifestyle for me. There is no question that I'm healthier while eating paleo. Yet, I have created some kind of psychological block that isn't even allowing me to begin another Whole30 because I feel like I'm kidding myself. I don't know how to live my life without my sugar habit and while the Whole30 does give my body a break I am lacking motivation to even get started since I know I can't sustain it. I do believe that I can change but I don't know how. Just feeling really discouraged! I recently went to visit my grandmother who has dementia and I noticed little things I was doing to soothe myself during the rough visit like chewing on gum continuously and taking a drink from my sugary coffee drink every time she said something completely out of context. How would I survive without those methods of coping?? Eating sugar is the only thing that got me through several deaths in my family and it continues to be what carries me through stressful periods. I moved away from all of my friends in high school and spent the summer eating ice cream everyday. I feel as though sugar is an old and reliable friend and I can't imagine the rest of my life without it. Does/has anyone else ever felt this way?
  12. Ari.

    Obsessed with body image

    CaseyD, it's really interesting to hear from your perspective. I had a friend when I was just a teenager that I considered beautiful and perfect. I met her after she had lost a lot of weight and one day she told me that nothing changed inside of her even after losing weight, she still hated how she looked. That completely went over my head when I was young and it wasn't until last year that I reflected on what she said. I think that as humans we have a need to choose measurable representations of our goals, obviously. But I think many of us look at weight loss as the only measure of true happiness and self love, maybe because it's something that we do have control over (relative to other things). We don't have much control over the external world, but we can decide that losing body fat will lead to happiness and gaining body fat will lead to misery. But as many of us have come to realize, happiness does not come from how much we weigh. That would mean loving ourselves only conditionally. I hope I can learn to love myself unconditionally and treat my body with respect.
  13. Ari.

    Day 17 and smell

    Bethann67, good info. I wish I would have heard that earlier because in the beginning of my Whole30 I became aware of ketosis but was never sure whether it was bad or would if it ever go away. Thank you!
  14. Ari.

    Obsessed with body image

    Wow thank you guys so much for your responses, they were truly EXACTLY what I was looking for and needed to hear. Kirsteen, your post made me tear up. Thank you for sharing your journey with me, it was extremely eye opening. For the first time in my life I am actually open to hearing and absorbing the concept of self acceptance. I always felt like the only path to true acceptance by myself and others was through weight loss. What a joke. You guys all said it- other people (even myself) have legitimate things to worry about. I have denied myself basic happiness for a long time and it's just not worth it. The whole concept of the Whole30 has been really eye opening and I am so thankful that a random customer suggested ISWF a couple months back. I have a somewhat active lifestyle, not so much for exercising but because I work on my feet and am running all over a school campus lugging books 4 days a week. I have never really considered exercising to feel better! It's always been -"Well I suppose I'll try for a bit to get this weight loss thing on the road". And then I end up doing exercises I don't even really enjoy. I'm sure incorporating some nature walks and stretching would do wonders for me emotionally and physically. It's been a pleasure reading everyone's input, thanks again
  15. I successfully completed my first Whole30 last month. I want to begin a second Whole30 but there has been something in my way. I have obsessed over my appearance everyday for the last 10 years. I am probably 30 pounds over my "ideal" weight, and the most I have lost in these 10 years is 15 pounds. You'd think for someone who thinks about losing weight and talks about losing weight- at nauseum- would have managed to do it by now. My Whole30 was the first time I said screw the weight loss thing, I just want to feel better. This time last year, there's no way I would allow myself to stop thinking I need to be skinnier. I have convinced myself that if I just wear sweaters in 90 degree weather and cover myself up as much as possible that no one will notice that I have some extra pounds to lose. But I have recently decided, who cares how you look on the outside if you feel good on the inside? During my first Whole30, I felt amazing without losing any weight. And that's when I realized that maybe my focus should not even be on how my body looks, because who is honestly judging me? I know the program talks a lot about body image, ditching the scale and not listening to the media. I would like to know if there are any former body-obsessed folks who have successfully become a healthier version of themselves with self acceptance. And if you would care to dispense any wisdom for someone who is just now (kind of) seeing the light?