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  1. Contessa

    Take Advantage

    Glad that you are ruminating on these questions. It seems like changing our habits or maintaining good habits does require this level of cogitation — what's working right now? where am I going to run into resistance? Where am I swimming with the current, and where is the current carrying me farther away? I'm excited to hear these layers of exploration. Bravo!
  2. Contessa

    Take Advantage

    Ooh. I'm just sitting here at my kitchen table nodding over your response. That bit about flexible thought processes really preaches. Yes!
  3. Contessa

    Take Advantage

    You can totally say this I'm glad you're not beating yourself up about yesterday. Sounds like you enjoyed the night with your husband and son, and that you came away with valuable observations. I feel like that's what this food freedom thing is about. My therapist says that food issues are the perfect avenue for self-discovery and growth, for two reasons: (1) it's impossible to get food 100% "right" all the time, and (2) anytime you feel like you get it "wrong," well — you'll have another opportunity in a few hours to try a new experiment. There's a lot more gray area with food than there is with a substance like alcohol, which we don't need to survive. All that gray area can be hard for personalities like me (heh) who really want to "check a box," get the gold star, and move on. But the blessing of food is that it invites us to reckon with ourselves at a deeper level, to explore our real hungers, and to honor to what truly feeds us.
  4. Contessa

    Contessa's Food Freedom

    Yeah! Last week didn't match my plan, but I stayed in the saddle. That felt good. And yesterday I cooked up a huge amount of W30 proteins and veggies. Grateful to be staying close to home (metaphorically and physically) as this new week begins. I dunno, perhaps after 1,382 episodes of eating way too much junk food, I'm ready for a different approach. Yes, please borrow the Sunday questions if you want to! Heck, no need to wait until your W60 is done... you can start using them now. Usually most of my reflections around food have been past-focused (beating myself up, regretting whatever it was I ate too much of) but I want to spend energy imagining what it looks like when things are working well.
  5. Contessa

    Contessa's June Realignment

    Anyone wishing to follow along with my once-a-week re-introduction updates can find my reintro thread here. I will post reflections here for the next couple of months.
  6. Contessa

    Contessa's Food Freedom

    Food freedom thoughts, 7/5/20: I'm almost a week into my food freedom and am already learning some good stuff. The first discovery is that, uh, reintroduction is tricky! No catastrophic eating has occurred (none of the former face-planting into a bucket of peanut M&Ms) — but my beautiful, orderly plans for the week buckled under some real world pressure, and I have not kept to the re-intro as I'd wanted. The challenge came from spending most of this week with my boyfriend. We did a bit of traveling this week (my farthest journey from home since all this covid stuff began). And it was difficult to maintain a re-intro while spending time together. There was a pita sandwich (wheat!) with tuna and sprouts and swiss cheese (dairy!). There was a veggie quesadilla (wheat! dairy!) with beans (legumes! which I'd already successfully re-introduced). None of it caused me any distress, but it did scramble my nice tiered plans. Along the way, I resisted a spontaneous Wendy's Frosty and an unplanned bubble tea. I'll enjoy those items later — I just didn't want my first "treats" to be random "eh, sure" drive-through moments on our road trip. Another discovery is that I want to try a new Sunday tradition. Starting today, I'll be taking 20-30 minutes each week to answer the following series of questions, which address life in general as well as Food Stuff. I adapted these questions from a coach I used to worked with. I'm looking forward to pausing and paying attention as essential acts of preparation for the week ahead. I've got a fridge full of my favorite W30 foods for the week ahead, and I'm also planning two or three treats for this week. I'll be back in a few days to reflect on those experiences with treats. Sunday questions: What have I accomplished this week? Is there anything I wanted to accomplish but did not? What a-ha's or awakenings have I had this week? What challenges am I experiencing? If I were coaching myself, what would I tell myself about those challenges? How do I feel about my eating over the past week? What foods will I enjoy in the coming week? (this is my chance to think about planning treats) What are my top three priorities for this coming week? If I could get nothing else done this week but one thing, what one thing would I choose to do? What one thing would make me happy and proud? How do I want to feel this week?
  7. Contessa

    The Month There Was No Dr. Pepper

    "The Month There Was No Dr. Pepper" hooked me completely. Great title I'm looking forward to cheering you along your journey. I hope you will report frequently here on your difficulties and joys — we are here to support you!
  8. Contessa

    Take Advantage

    The bits and pieces I've heard from this book sound so interesting! This sounds like a great companion for this time as you are thinking of your post W30/W60 life. This way of eating is too restrictive for most of us to maintain over many months or many years. But I love what you're saying about small choices that add up. This is a pleasant antidote to my former way of "all or nothing" thinking ("well, I already had some gluten, and it's only 9:45 am, so I might as well spend the rest of the day face-planting into this package of Mint Milanos"). Excited about your bike, too. Cheers for pleasure that comes from being active!
  9. Contessa

    Take Advantage

    Oooh.... I love your concept of setting monthly goals and then giving yourself little rewards. Gonna have to borrow this idea!
  10. Contessa

    Take Advantage

    Sounds like some lovely NSVs. Also, I wish you joy in browsing those Well Fed cookbooks... I think Melissa Joulwan is my favorite paleo recipe author ever. Her recipes are so creative and satisfying! Hoping your morning is pain free.
  11. Contessa

    Shadow’s May 2020 Whole30

    Wishing you well, Shadow. Take good care — we'll be cheering for you.
  12. Contessa

    Round 4 - FIGHT!

    Bravo! As a veteran of throwing things in the trash.... I enthusiastically support this gesture. Melissa Urban talks in Food Freedom Forever about her one-bite rule. If she takes a first bite and absolutely loves the treat, great. She lets herself continue with the second bite, and so on. If she doesn't love it, she either gives the food away or gets rid of it. Throwing food away is a nice way to signal that you have changed your mind, and that you get to call the shots... not the food.
  13. Contessa

    Round 2

    Hey there, excited to hear about your second round! Boy do I relate to "porridge brain." And I relate to the childhood coping strategy, too! Your goals sound wonderful. Cheering you on as you explore alternative means of relaxing, living well, and enjoying life!
  14. Food freedom thoughts, 6/30/20: Here's a hot tip: the best thing to do on the morning after finishing a Whole 30 is to prepare a big batch of Whole 30 foods. Here's you, italian meatballs, spaghetti squash, and roasted butternut squash. After 30 days of Whole 30 eating, I'm doing a by-the-book fast track reintroduction. Today was legumes (normal W30 breakfast; veggie and lentil soup for lunch; a smear of peanut butter on an apple). After this, I'll go back to classic Whole 30 for a couple of days. Incredibly, even lentil soup tastes pretty good right now. I feel very grateful to have finished this Whole 30 and to be feeling so good. I plan to write here about once a week for the next couple of months with food thoughts and re-introduction notes. Tonight, it is a joy to think about eating in a way that is flexible, pleasurable, and life-affirming.
  15. Contessa

    Contessa's June Realignment

    Thank you Mady <3 I feel the same about your posts. I've been working on this food stuff for a long time and I know I'm not alone. I find encouragement and help in all kinds of different places, and just want to go on sharing what works and what doesn't. Fortunately, I have a pretty good grasp of what doesn't work. I think all of us doing a Whole 30 probably have that part of the spectrum covered. Focusing now on what works.