hiennnguyen Posted April 18, 2013 Share Posted April 18, 2013 well my best friend and I always use Fridays as our cheat days (cheat as in cheating from okayish eating but still poor eating) where we eat dinner and dessert together. I feel okay about dinner this friday because I can get steak without the seasonings, salad, and sweet potatoes. I am terrified of the dessert part though. I want to continue our tradition of seeing each other and hanging out on Friday nights, but I don't want to mess up my whole30 (it'll be day 2). Would it be considered "sex with pants on" if i pack along strawberries in coconut milk or something so I can eat that while she eats the dessert? I could just pack strawberries and apples without coconut milk if that is more compliant :/ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Physibeth Posted April 18, 2013 Share Posted April 18, 2013 My understanding is that part of the Whole30 is breaking the emotional connection with food. Your need to eat dessert with your friend seems like an emotional connection with food to me. I would just go and enjoy your friends company and if she questions your not getting dessert just tell her you didn't feel like you needed to have it to enjoy your time with her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hiennnguyen Posted April 18, 2013 Author Share Posted April 18, 2013 It's definitely an emotional connection! I just don't want to abandon her kind of by not enjoying food with her. I guess I'm afraid she'd take it as some kind of rejection of her? (ahh I'm overanalyzing this aren't I?!) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Physibeth Posted April 18, 2013 Share Posted April 18, 2013 I get what you are saying. She might be hurt. She might not. If she expresses hurt assure her that your desire to not eat dessert has nothing to do with her or your friendship with her. People have very strong connections to food and unfortunately other people do react to how we choose to eat. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hiennnguyen Posted April 18, 2013 Author Share Posted April 18, 2013 thanks physibeth, i'll just be honest with her and maybe we can both break our emotional eating together Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tveen Posted April 18, 2013 Share Posted April 18, 2013 I've had this too where a friend and I would hang out with a lot and we would go get cupcakes together after every meal! I told her I didn't want to cupcakes anymore and she was a little put off but in the end she didn't get any either and we still enjoyed our time together! It's hard to break a habit but I always think a) if the person REALLY wants the certain food, me not getting it won't stop her, so why am I going to go down with her? or if our friendship was based just on eating crap together...that's a bigger problem right? It is really hard though! Good luck to you! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators Tom Denham Posted April 19, 2013 Moderators Share Posted April 19, 2013 Most of the time when I eat out with friends, I drink a cup of decaf coffee while they eat cheese cake. I don't think it matters to anybody, but I can be insensitive to things like that and not notice. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hiennnguyen Posted April 19, 2013 Author Share Posted April 19, 2013 thanks everyone!! these comments made me feel a lot better about the situation Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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