BrookieC Posted January 11, 2016 Share Posted January 11, 2016 Help... I need some encouragement... This has been quite the journey... We are a pretty healthy family and whole food approved but... My husband wouldn't do the whole30 with me and my children 6,4,18 mo very rarely eat processed food so I didn't want to push something else on them. I have an autoimmune disease I am trying to find the root cause of so I decided I would go it alone. These last couple days have been so hard!! I have been so good and resisted even the slightest temptations... Like oatmeal or Greek yogurt on a fingertip or checking the temp of a number of foods for my toddler, butter left on my fork from my daughters mashed sweet potatoes, and almond milk spilt... So I am just feeling deflated! I have been up since 3 am but I am extremely exhausted. In just a couple of hours all 3 of my adorable kids will be up wanting fed 3 different things that I cannot have even though they are "healthy"... Maybe this is just to vent... I have been self talking to myself about how people without kids have it so much easier... Ha ha!! Like these 3 little blessings are a burden... Then I go into mommy guilt☹. Had to let someone-anyone-everyone know I am struggling. I am on day 11 and your timeline has been on point pretty much every day. I feel like my condition has gotten worse which is even more discouraging then all the other reasons. I just want to feel good again!?!? Ok I am done ranting! Here's to getting a few more minutes of sleep... Much Love -The Mommy Struggle is real Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Physibeth Posted January 11, 2016 Share Posted January 11, 2016 Hey BrookieC I'm sorry you are struggling. Just hang in there! Any way you can simplify your life a bit by cutting down on the short order cooking? I understand not wanting to make everyone adhere to the Whole30 but perhaps there can at least be the same base menu with a few small additions for the non Whole30s. As a total aside I've moved this post to a more appropriate section of the forum then where it was originally posted. Keep trucking and doing what you need to do to improve your health both for yourself and your 3 little blessings. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MamaJ Posted January 11, 2016 Share Posted January 11, 2016 Just wanted to share that I'm a happily married wife with two small children and I'm the only person who does Whole30 in my house. During my first Whole30, there was even a moment where I was spoon feeding my toddler gelato. So yeah. Just wanted to let you know that you're not the only parent out there, and you can do it! Whole30 has changed my life forever. It's worth it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ShellyW Posted January 11, 2016 Share Posted January 11, 2016 It's hard doing the Whole 30 alone when you have a family and you're responsible for meal prep. I agree with Physibeth that the short order cooking should be limited. As the mom of 3 boys (21, 18, 13) I learned many years ago that you can make yourself crazy trying to please everyone. I find that it helps to make a compliant protein and veg for everyone and let them have a non-compliant side (pasta, fries, bread, rice). That lessens the feeling that you are "missing out" on what everyone else is eating along with simplifying meal prep. Being a mom to 3 young kids is tough, but we mom's always find a way. Keep up the good work! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators SugarcubeOD Posted January 11, 2016 Moderators Share Posted January 11, 2016 . I feel like my condition has gotten worse which is even more discouraging then all the other reasons. I just want to feel good again!?!? Aside from the mommy thing, to which I, as a kid free adult cannot relate, can we talk about this? What is your condition that has gotten worse? And maybe if you can post 2-3 days worth of your intake including portion sizes and meal timings, we can see if there's anything to tweak to help you get over this hump? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
leslie706 Posted January 11, 2016 Share Posted January 11, 2016 I can completely relate. I force my kids to eat healthy 99% of the time, but there are others that I let them "be kids". For example, I made homemade hot chocolate for family game night last night. I literally wanted to squirt whipped cream directly into my mouth. My kids are elementary school aged and I just explained to them that there are things that I can't have for awhile. I was shocked at how much they were willing to give up because I "can't eat it." Maybe with the 6 and 4 year old, just explain that Mommy isn't eating this right now and ditto on the short order cook thing. I've been there and done that. I nixed it, as I need my mental health to take priority over their preferences. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LAS3024 Posted January 11, 2016 Share Posted January 11, 2016 The mommy struggle is real! I completely feel you on that. It seems like you already have a lot on your plate and getting up early but one thing that has helped me is setting aside 15 minutes in the morning to help set my day off on a great start- 5 minutes of meditation and then 10 minutes (or less depending on how fast you write) of writing in a journal for 3 pages. Just writing and venting. I've been wanting to do those morning pages for so long but never started until now when I need to support and comfort myself in other ways rather than dark chocolate and reading in the bath at the end of the day. I am so blessed with my two little ones (1 and 8) but completely feel overwhelmed at times. Is it normal that you have to get up at 3am? Sleep deprivation is horrible. I finally night weaned my babe at 18 months and it has been amazing. He sleeps with my husband and gets hugs and cuddles if he needs it of course but now he sleeps so much better and so do I. Maybe making some things that the kids will like that you don't need to make in the morning? Muffins (egg muffins or other that are non Whole30 if that's what they need), yogurt they can grab, overnight oats or oatmeal they can heat up, cut up fruit, hard boiled eggs, home made granola (if they eat that)... Sending you lots of good thoughts! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BrookieC Posted January 13, 2016 Author Share Posted January 13, 2016 My goodness I am blown away at all your encouragement!! Thank you so much!! I actually cried when I saw my inbox full of people lifting me up and trying brainstorm ways to help me. My medical condition isn't 100% known right now. The Drs think it's lupus and then the specialists say it's fibromyalgia. So fatigue and join pain has been even worse the last few days. It definitely took a toll on my mental aspect of the whole30. It's seemed too much to handle with all the regular "symptoms" that come with cleansing your body of junk... On top I have to deal with my illness... But yesterday was a much better day and I honestly feel it had a lot to do with all of you guys. I say my kids down and talked to them about how I have felt and why I am doing this whole30. The 6 year old said she wants to eat everything I am eating to help me out. I am prepping to batch cook in the next couple days and make some breakfast muffins the kids can just warm up in the morning. I feel like I got new wind in my sails. Thank you all so very much!! Love, BrookieC I will write my food diary out the next few days to reply and let y'all know how I am feeling. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Physibeth Posted January 13, 2016 Share Posted January 13, 2016 Just to further encourage you, I have a friend who was diagnosed with lupus and she did a Whole30 with me a few months ago. It was rough for her at the start but she had a lot of relief once she got going. Keep on it! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xandra Posted January 13, 2016 Share Posted January 13, 2016 Good luck, you can do this. I have 3 kids and I'm the only W30 in my house and I follow Shelly's suggestions. After W30 becomes your routine, fixing modified versions for everyone else becomes more routine, too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
broccolimama Posted January 14, 2016 Share Posted January 14, 2016 Chiming in to say that I'm with you! Only one doing whole 30 in my house as well. Feeding ice cream and pizza here and there throughout the 40+ days I've been eating this way. I started making cooking things like baked chicken fingers with almond meal that we all enjoyed together. I'm here to say it gets easier. One of my reasons for doing this is to set a healthy example of food/ body to my girls. Cheers! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kestie77 Posted January 14, 2016 Share Posted January 14, 2016 I'm the only one in my house, too. So far (and I'm only on Day 3, so I'm no expert) I've made dishes that are easy to modify. Last night was tacos: taco meat over greens with tomatoes and avocados for me, tacos on tortillas with cheese and veggies for them. The night before was brats (compliant) & sauerkraut with mashed potatoes. I made regular mashed potatoes for them, but pulled some potatoes out before I put in the milk & butter. Finding something they like and I can eat will be interesting. Good luck! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mrskateduvall Posted January 17, 2016 Share Posted January 17, 2016 I am posting on this thread because I can so relate. I am the whole30 person, in a house with three men with adult appetites. ( 18, 16 and my husband). I am on day 11. I could easily commit spousacide for his bringing home pumpkin scones and ice cream as left overs from a scouting adventure. No one will cook for me. I have removed all contraband, except johnnies seasoning salt. I so want to give in and eat homemade curly fries with johnnies.My child and husband are indulging, and I feel so left out. I am tired of cooking, I miss the days of last minute food decisions that ended up in fast food, or too much food. It's really hard to binge eat on spinach. One of my goals for this month is to heal my relationship with food, and I know that there is so much more going on then hungry pains. My oldest son is supportive, and helped plan a compliant menu. But he still downs protein shakes and smoothies and I am envious.I will follow my menu, and am choosing to post rather than eat. . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moderators SugarcubeOD Posted January 17, 2016 Moderators Share Posted January 17, 2016 My child and husband are indulging, and I feel so left out. I am tired of cooking, I miss the days of last minute food decisions that ended up in fast food, or too much food. Hmm... let's do a little exercise to change the thought process there... Fill in this blank: I do not miss the days of_________ related to last minute food decisions that ended up in fast food, or too much food. Often times when we change the direction of our thoughts and statements, it can make an enormous difference in the way we think about the situation.... including not feeling left out... If you're tired of cooking, there are a lot of ways to minimize the cooking impact on your whole 30, including batch cooking at the weekend, slow cooker meals and casseroles and other larger recipes that can be meals and left overs. Google Whole 30 + XXSubject to get a ton of results that can help ease the cooking burden! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MBC Posted January 17, 2016 Share Posted January 17, 2016 Hmm... let's do a little exercise to change the thought process there... Fill in this blank: I do not miss the days of_________ related to last minute food decisions that ended up in fast food, or too much food. Often times when we change the direction of our thoughts and statements, it can make an enormous difference in the way we think about the situation.... including not feeling left out... If you're tired of cooking, there are a lot of ways to minimize the cooking impact on your whole 30, including batch cooking at the weekend, slow cooker meals and casseroles and other larger recipes that can be meals and left overs. Google Whole 30 + XXSubject to get a ton of results that can help ease the cooking burden! I totally agree, lots of pre prepared and cooked food in the fridge is the key! Take out what you need for the serves then warm it up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OldLady Posted January 18, 2016 Share Posted January 18, 2016 The mommy struggle!!! Lol, I CAN RELATE!!! I work full time, have a 4 and a 6 year old, and I have had the joys of autoimmune "fun" as well. I am also the only Whole30 chicka in my household. I have to share this story... I made this beautiful pot roast, enough to have lunches for a few days for my husband and I. Now, my girls won't touch it, so i made them chicken and quinoa. After dinner, my hubby thought it would be tasty to add the leftover quinoa to the remainder of the pot roast. Oh, the humanity!! My lunches! Infiltrated by non compliant quinoa. So, I feel your pain. I have a recommendation. Try to view this as you taking care of yourself, rather than doing without or passing things up. Tell yourself that the oatmeal and yogurt will still be there when you are done with the 30. As everyone else is chowing down the usual fare, sit down to your nourishing meal of clean meat and veggies. Every bite you take is self care. You've got an 18 month old. I remember how tough things are when you have a tot that small to tote. Tack a health problem onto that mix, and you've got your hands full, sister. I remember going through exactly what you are going through! I had a doctor tell me that I had lupus. I even had that rash across my face. I had all the crazy lab work too! But... I don't have Lupus. Waiting to figure out what was wrong was scary, and stressful. Keep your chin up. Take a deep breath! You're my hero for taking on a whole30 with three kiddos... Including a 18 month old. And as for still feeling lousy, that's okay. Remember that this is YOUR whole30, and everyone reacts and responds differently. Stay the course, have faith that you are exactly where you need to be, and do this for yourself, you deserve it! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missyween Posted January 19, 2016 Share Posted January 19, 2016 I just saw this, several days after you wrote. You have my sympathy! I've got six kids, husband and disabled Mom, and nobody wants to eat Whole30. But here's how I'm getting around it. I make a regular Whole 30 entree and a gigantic salad for me, and then I cook up rice or potatoes for them, and if I put bread and butter on the table for the rest of the family, they are super satisfied. Is it hard for you to enjoy your meal when you see those items on the table that are non-compliant? I had more trouble being surrounded by those tempting foods the first time I did a Whole30, and I have made a few failed attempts which were all foiled by tempting food just lying around the house. But I begin to wonder if I have just gotten over that powerful temptation response now. I cannot explain why I'm less tempted, but it might be because I've got more practice at it. So, I would encourage you to really hang in there and push through until you can look at that baguette and think of it as, not a delicious vehicle for butter, but a 36 hour case of bloated abdominal cramping. Which is how I view it. It makes the bread look so much less desirable. Keep on, one hour at a time, and you will get there! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dizilizi Posted January 21, 2016 Share Posted January 21, 2016 I too am the only one in my family doing a Whole30. I am blessed that my family is willing to eat whatever I fix, that said, I have trained them to be that way. When my kids were little, they are now 17, 18, 20, and 21, i refused to be a short order cook. They were to eat what I fixed and if they didn't want to eat it, they went hungry. You see, my 17 year old was a very picky eater and if I wasn't strict about that rule, i would end up cooking several different meals. I started this Whole30 right before my youngest's birthday, he really struggled to choose a restaurant that I could eat at (I also have Hashimoto's, a dairy, and beef allergy). Keep up the good work, your kids are learning from you, and you will be able to slowly bring some of these habits into their lives as well. And yes, the MommyStruggleisREAL!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Recommended Posts
Archived
This topic is now archived and is closed to further replies.