AllyB Posted August 19, 2014 Share Posted August 19, 2014 I went to kid's birthday pool party with my daughter this weekend. It was the typical kids party. Pizza, chips, capri sun drinks. Some of the adults had bathing suits on (I did as well.) When I got there, one mother (who I've known for several years and has seen me in a bathing suit) looked at me and said "You're skinny!" I didn't respond. Then a few minutes later, she said "Have you been doing ab work?" Being a smartass, I said "No, I just do Pilates." (Which is a lot of core work.) So as the party went along, she kept making comments about my body while we were sitting at a table with a bunch of people. Then when it came time for cake, another father (who I've also known for several years now), came up to me with a piece of cake. He offered it to me and said "People are worried that you are wasting away, so you better eat this." Huh? A nasty blue frosted cake is going to save me?? My reply to him was "I'm not wasting away, I just quit eating crap. I eat veggies, fruits and meats." His reply was "Well, that sounds find except the veggies part." This was the only thing that I said about the way I eat. I wasn't lecturing or trying to convert people. As a side note, I did eat the cake. I had planned on it ahead of time. But later that day, I had a splitting headache. So I'm not eager to have it again any time soon! My take away from that experience was I find it really sad that people think it's ok to freely discuss other peoples' bodies. I felt a bit like a piece of meat. I also think it's one of the reasons so many women have eating disorders. Our sense of self is derived by how we look. Just because I've lost weight and look healthily doesn't automatically make me a better or valuable person. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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