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Life Post Whole 30 - Struggling with Weight Gain and Normalcy

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Hey everyone, I just completed my first Whole 30 and lost quite a bit of weight while on the program. After going off, I did indulge in alcohol, dairy, sugar, etc. as I was home visiting family, and gained at least half of the weight back. My biggest motivation for going into Whole30 was to establish a healthy relationship with food. I always tend to see things as good or bad and if a ate a "bad" food I would let it ruin my day. Luckily on Whole30 eating whatever I wanted (but all healthy food) helped me stop trying to restrict myself so much. Now reintroducing things back into "normal" life I find that I'm letting one glass of wine, or a small piece of dark chocolate completely ruin my day/mood...I really want to still have a social life and not be as restrictive as I was on W30, but I'm struggling striking that balance and focusing too much on weight as an accomplishment...any ideas?!

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This is where finding your food freedom takes practice. Take the info you learned most recently and then do some experiments.  Maybe one glass of wine is fine but wine plus chocolate opens doors that should stay shut. Maybe chocolate is fine when with other people but too hard to manage when you're alone. Experiment with it and see if you can find your personal balance.

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On 11/16/2018 at 6:26 PM, ladyshanny said:

This is where finding your food freedom takes practice. Take the info you learned most recently and then do some experiments.  Maybe one glass of wine is fine but wine plus chocolate opens doors that should stay shut. Maybe chocolate is fine when with other people but too hard to manage when you're alone. Experiment with it and see if you can find your personal balance.

Good morning- I can relate to this post. I’ve had three weeks of visitors family holiday etc and got off eating healthy and do miss how I felt. Getting back to no sugar no bread etc is harder for some reason than first time. especislly with Xmas looming.  I did food freedom but it opened door to too much Sugar etc. I e gotten out my journal to look at it.  Anyway to return without going cold turkey and going to beginning again? Elizabeth 

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I totally agree with you, the holidays and being home kind of "ruined" it and I feel absolutely awful. I'm trying to change my viewpoint (i.e. good vs bad days), but it's so hard not to see things as extremes! I also 100% agree that no sugar/bread is way harder this time around. It's crazy, there's nothing different between right now and when I was on Whole30, other than apparently my willpower. I'm trying to eat as Whole30 clean as I can, allowing myself red wine, and doing my best not to beat myself up if I indulge in something (a sweet treat or dairy) but it's such a slippery slope. How much indulgence per week is too much? Is the sugar addiction so real that I need to forgo sugar altogether for good? Lots of living and learning post Whole30!

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This IS what you have to learn for yourself - and reprogram what "indulgence" looks/feels like.  

As far as dealing with your social life, I have found it totally acceptable to my friends for me to say "yeah, I'm not willing to risk this (dramatic hands sliding down the new bod) for that".  It gets a laugh because of the dramatic hands slide :) and is a good reminder to yourself - and moves past the topic.  Your friends have seen that you look and feel better and they will get it and move on.  I also found new things to drink socially - sparkling water with lime and a splash of your chosen poison may be better because it's so close to sparkling water that you can have one and then go back to just plain sparkling water with citrus without feeling self-sacrificing or looking like you are "switching" to your friends and causing a stir (if this bothers you).  

Every day is a new day to make better choices - don't let yesterday's bad ones define today's (sort of like the rest of life, huh?) :)

 

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I'm wondering about the topic of "life after" a 30. I found myself able to "mostly" stay on track for months, but ever so slowly over the course of a year, I've returned to old "pre-30" habits (and gained 10 pounds too.) I realize this program is not about weight loss and I also realize I felt so much healthier when I was 10 pounds lighter and eliminating sugar, bread, and alcohol.  I'm on day 10 of my second whole 30 and wondering if  I can expect to experience similar results the second time around?  Also wondering what supports are available to assist in maintaining the Whole 30 lifestyle, permanently? I have experienced a sort of "all" or "nothing" with this. I either stick w/ food guidelines with fidelity or I don't and then one off plan choice leads to another and another and another... and hello 10 lbs!

Thanks for any help/suggestions you can share.  

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42 minutes ago, AC16 said:

I'm wondering about the topic of "life after" a 30. I found myself able to "mostly" stay on track for months, but ever so slowly over the course of a year, I've returned to old "pre-30" habits (and gained 10 pounds too.) I realize this program is not about weight loss and I also realize I felt so much healthier when I was 10 pounds lighter and eliminating sugar, bread, and alcohol.  I'm on day 10 of my second whole 30 and wondering if  I can expect to experience similar results the second time around?  Also wondering what supports are available to assist in maintaining the Whole 30 lifestyle, permanently? I have experienced a sort of "all" or "nothing" with this. I either stick w/ food guidelines with fidelity or I don't and then one off plan choice leads to another and another and another... and hello 10 lbs!

Thanks for any help/suggestions you can share.  

You may want to check out the book Food Freedom Forever.  Melissa also just started a new podcast called Do The Thing with Whole30's Melissa Urban -- the first episode just came out today, and I haven't listened yet, but it is focused on why changes have not worked for you in the past.

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1 hour ago, AC16 said:

I'm wondering about the topic of "life after" a 30. I found myself able to "mostly" stay on track for months, but ever so slowly over the course of a year, I've returned to old "pre-30" habits (and gained 10 pounds too.) I realize this program is not about weight loss and I also realize I felt so much healthier when I was 10 pounds lighter and eliminating sugar, bread, and alcohol.  I'm on day 10 of my second whole 30 and wondering if  I can expect to experience similar results the second time around?  Also wondering what supports are available to assist in maintaining the Whole 30 lifestyle, permanently? I have experienced a sort of "all" or "nothing" with this. I either stick w/ food guidelines with fidelity or I don't and then one off plan choice leads to another and another and another... and hello 10 lbs!

Thanks for any help/suggestions you can share.  

Hi, AC16.  I did my W30 in March last year - so...wow, 13 months ago.  I have mostly managed to find an equilibrium that works for me - and I guess it's that every day is a new day (actually every meal is a new meal...) - and I've found that really freeing because if I do something "stupid" one night, I know when I wake up I can just eat my kale and eggs :) and RESTART (vs. letting that "another and another and another" continue).  Now granted, you can't do that every day or it's not really the lifestyle we are looking for!  I also think the re-introduction period is SUPER IMPORTANT because that is where you actually LEARN and that's where the power of choice gets activated.  So if you didn't really do that part (and honestly, I think it continues way after) then be sure you do that this second time.  For instance - I have learned that corn tortilla chips and salsa are pretty much my go-to "violation" (corn).  Do I eat them sometimes?   Yep.  And I learned through re-introduction that I'm going to get to be constipated for about 3 days afterwards.  After I did that a few times (yeah, I really love chips and salsa) I figured out that #1 there are grain-free tortilla chips (Siete brand) so I try to have those around instead and #2 it gives me something very specific to think about before I decide to grab corn chips.  It's not "oh, I know these are bad for me but I really want them..." it's "okay - I know these are going to stop me up for 2-3 days - what am I doing in the next 2-3 days and am I willing to add this discomfort to those experiences?" - that's pretty darn informative and makes it a different internal conversation.  But without the full-on re-introduction part of the W30 I would never have figured that out.  So, that's a long way around to say maybe that's what you do differently this time.  Sending you very good wishes!!!

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